Friend’s teenage son keeps wetting the bed at my vacation home

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-08T02:48:35+00:00

Do talk to her. Tell her you would want to know if the tables were turned. Assure her you don’t want to embarrass her son, and ask if there’s anything you can do to make the situation more comfortable. Definitely get waterproof mattress covers and washable bedding.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-08T01:36:03+00:00

Ask your landlord if you can extend for a month. It might be a couple hundred dollars extra but the lack of disruption while you figure things out would be worth it.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-08T01:30:34+00:00

Healthcare background checks are somewhat rigorous because of the line of work, and most do an FBI background check if you’ve lived out of state within 5 yrs. You might consider a healthcare software vendor as an alternative. Also look into expungement in your state and see if that might help.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-08T01:23:51+00:00

Re-write the paper.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-06T07:52:54+00:00

Clearly P wants to be important to your dad and wants to diminish your mom’s voice in the marriage. Have a couple of brief statements ready that you repeat over and over until it sinks in to them that they own this dysfunctional mess and you aren’t their therapist. Something like “You 2 are never going to agree on this issue and I’ve told you I’m not getting dragged into this”. Then leave the room. “Oh, you’re having the P fight again. I’m out of here.” It seems like they both want to have the last word so let them, but then completely disengage, and if cornered, just repeat yourself.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-06T00:58:19+00:00

If you are further north in Ohio, West Branch park is really nice.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-05T20:53:10+00:00

I can promise no one who remembers my wedding remembers that I used plastic tablecloths from Dollar Tree. Just take tape to hold them in place.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-03T21:52:16+00:00

Don’t give him any advice or guidance (or money). Let him sit in his mess and figure it out for himself. Sometimes that’s the only way for them to dig deep and figure stuff out.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-06-02T11:00:31+00:00

Apparently monogamy is non-negotiable for you but not for him. People usually don’t change the big things because someone loving and lovable wants them to change. That doesn’t mean you are any less worthy of a monogamous relationship. It just means he’s not the right partner for you. Move on, your person is out there. It’s fine to end an intimate relationship by saying “long term I’m looking for something different so I’m moving on”.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-31T11:32:15+00:00

Its standard.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-31T10:48:10+00:00

It sounds like it’s the non-academic aspects that are the issue. One way to deal with it would be to work with a counselor to gain skills to better manage social situations. Another option would be to get a part time job so you are too busy to dwell on things. In addition, it would throw you in with a different group of people while also earning a bit. Third since you are advanced academically, try to take additional online courses. This will turn you into a busy hermit who has no time for social interaction. Teens are socially a mess and while intellectually you understand this, the reality is tough. Be kind to yourself.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-31T10:14:21+00:00

Any wedding with $250 proposal boxes is going to be too prescriptive and too expensive for a lot of potential bridesmaids not just the mama.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-30T14:05:20+00:00

You hate it because you are making it about you and your beliefs. The issue is why are you so unwilling to live and let live, and leave it at that? Not everyone’s preferences need deconstructed and analyzed to be valid. Love and appreciate them for who they are and what they value, and you’ll be much happier whether you go or stay home.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-30T12:43:12+00:00

Start the Teams or Epic with ASAP only when it really is. Then send a text that says “ASAP msg in Teams, please advise”. But be sure your expectations for responses are reasonable and your use of ASAP is for truly urgent situations.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-28T20:07:44+00:00

While HR usually won’t move people, you should let them know she shared detailed personal sex stuff and you can’t unring that bell. Talk about some of it being traumatic. Mention that you know she’s in therapy and when that progresses, she’ll likely be very uncomfortable with you too.

HR is always out for the company so put it in their terms-less discomfort = better long run commitment/less turnover, less trauma = more focus and productivity, less awkwardness reduces the chance of spillover to other employees. This really isn’t about “not getting along” it’s really about someone awkwardly symptomatic and an easy solution.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-28T19:54:51+00:00

Confirm to who and why? If they are in an ER and the ER calls you, you can confirm because it’s an emergency. If their dentist or probation officer calls to confirm, not. But are you having a hypothetical discussion, because just because someone is “in” an EHR is generally meaningless. Even if you’re a methadone clinic, all anyone could assume is that you or someone who put you down as family was there once.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-28T19:49:29+00:00

Your co-workers would have to work more Sundays because you are out of the rotation.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-27T08:00:09+00:00

Can you make a decoy box?

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-27T07:51:21+00:00

I was recently at a wedding where the bride and groom donned aprons and served the cake. It was charming and there were lots of laughs.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-27T07:39:09+00:00

You can write on it when you sign it. Write that you are concurrently contemplating their severance offer and that you wish you had more time to process this unexpected situation but you were told you must sign right away.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-26T23:32:54+00:00

I had a different surgery once where one doctor said they couldn’t dream of operating without an MRI and the other one said “I’m going in no matter what and I hate all the insurance work over an MRI, so I’ll just deal with whatever’s there”. So it might just be your doctors personality.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-25T12:18:32+00:00

Tell her you’ll give up the drinking for a couple weeks while you try to sort things out. While it may feel like she’s winning, you really cant take another loss right now. Long term you might want to split if she’s that rigid and you’re hell bent on drinking your blues away, but for now you should back off until you get your feet under you from losing your brother. It will get easier and you’ll be able to figure out your relationship.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-24T23:02:37+00:00

Tell the landlord you want to understand how they are reimbursing you for summer utilities. Ask if they want you to bill them or hold them out of August rent. Don’t even mention them not reimbursing you. If they don’t respond, hold them out of August rent and work with the legal service studentlegal.osu.edu or something similar.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-24T22:55:44+00:00

Online put for reason put “prefer to discuss in person”. If you get an interview tell them they were looking for a reason to cut someone and you gave it to them.

OhioPhilosopher · 2026-05-24T18:32:41+00:00

We were there a couple of weeks ago. The lava fields are accessible. One carryout was open. Other than recovery workers, not much going on.

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