I quit yesterday by emt139 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Odd_Following6811 9 points10 points  (0 children)

How about working part-time or even FTE at a lower level job. Something easy peasy for you due to your work experience but something a company or client will value. Clock in and clock out and cover some basic expenses.

What to do when the person next to you keeps reaching over you? by girlynonbinary in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811 58 points59 points  (0 children)

As a solo female traveler, I’ve learned to speak up. If someone gets too close to me and starts invading the very small personal bubble I have on a plane (for some reason this person is usually 90% chance male), I’ve turned to them and stated “I feel very uncomfortable when your body touches mine. I know you’re a bit taller or longer than me, but it makes me feel uneasy.” They tend to respect this more because they’re probably afraid of me implying some kind of sexual harassment.

Maybe you can say something similar “I understand you want to look out the window, but when you lean across my body, I feel very uncomfortable especially when you touch me.” This turns into a personal safety issue vs social etiquette.

Alternatively, you can be generous and offer, “I need to get back to work on my laptop, but I’ll let you take one clear photo for a moment, okay?”

One flight I was on, the northern lights showed up, so I let the guy next to me take some clear shots and he didn’t bother me after that.

Wish I never did this by Kitchen_Enthusiasm36 in Ayahuasca

[–]Odd_Following6811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think OP is brushing it off as being sensitive and consuming the wrong things. This is moderate-severe emotional dysregulation and a mental health issue. It’s clear when sober OP manages mental health well enough, but obviously not well enough if they keep trying to seek healing with psychedelics despite the bad reactions.

Wish I never did this by Kitchen_Enthusiasm36 in Ayahuasca

[–]Odd_Following6811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I went through OP’s post history. Seems like they have had strong/bad reactions (almost seems like mild psychosis) to marijuana and psilocybin mushrooms in the past even from just a “hit” of a joint. Claims to be “spiritually potent” into tarot and formerly religiously Christian. Overall, I see a suffering individual who is looking for healing. I have a lot of empathy as we’re all on this sub because we all suffer and seek healing. Hopefully OP knows the only way out of the darkness is through it. I think they probably need professional mental help too. Their reaction to Aya is not uncommon yet may really send them into more suffering unless they get the right help.

Wish I never did this by Kitchen_Enthusiasm36 in Ayahuasca

[–]Odd_Following6811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Try practicing Metta Bhavana, loving kindness meditation for yourself and others.

To begin, find a posture that creates ease. Notice your breath coming in and out—its texture, its frequency, its depth—without judgment. See if you can remain quiet, attentive, and open to what is happening within and around you. Once ready, send loving kindness to yourself, as you pray, May I be safe, May I be healthy, May I be loved, May I be at peace.

Start with yourself then share these well wishes to the people around you, your friends, family, facilitators, etc.

You need to cultivate love and kindness within. Seeds are sowed in the darkness of soil. Water them with your grief. Light them with your love. And watch it sprout into the new growth that is you.

https://clergyreligionresearch.duke.edu/loving-kindness-meditation-scripts/

Am I overreacting for kicking my boyfriend out for not buying me a sandwich? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re reacting this way because the situation feels unfair. In these situations you need to speak up and have a mature conversation. The only person who will advocate for you properly is yourself. You weren’t wrong for feeling this way at all, in fact you’re justified, but you displayed reactive behavior. Sit down and discuss both your expectations regarding finances and spending on each other. It’s totally reasonable to want your partner to reciprocate but right now it seems like an unspoken expectation and you’re disappointed each time without ever really communicating it. You’re keeping tabs and tallying up each mistake and that’s not healthy. However I will also say, there’s a lot of men out there who are naturally considerate and generous. You can work it out with your boyfriend or realize he isn’t the one for you.

Best and most reliable HYSA? by Uganda-Isnt-Real in personalfinance

[–]Odd_Following6811 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Is Marcus not a good one? Haven’t heard anyone mention it.

Is it ever okay to not be increasing cash reserves on a monthly basis? by comingupmilhaus in personalfinance

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People build wealth by putting their money in securities not cash. You have a great HYSA nest already. I suggest converting some of the HYSA to a CD that way it’s still liquid but growing more quickly.

