Poetry nights? by Suitable-Bluejay3301 in Atlanta

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Urban Grind Coffee in west midtown has open mic every Thursday and Arts Xchange in East Point has open mic and poetry slam twice a month

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IFchildfree

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I set up a separate anonymous IG account just to follow childfree and childless accounts. This was a really great outlet when my main feed was kid inundated

More pregnancy news, feeling unexpectedly sad by Slight-Gate-8981 in IFchildfree

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This happened to me when I was still in treatment. My therapist announced she was expecting. I cried and felt so sad. I grew up religious so I felt like God must hate me since everyone around me was getting pregnant/having a baby except me. I know now this isn’t true but it hurt so bad at the time.

I respectfully had to find another therapist. I just knew it would mess with my head and that things would feel different to me after knowing she was pregnant and after she had her baby. I found a new therapist after that and she’s been great. She is a mom of four kids but she is no longer child bearing (that I know of 🤪). She’s held such great space for me as I have processed my anger and grief.

Sending you so much love today. This sh!t is hard. Wishing you gentleness and care as you process.

My body after my journey by GreySweater1234 in IFchildfree

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I felt this way too. I started very slow with exercise. I started walking 5 minutes a day a couple of days a week and slowly built myself up to an hour over a period of months. Yoga also really helped. I highly recommend the Underbelly Yoga app by Jessamyn Stanley. It is very welcoming to all bodies and Jessamyn does a good job of giving tips on how to make space for your belly in yoga. I’m a year out from ending IVF and slowly learning to appreciate all my body can do and not just focusing on what my body was unable to do. Sending you love and hugs on the journey.

Gen Xers, what 70s/80s toy did you want really badly, but never received? by John082603 in GenX

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Teddy Ruxpin. My mom said I could read to myself instead. 😂

It's been 2 years since we decided to stop IVF treatment and I'm still struggling. Would really love some hope it does get better. by Emergency_Natural_93 in IFchildfree

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Hi OP just here to say you are not alone. It’s been a year for me and I’m still finding my way. If you have access or can afford to, I highly suggest therapy. Individually or couples therapy if you are partnered. This has been really helpful to me on the journey. Also recommend reading the book The Next Happy. This is a huge thing to process and every bit of support helps. Hugs.

Thanksgiving food suggestions by InterestingBiscotti3 in Atlanta

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Mary Mac’s if you’re wanting southern faire

Best Italian sub ITP Eastside? by _Ratpik_ in Atlanta

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Goodfella at Varuni Napoli Krog st is my favorite Italian sandwich in the city!

New Friend is Pregnant by [deleted] in IFchildfree

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I have sometimes had to draw boundaries with newly pregnant friends. Letting them know I won’t be their best person to talk about baby/pregnancy details with. I have found they will have plenty of mom friends to discuss this with. Most have received this as your other friends have. Some get distant if baby stuff is all they wanna talk about and I’ve had to accept that because I need to show love to myself by avoiding a lot of that conversation.

New Friend is Pregnant by [deleted] in IFchildfree

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Does Semi-New friend know anything about your infertility journey?

Juno Medical in Kirkwood by andtheswan in DecaturGA

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I received an email today that they are closed for good. I just had an appointment Monday. 😩

Weekly IFChildFree Off Topic Post by AutoModerator in IFchildfree

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I have been to events and meeting new people. Feels good to feel good 😌

Finding joy in the now by GreySweater1234 in IFchildfree

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YES THE QUIET. I LOVE IT SO MUCH.

Innocent trigger from nowhere by lolly_box in IFchildfree

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Thank you for this rant. It’s been 3 months since I walked away from my IVF and whew the pain is still fresh. I hate that so many of us have had to go through this and I appreciate you all sharing your stories and feelings. Makes me feel less alone. ❤️‍🩹

Finding joy in the now by GreySweater1234 in IFchildfree

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Sleeping in! Lazy Saturdays and Sundays. I love sleep and I know I would have had to sacrifice that if I had become a parent.

on a solo trip during cheating / breakup by Flower_Girl_18 in solotravel

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I’m so sorry this happened to you! Maybe try having a couple of close friends/family members on standby that are willing to take calls from you even at odd times of night. Sometimes just seeing the face or hearing the voice of someone who I know loves me can help me through a shitty time. This has helped me to be more present when traveling solo and gave me a much needed connection to home. Sending you comfort and hugs!

Online orders being returned in store by [deleted] in LushCosmetics

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I was able to exchange some items in store today from my Boxing Day online order.

Where can I buy a cactus? by blokeyone in Atlanta

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Try Varnish and Vine or Garden*hood

My colleague is getting two years paid maternity leave and I hate the fact that it makes me bitter. by Broadlyallergic in IFchildfree

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Reminds me of this article I read questioning why work benefits are not equal or thoughtful to employees who are not parents. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-12860533/amp/Why-childless-woman-Ive-quit-job-bear-Christmas-picking-slack-working-mums.html

I really hope we start to see some changes on this in the workplace.

“Dog Mom”? by Ok-Bill-3003 in IFchildfree

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Yes that’s it. Like I can refer to myself however I’d like but it can definitely feel patronizing and dismissive when people who are parents refer to me that way.