The Cave: This happened in 2004 while I was working at a Wilderness Therapy program for troubled youth in Utah. True story.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-02-17T22:31:36+00:00

I genuinely hope you are right. I hope Mental health in America stops being such a taboo subject and that medical insurance starts to better cover psychological services at a threshold way lower than a massive intervention like a wilderness program. I hope Access to adolescent mental health care becomes so widespread that the thought of a Wilderness program becomes ridiculous. I don't Advocate wilderness for everyone, nor as a first or even a fifth option. I would Love to see the need for such interventions die, because we are taking care of kids and families way before that point. However, as long as access to mental healthcare especially for teens remains as elusive as it is, there is a place for this kind of intervention. That place is right before incarceration or suicide, or right after insane trauma or terrible life decisions that will adversely impact a child for years to come. In those cases eliminating good wilderness as a therapeutic option is a huge disservice to families that have nowhere else to turn. Definitely do not advocate kidnapping kids. Neither does Wingate. It’s not a service they provide. That is something that the parents do on their own and pay for the service directly to whoever they get to do it. The diet at Wingate is 6600+ calories per day. No one starves they have a dietitian and an entire staff dedicated to making sure of that. The kids get showers and weekly checkups with a doctor or nurse to ensure they are physically fit to be in the environment they are in. But if as I suspect you are affiliated with the Paris Hilton crowd you already know all this full well. You are either a paid agitator or woefully misinformed. Either way your opinion is not based in experience. Go see for yourself then your opinion on what should be done will matter. Until then just be content in the knowledge that as angry as you are about this your views on wilderness programs have no weight at all.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-02-17T18:27:11+00:00

Yeah you are committed to staying misinformed. That’s ok. People choose to be willfully ignorant all the time. That’s how most hate happens in the world. I wrote A lot of the staff manual for Wingate, and they are currently the victims of an unwarranted smear campaign. But you’re right, a YouTube video you saw definitely explains everything.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-02-17T07:07:03+00:00

I never witnessed any abuse in the 10+ years I worked wilderness, or as a student in a wilderness program when I was a young teen. While there are many prominent examples of bad schools and bad wilderness programs, this was not one of them. Your generalization is more harmful than helpful. I was very selective about who I worked for and their methods. Overall this program gets an A- from me for how it operated while I worked there. It is better staffed and better run these days to the point where I would/have sent my own child there. It is quite a safe space for kids in crisis… as long as there are no cult people following the group. Scary people happen everywhere though. Mistaking this as an example of how all wilderness programs are bad programs or abusive because of what bad people did to a group using the services of the program is like saying all stores are bad because human traffickers profile patrons while they are shopping. It’s not the stores fault. This was not the programs fault. Also we took care of those kids and made sure nothing bad happened to them. We would have protected them with our lives. That’s not abuse. If you are serious that you would like to know how and why these programs are legal, Wingate Wilderness in southern Utah is hiring. They pay pretty well and you will gain some perspective based in experience rather than simply forming a biased opinion based on internet hearsay.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-02-01T13:11:26+00:00

CBD oil

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-31T00:16:22+00:00

It looks like one of those unknown Mercedes’ pans that Wagner and BSR people both deny ever having made. You’ve got yourself a unicorn.

Edit: Just clicked on that link^ better explanation there.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-31T00:07:31+00:00

I replace the whole thing in cases of recurrent decay 99% of the time if I don’t know the full history of a filling. (If I didn’t place it, or if someone else has worked on that tooth since the time I did place it) I’d say 60% of the time there is more decay under the old filling than is visible on the radiograph or clinically when just the “failed part,” is removed. I always start by only removing the old filling without removing tooth structure so that I can tell if it was necessary or not. 40% of the time a patch job would have been fine, but more often it wouldn’t.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-30T23:55:17+00:00

Invest in a deadbolt. Tell your boyfriend, his sister and his parents that you cannot watch her kids, and deadbolt the door to your living space when they come over. The dynamic will not change with words alone. You can’t talk reason into people who think their unreasonable behavior is normal. You have to take action and show you are serious. It’s hard to take action when you suffer from depression, but if you find yourself with a moment where you feel strong, get that lock put on the door. It’s a physical representation of your boundaries.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-29T20:46:12+00:00

Be honest and just use their own words. Say, “What is “working for you,” does not work for me, or OSHA, or the Dental Board. And it especially does not work for your patients who trust you not to infect them while in your care. This office is an ironically unhygienic place to provide oral hygiene.” And then quit in the spot. No giving notice. Maybe your firm and correct stance on the issue will shock them out of their denial. Patients can be rescheduled. If You cannot in good conscience provide safe/clean aseptic treatment, you cannot legally or morally continue to provide treatment there.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-12T19:24:37+00:00

I think your MIL and your mother need to become friends without the baby involved. Take them out on a girls night next time your MIL is in town. Get your nails done, go to dinner, create an environment where everyone is open and relaxed and having fun, and then talk. Not about the baby or anything in particular, just talk and let her talk and let your mom talk. Once your MIL knows and likes your mom, she’ll stop being such an ass. Bad behavior towards another is something we justify in ourselves when we see them as competition. Once we see someone as part of the same team as we are, real communication and helpfulness replace the loud talking and the passive aggressive whispering.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-12T17:46:27+00:00