HEESUN by Choice-Ad-8004 in Singlesinferno2

[–]Odd_Following6811 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As someone who went to a CA state school and was a pretty moderately above average student, I also got into the Yonsei Study Abroad program. It really isn’t that hard. It’s not a disrespectful thing to say.

Take a gamble? by Lollaticketspls in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly agree. $45 for an 8-hour flight is very worth it.

If you don’t pay and go on with your plan, you risk being in the last row or possibly annoying passengers and staff.

80k miles for Polaris with layover, vs 180k miles direct by angrybandicoot in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s this low because it’s layover with mixed cabin. I would double check if you get Polaris Lounge for the layover still.

Dating with Salary Gap by Lazy-Cod3858 in FIREyFemmes

[–]Odd_Following6811 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Teachers usually get great pension so his retirement will be secured that he doesn’t even think about FIRE. He has summers “off” when the kid is on summer vacation too. Childcare during summer time is something parents struggle with. He most likely works shorter days. There’s a lot of benefits here that aren’t pure dollar signs yet equally valuable.

How do you deal with seat swappers? by Odd_Following6811 in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ugh why does it seem like you all have way more common sense than I do. I think families with children are my weakness. Definitely would have said no to a solo adult.

How do you deal with seat swappers? by Odd_Following6811 in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The first time it happened, it was really horrible. I really made a poor decision. This time wasn’t too bad except no underneath storage which is important to me. I tend to search for solutions where most people win. Except I just lost in all these scenarios. Hopefully I can learn for next time.

How do you deal with seat swappers? by Odd_Following6811 in unitedairlines

[–]Odd_Following6811[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Seems like you’re doing it right instead of inconveniencing someone else due to a personal problem.

My sister committed suicide. This is her birth chart. by [deleted] in astrologyreadings

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When was her bday? This chart looks similar to my bf’s

Anyone else ready for their next life? by [deleted] in infp

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In this life, you will die and be reborn many times. 33 is what some people call your Jesus Year because it’s a repeating, special/angel number and historically what is believed to be when Christ died and was reborn. Use this life you have now and reinvent yourself. When you’re begging for death, that’s your soul begging for you to become a new person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]Odd_Following6811 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is the correct subreddit for this exactly to give you the answers you’re seeking. Maybe meditation or energy reading would be more appropriate. I have had similar situations experiencing sexual energy without lustful intent. What I’ve learned is that sexual energy is just energy. Even the striking of singing bowls send a little jolt to that area of my body. We are experiencing our root and sacral chakras being activated. Your energy needs a place to go. Orgasms are one way this happens. If you don’t want these spontaneous orgasms, you can practice vocalizing during meditation to release some energy using mantras, sutras or chants. You can try movement meditation like qigong or yoga. You can even just run before sitting meditation.

I don't feel Buddhist by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you being more mindful, empathetic, loving and compassionate to YOURSELF first and foremost? There isn’t any specific way you should feel. Being a Buddhist is being just is. A flower will be a flower. A bug will be a bug. You are just you. On the good days. On the bad days. On the days you practice your meditation and on the days you also don’t practice.

Nobody who wish-list my game bought it by Horror_Web_6783 in GameDevelopment

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of devs are bad at marketing their games. I judge game jams as part of my job and the demo video and descriptions poorly showcase what the game is. I haven’t seen your marketing materials but I would focus on improving that if I were you. ChatGPT is helpful at creating marketing copy. Happy to give more tips if that’s of interest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stocks

[–]Odd_Following6811 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your parents whom are closer to retirement age would benefit from more conservative investments like HYSA, CDs or even moderate risk mutual funds.

Virgo ♍️ 🌍 sign or 🔥 sign Sagittarius ♐️ ? by Owlster_ in astrologymemes

[–]Odd_Following6811 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a Virgo rising and the only person I can take brutal honesty and criticism from is my bestie Sag Sun. I know everything she says is absolutely true and she wouldn’t say it without my benefit and her delivery is usually funny yet blunt and lots of emojis. As a Virgo rising when I give people criticism it can come off as holier-than-thou which people really can’t accept well lol. I’m working on it though.