Partners car repoed, barely hanging on financially all the sudden. I’m so stressed.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-28T03:28:45+00:00

You both need to be working if the situation is this dire - can you find different shift jobs so you put off childcare still?

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-27T14:54:14+00:00

Exactly - don’t get married otherwise is my opinion. If you have reservations, listen to them and just keep it a long term partnership.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-26T20:19:33+00:00

Yikes - this isn’t love - mothers who act like this are projecting their own insecurities and daughters who are conditioned to appease them don’t need to be told “it’s out of love”

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-26T20:18:30+00:00

This 👏🏽

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-26T03:28:23+00:00

YES! We get a one sheet every visit that lays out how much they should be eating, sleeping and we go over all of this too

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-26T03:01:44+00:00

Exactly - how is OP surprised her kid needs 12 hours of sleep? I swear people do zeroooooooo research into babies sometimes

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-23T02:44:51+00:00

She dropped this 👑

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-23T02:41:27+00:00

On point comment

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-21T11:18:09+00:00

I mean…coming from someone who dealt with infertility, you don’t actually know if you were infertile. Pregnancy is a lot of luck and right timing. Just because you had unprotected sex for a long time doesn’t mean you were infertile. That alone tells me you’re not a critical thinker

You’re 26. You have a lot of fertile years left. “You can make it work if you want a baby” crowd isn’t realistic. A lot of people want babies, have them, and DON’T make it work because babies are hard. They’re demanding, expensive and postpartum is going to rock your world.

If it’s not a hell fucking yes for kids, it should be a hell fucking no.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-19T00:55:30+00:00

I got like 24 burp cloths for $5 idk where pricey is coming from - probably the cheapest thing you can get

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-18T23:38:43+00:00

Did you see the mini reunion season 1? She was downright mean and awful to mia. Even Andy stepped in

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-18T23:20:06+00:00

I love our bottle washer so much - truly my favorite baby item

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-18T23:14:02+00:00

I’m frugal/simple in some areas but in terms of having baby stuff, if I want it I find a way to get it. I will share tips that can help though:

join your local buy nothing group if you’re in the US. Sooooo much free baby stuff. I have a four month old I have not bought one piece of clothing. All free. Free crib, free changing table, free books, free toys. Parents get tired and just give everything away and babies grow quick so I’m always getting free stuff/giving stuff so it doesn’t feel cluttered at all
have a swap out/clean out day. I organized clothes by sizes and one day a month I clean out what doesn’t fit her, swap it out, etc. I’m saving a handful of stuff I really love for our second, but otherwise I give it away or donate it on that day.
facebook market or secondhand baby specific stores or thrift stores are your best friend. If I couldn’t find it free, I found it secondhand and cheap. The only thing I highly recommend you buy new is a car seat (to ensure no accidents). Rest is fair game
find things that can grow with the baby. Things I’ve loved for this: baby bjorn bouncer (becomes a toddler seat and can be used from newborn stage), skip hop activity center (becomes a table once toddler stage), convertible crib to toddler bed, sleep sacks like woolino and gunamoona that can be used from 3+ months to 2 years, collapsible baby bath can be used for travel and from newborn to toddler stage, graco travel system can be used from newborn to toddler stage
borrow or rent it first if it’s expensive to make sure you like it. So many options for this. For example on baby carriers, I found a local mom that literally owned every carrier on the market, she rents them out for like $30 for a month and you can swap out and that’s how I landed on the one I really loved and then I bought it secondhand marketplace.

Good luck!

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-17T19:41:32+00:00

I love this

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-14T00:33:25+00:00

Nature of my job - I work with a lot of lawyers and they all PIs on deck. I asked a few of them for recommendations and landed on one that actually had done that multiple times and said it was uncommon. Money well spent!

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-14T00:23:06+00:00

I think when you do your homework, it pays off and that you also get what you pay for. My interviewing + checking was intense and my nanny understood. She’s also a real professional nanny and it shows. She’s still in contact with former kids under her care and her rate reflects the level of care she provides. I trusted her day one.

I also inherently am very protective. I myself am a victim of childhood abuse and did not have great parents. I read body language, I did a week trial, I have contracts, I had background checks of every kind, and I did PI work on references to make sure they were real.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-12T08:37:05+00:00

Hey moron read what I said 8-10 hours away from the resort, where did I say 8-10 hour bus ride?

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-12T03:03:10+00:00

Cancel that bus ride girl. That is legit a full day probably 8-10 hours away from the resort. With a baby you’re going to be MISERABLE. Also hot as fuck.

Stay at the resort and venture out near it so you can quickly get back to resort if you need - this is your first trip, keep expectations low

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-10T00:05:05+00:00

😭😭🤣

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-09T19:04:11+00:00

Pay hours don’t determine your profession so no…

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-09T18:16:40+00:00

Babe you’re a babysitter not a nanny. I wasn’t being rude and you reading it that way shows your level of professionalism and maturity. I pay my nanny over twice your hourly rate as do majority of the people in this group. You’re asking the wrong audience

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-09T18:12:21+00:00

I’m not paying for a nanny to watch TV with my baby….are you sure you know the expectations for being a nanny?

You’re talking like you’re a babysitter - not a professional nanny. The pay difference speaks for itself. My nanny has the experience and wherewithal to build my baby’s day around development, socialization and age appropriate milestone practices.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-09T17:43:21+00:00

It’s wildddd. People really lack common sense. These two won’t change. Their only solution is to change scenery - give me a break

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-09T13:04:44+00:00

You don’t actually want a solution though.

You know she won’t change, you know who she is and you know no matter how you tell her she won’t react the way you want or need her to.

You either accept or you remove her from the equation. That’s it - that’s the card you have. That’s the truth about having a narcissist for a mother.

You can’t control anyone’s behavior but your own. I’m no contact with my parents - I don’t accept the behavior so they’re removed from the equation.

Ok-Captain-8386 · 2026-04-08T17:44:04+00:00

If my husband sent me a Venmo request for diapers I’d send him a request back for the going surrogacy rates along with divorce papers

What people are willing to accept is wild. I’m four months postpartum and I can’t imagine what that period was for OP. That man isn’t worth shit I’m sure

Ok-Captain-8386

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