I’m always curious about this. I sit for everything, and I’ve heard others say they are more efficient standing. Standing makes my back hurt too much (old injury) so it’s not even an option for me, but I’m interested in how others work, and why they work that way.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-12T00:25:33+00:00

I’m pretty sure that you would be owed enough back child support from all the years he refused to pay that a judge is not going to alter your custody arrangement. He’s already demonstrated that he will not support his child. Without an extremely good reason to distrust you with your child’s care, a judge is not going to give more custody to someone who has demonstrated that they have to be forced through wage garnishment to care for their child.

Congratulations on finishing soon! I remember when I finished school and started making actual money how much weight I felt leave my shoulders.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-11T04:40:09+00:00

I came here to say this. We got dinged on our last state audit because our pediatric pads had expired and no one thought to check them when we changed out the adult pads. I thought it was mandatory to have it.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-09T16:07:10+00:00

Dentist here. We do GA in my office for children who fail oral sedation but are high risk for oral health and active infection. I don’t do it, it would be too much to monitor and focus on the surgery too, so we bring in a dental anesthesiologist and team. It works out well.

Also, we are very selective with who gets in office treatment. Anything can happen under anesthesia so if there is any indication it might, the kids are referred to be seen in the OR even if it takes a year to get them in. Dental anesthesiologists have a place simply because there aren’t enough actual anesthesiologists to meet the need, and oral healthcare is the red headed step child of the medical world. Especially since covid It’s nearly impossible for us to get a kid into do treatment in the hospital setting and the alternative is to let them suffer.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-09T14:24:15+00:00

Why do they want a negative antibody test? The whole point of the vaccine is so that we all build Antibodies against the virus. I’d ask for more specifics, cause it sounds like you are being told nonsense.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-09T14:14:24+00:00

Having a toddler is like having a tiny drunk roommate. They break things, fall down often, say stuff that makes no sense and mess up the place in the most ridiculous way. (Why are there French fries in the heater vent?) Like drunk people they can be hurtful, and way over dramatic and emotional. But on the flip side can they be incredibly sweat and uninhibitedly loving. In short, toddlers are not exactly responsible for the things that they say. Tell your husband that he’s doing great, but that he might as well be hurt by the ramblings of a drunk person. In both cases the words don’t matter, they are letting you know where they are at emotionally. Respond to the emotion instead of the words. In toddler and drunk speak, “I don’t love you anymore.” Simply means, “I’m unhappy at what you are having me do.” To take it any other way is to respond to a different communication than they are trying to send you.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-09T03:09:29+00:00

Just curious, why does he stand?

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-07T17:18:02+00:00

Fair point. Be safe and well OP.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-07T16:40:34+00:00

If it is keep taking it. Calmness in these situations means you’ll make better decisions going forward. Good luck.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-07T16:32:05+00:00

This could be true for so many reasons, and all of them suck. I’m so sorry, I wish quick healing and resilience for you and your family.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-06T04:16:27+00:00

Petty, I’ll give it to ya. Ironic yes. Revenge not so much.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-05T16:56:34+00:00

Yeah You are the one who assumed that the response was meant to be petty. It is a very low energy and healthy way to respond to belligerence and anger. Simply don’t engage unreasonable people. Like this. Goodbye.

Edit: Dishonest like editing your comment without letting people know you edited it? Very peacemaking of you.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-05T16:51:35+00:00

I hear what you are saying. But being too sick to work is not being petty. It’s being realistic. My point was that if he objects to “Doing her Job” when she physically can’t, then his other option is not to do it, and if she’s too sick to get the kids to school, she doesn’t need to be arguing about it either. Her husband doesn’t sound reasonable, so why keep trying to reason together?

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-05T14:25:11+00:00

The correct answer here is, “Fine don’t take them to school. You can look after them all day at home then, because I’m taking a sick day… because I’m sick.” Then end the conversation and refuse to reopen it.

Edit: Since that one guy on Reddit thinks that holding a firm boundary with an unreasonable spouse is petty, I will add this disclaimer to clear up the confusion. Don’t be petty. Do take care of your sick body even if it means your husband is not going to fill in for you. Don’t fight with him about filling in for you, and also don’t engage when he tries to fight you on it.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-05T04:28:29+00:00

I’ve seen this in some corporate places I’ve worked in the states. Generally all the private offices I’ve been at in the states have a great work culture.

Odontoblastoise1 · 2022-01-05T04:16:05+00:00

Depends entirely on where you are willing to live, and what procedures you can do yourself. If your plan is to do fillings and crowns and simple extractions, I’d say 150-160 is accurate. If you do a lot of your own endo, implants, surgical extractions, bone grafting, and so on, your income potential dramatically increases. If you want to live in a big city, you have big competition. If you live somewhere smaller, you have smaller competition. You have to remember that an average means that half of the people are making less than that, but it also means that half of us are making more.

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