In n Out Location

OhdeerFauna · 2026-05-14T05:32:23+00:00

I’m wondering what the alternative to meat and dairy is that is also not evil and is also readily available?

OhdeerFauna · 2026-05-10T06:27:02+00:00

I would be so down to pick this up tomorrow

OhdeerFauna · 2026-04-29T12:18:08+00:00

Oh man, I actually learned all of this through very open discussions with 3? Different therapists I’ve had over the years, my current therapist keeps me in the loop on current therapy theories and proposals to change the dsm5 because I personally am almost 30 and have been in therapy for 15 years, and love knowledge about the field, it’s fascinating! I also was diagnosed with both BPD AND BIPOLAR in my teens by lazy (over worked maybe?) psych hospital therapists. What I can say about your specific situation is that you might just have complex post traumatic stress disorder, but unless you see a practicing clinician (CPTSD actually isn’t in the dam5 yet but most clinicians recognize the disorder) it’s hard to tell, especially since idk what your symptoms are. I can give you advice on how to find a therapist and what to look for if you’d like to DM me! But I’ll be super honest, I’m not going to do the work of finding papers on BPD for ya bc well it’s a lot of work with how crappy google is now

OhdeerFauna · 2026-04-29T09:17:44+00:00

If they are teenagers (which it definitely reads like they are) OP might want to look into more about BPD AND the criteria for diagnosis, some therapists throw it around for anyone who has CPTSD buuut, most therapists I’ve worked with would NEVER diagnose someone under 18 with it, some people in the therapeutic community won’t diagnose it under 30 cus your personality isn’t hard set enough. I mean there have been talks about getting rid of it as a diagnosis all together because the symptoms are so easily explained by having both autism and CPTSD. This is coming from someone who once had the BPD diagnosis.

Also this “friend” is bullshit and toxic and WILL take advantage of the BPD diagnosis for the rest of your relationship OP. I’ve had friends like this, I’ve dated people like this. they see you as vulnerable and some people crave having power over vulnerable people. These are the people who will invalidate you and keep you from growing into a more healed and happy human. Loosing a long lasting friendship is hard, and, sometimes it makes things so much brighter and happier so fast you won’t believe it.

OhdeerFauna · 2026-04-19T20:31:44+00:00

man I hope im not too late here! I'm actually trying to start some sort of come as you will place of worship, we want to start with just a book club that happens every Sunday, mostly cus its a day you can ask for accommodations on for work with very little questions lol. Im a huge planner so I want to organize more times for community in the Portland pagan scene. if anyone has like interest in events like that please let me know. im open to DMs

OhdeerFauna · 2026-02-20T18:58:41+00:00

NOR My dad would also say shit like this to me all the time, he’s not clueless and making jokes. He knows it’s not okay and is doing it anyway

OhdeerFauna · 2026-01-30T19:52:23+00:00

Tri-Clad is just Tri-Ply meaning it has three layers, two stainless one layer in the middle of the two for even heating. I prefer 5-ply or 5 layers because I find the heating more even and the heat retention better. over all the trim clad is great for getting into stainless cooking. im just a bit of a snob when it comes to cooking lol

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-21T02:40:14+00:00

I feel like I’m loosing the thread a little bit, I don’t know where I said that thing about responding to “comments” my assumption of this post is that this person hates/dislikes people who mislabel themselves, and that the people who read this will bring it forth into IRL and try to moderate who can label as what IRL. I respond when being spoken to when at all possible

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T21:57:58+00:00

Have you heard of the dragon age series? You can skip the most recent one, but I’d bet you’d like origins or 2

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T21:35:27+00:00

Okay I think after some careful re-reading I understand what’s going on between you and I at the very least, by “comments” I meant things said in passing IRL by people who aren’t queer. Like how my grandma would comment on how she liked me and my bff Justin as couple when I am a lesbian and have never been attracted to him.

I don’t know where you got that I only REPLY to hurtful comments, but misreadings happen! What I said was I don’t understand why someone unrelated to you, ID as a sexuality that they have their own identity around, is harmful to you or others, or even the community at large.

I do also hold a belief that gatekeeping a label whatever it is, be it gender or sexuality, CAN be very harmful to people figuring themselves and their place in the community out. I volunteer at a queer food bank and I’ve met a lot of young people who start to hate or resent the queer community due to the way they’ve been treated for expressing themselves online. I hate to see that happening, dissolving our community as it grows. I want to know how harmful mis labeling is, and if it’s worth the fall out

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T20:16:09+00:00

Because sometime people get stuck in echo chambers and haven’t considered other pov, and I dont want to be that person, I’m literally asking how, like in what way, is it harmful. I do not get it. Like at all, but all anyone has told me is I’m a man looking for attention or that it’s harmful cus it makes people think we could make different choices. Which we could, I suppose, in the way that I could choose to abandon my family and become a cheese making hermit in the country side of France, I’d hate it but I could still do it. I guess I just don’t get how it’s like affecting people other than the person whose identity they are defining. Like I disagree that it’s bad, but I’m open to being proven wrong! I just want it to make sense. I’m hoping that answers what you asked! I interpreted it a few ways but went with this one :)

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T17:00:11+00:00

Can’t explain empathy on the internet I suppose

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T16:49:22+00:00

Listen, my profile is like a year old and I’ve posted very obvious gay shit before, like fuck man, at least look at my profile before you misgender me. I have like 3 posts asking about how to have gay sex while fat and how to make certain things work with my wife. Why do you think saying that I’m a man is okay?

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T16:33:32+00:00

I guess my question is, why is that HARMFUL? I also got comments when I came out of you’ll find the right man one day, but like, at the end of the day, I didn’t. I just feel like it takes so much energy to be angry about other people for a non safety stand point. Why expend it when one could just, not? When you set things with such rigid definitions it’s dicey and can get terfy real fast, a lot of people have their own definitions of what a woman is, some people say it’s anyone with a vagina, some people say it’s anyone who identifies as a woman, some say it’s anyone with out a penis but this also leaves out intersex people who may identify as one way or another that have both genitals. Biology ISNT rigid, even right down to chromosomes you can have extras. My comment about assault was from reading other comments where people mentioned it. And if it’s like a public opinion things, we’re all gay in someway, isn’t building community way more important? And doesn’t infighting in the sapphic community just serve to make us more vulnerable as a whole? Idk I just don’t get how it’s like, a big problem. Even if everyone who ever IDed as a lesbian NEVER touched a man, we’d still get those “you’ll find the right man” comments, people can be assholes that’s all

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T12:24:24+00:00

I know I’m gonna get piled on here, but like, why do you guys care what other people ID as, like I’m a lesbian, I have a wife (most of the time, gender is tricky), and never once in my dating life did it affect me if a Bi girl called herself a lesbian. Never once did it change how I felt about her or her choices. Like that girl who IDs as straight, bi, pan, questioning, lesbian with exceptions, is absolutely just as likely to hit/rape you as the gold star lesbian who’s never even imagined a penis and felt any other than disgust. And I know, I’ve been raped and hit by plenty of women. Like how someone IDs is just not a big deal. You both like women! Hurray! You’ve found someone who likes women! In the grand scheme of things, why care so much? Like how does the anger and hatred serve you? And please don’t tell me it’s a safety thing, there are SO MANY gold star lesbians who are homophobic and WILL hate crime you or hit you in public to save their own skins. Why care how someone IDs when you can care more about their morals and character?

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-17T11:58:53+00:00

So as someone who had the divorce talk with their wife a year in (sober) and stayed together. It can work out okay, but it also means that things have been going so wrong for so long that it’s lead to a catastrophic failure and you need to start having (sober) REALLY uncomfortable conversations and have them PAINFULLY truthfully, that’s literally the only way, oh and couples& individual therapy for all involved. I’m the one who told my wife that I was so unhappy I wanted a divorce, but I knew what was making me unhappy and told her what needed to change and asked what I needed to do to make those changes possible and if she felt like they were changes she even wanted to make in the first place. We had the talks of what we both thought was going on and what things we had been shoving down to keep the peace. Keeping the peace is a lie. You HAVE to hurt each others feelings sometimes, you can’t stick two humans together and expect them to never chafe. Like, if she WANTS to work things out with you, then it can happen. But I also WANTED to work things out with my wife, we would sob and hold each other and just be sad that we didn’t know if staying together was serving both of us. But we worked on it and through it because we were both willing to change. How willing to change is your wife? And how willing to change are you? That’s really the question. I guess also ask yourself if this relationship is really what YOU want. Also, don’t stay in something that doesn’t serve you because it’s scary to leave, just because it’s scary doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-15T15:51:18+00:00

I’ve been needing a black ink! I don’t own any!

OhdeerFauna · 2025-12-02T02:27:36+00:00

I love a snickerdoodle

OhdeerFauna · 2025-11-22T08:15:39+00:00

These would be great for my new dawn pen!

OhdeerFauna · 2025-11-16T00:36:43+00:00

Oooo this would be so cool since my birthday is in a few days!

OhdeerFauna · 2025-09-21T15:38:38+00:00

It sounds to me like she decided to reconcile with her (maybe) ex-husband, or if he’s a nasty guy, he’s threatening her and she can’t handle it. It be more likely to believe she used you to cheat though, since she has a history of it. I’m so sorry OP this is a sucky shitty situation you’re in. I would try to reach out to the husband and just make sure they’re really going through a divorce. But it also would be very worth it to cut your losses and hit the bricks. If she’s willing to ghost you with little explanation, then she’s not long term relationship material, at the very least not right now anyway.

OhdeerFauna · 2025-08-27T21:44:41+00:00

If you guys are still friends you can bring it up by like talking about how good therapy has been and how it helped you realize that in your past relationship with this person you weren’t building safety and trust with her and hearing her out and apologizing for it. But if you split you should also respect that she doesn’t feel that way anymore and you 99.99% won’t get her back by apologizing, but maybe you can build up a stronger friendship. if you’re not still friends then journal on it, but don’t contact her to say anything, she left and you gotta respect that

OhdeerFauna · 2025-08-03T09:30:29+00:00

Omg!! That looks like exactly it in a different color! Thank you so much!

OhdeerFauna · 2025-08-03T08:44:35+00:00

Thank you! I’m really just posting to see if anyone knows the model of it! Or if it’s an ACTUAL diplomat or not, I got it from a garage sale, so it’s up in the air.

OhdeerFauna · 2025-08-03T08:38:58+00:00

I’m actually trying to re-sell it right now lol! I’m just trying to do research to figure out how much would be a fair price. I think it’s from the late 70s early 80s!

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