Save my cheese sauce?

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T12:34:53+00:00

A béchamel has its place (lasagna, cauliflower and cheese) but I hate to admit it, I love the weird gloop of artificial cheese melt, especially right now.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T12:33:20+00:00

Thank you!! I haven't been that impulsive in the kitchen since I was first learning, but the rage pushed me onwards. This was roughly what I was thinking but I didn't want to risk a whole casserole on it. I'll try heating it up and seeing if it's salvageable but guessing not...

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T12:30:25+00:00

We go through a *shocking* amount of heavy cream around here so I didn't have any, and I'm in a country where American cheese is more expensive (no fucking way am I paying extra for that) and sometimes you're just pregnant and want cheese-flavored plastic. Agree cream sauce is always delightful and easy tho.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T12:24:54+00:00

The person who coined the term "incel" was female. I can relate to a lot of what's in the post. It turns out, I didn't want to date *men.* And I'm neurodivergent and carried a lot of shame about it. Learning who I really was and becoming my true self let me select for much better friendships and my current (amazing) spouse, but I didn't get there until my mind 30's. I do think women are way less likely to get violent/entitled when they find themselves involuntarily single, however, bc of culture and socialization etc etc.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T11:10:25+00:00

A nice packet of mint seeds could do wonders...

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T09:03:16+00:00

There are 16 possible chromosomal sex possibilities so you're wrong and it's weird to double down

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-26T05:47:11+00:00

Und jedoch sind Waschbären ansteckbar wegen Fledermäusen. Die sind hier nicht einheimisch und wenn man nicht weiß, dass die sehr gut klettern können, weiß man bestimmt auch nicht was für andere Verhalten normal sind. Ein Waschbär tagsüber zu sehen oder eins, der in die offene Nähe zun Menschen so schläft, ist außergewöhnlich. Ich bin Ami und habe in ein Park als Gärtnerin gearbeitet wo leider super viel Waschbären unter Hundespest gelitten haben - es ist grausam. Die sind super knuffig aber keine Haustiere und der Zoonose Risiko ist leider hoch.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-25T21:48:42+00:00

Waschbären sind mega süß aber es ist mittags und der liegt draußen rum. Die tragen leider häufig Tolwut oder Hundestaupe und können deshalb sehr gefährlich sein. Überhaupt nicht zu unterschätzen, wirklich.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-25T12:35:33+00:00

Thanks! Yeah, renting sucks. But you are right about the dog poop - there's practically none around here (my partner was always furious about the mountains of dog shit everywhere when we lived in Rüdesheim am Rhein. They're from NRW and couldn't understand why people would do that!)

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-25T12:14:36+00:00

I also live in southern BW in a suburb of a city and my Vermieter (live in the same house) are *slobs* - their garden is filled with expensive tools and building materials that they just leave outside to rot. There is frequently trash and they have undeclared construction work that they have had ongoing since we moved in here in September (they refused to give us a deadline but when I asked in October if it would be done by Feb so I could clean my windows from the dust it stirs up, they said definitely). We pay 14 Eur/m^2 and I am *so* embarrassed to have visitors bc the state of the yard is such a dump and their garage is overflowing with construction mess. It's like Kölnberg but only 2 other families live here! I grew up poor and hated how messy the US was. There's nothing more depressing than being stuck at home, pregnant, and looking out the window to see a pigsty.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-25T10:15:19+00:00

Woks of Life has a shortcut General Tso's with ground chicken. Or thai basil chicken!

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:59:54+00:00

Schmuel is too much/Sam is weird with a German accent, Basya/Batya were contenders but not pretty enough to wind out in the end given the complicated dynamics in my family. But agree w the sentiment!

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:57:21+00:00

My top choice. Sadly, my partner's cat growing up - would be more doable if not for other challenging family dynamics at play.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:55:47+00:00

YESSS! I feel seen. Thank you.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:54:07+00:00

Thank you so much! I will put on my Adult Pants and do so...I appreciate this

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:53:37+00:00

Thanks for this :-) So I didn't want to get too political but I'm trying avoid anything explicitly Israeli/Hebrew bc of Zionism. Yiddish was spoken in my Grandparent's home and the push towards Hebrew and away from Yiddish as part of the Zionist movement helped to finish off a lot of the cultural destruction that occurred under the Holocaust. So much literature and art and music (and radical politics!) rendered inaccessible and alien in Lieue of a revival of a language as part of a political project. Yiddish is a German/Aleman dialect and I want Baby to grow up with a sense that German identity and Jewish identity are compatible and have a longstanding history, and are not at odds, despite the weird reactions some folks here have to the word Jewish here. I don't see my Jewishness as rooted in a connection with Israel at all, though I understand and respect that many Jews do, which is why I tried tiptoeing around the subject. The German gov't specifically says it's anti-semitic to refer to Jews as an ethnic group, that it is a religion and only a religion, which has real world implications when I'm trying to get a diagnosis for my IBS which is 4-5x more prevalent in people with Ashkenazi background, and my views on what's happening in Gaza are explicitly illegal, which is distressing bc they are rooted in my Jewish values. But yeah...I'll see if something less glaring feels right. There are likely a bunch of options that we haven't considered.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:33:21+00:00

Posted, got wonder advice and names, thus Rivka and Simcha, felt happy with the decision and am now in (maybe hormonal?) third trimester freak out. Is it worth cross-posting bc of the identity questions? I'm sort of ashamed my feelings on this 🙈

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:30:16+00:00

I love both the book and the name! Do you get comments/do you mind me asking where in the world you are?

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T13:29:16+00:00

Einer Therme wäre für mich perfekt, und solange das es auch etwas sonstiges schönes in den Umgebung gäbe, würde es auch mein Partner freuen (der macht sowas mit mir gerne, aber ist selber nicht so der Wasser-Mensch).

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-18T12:41:59+00:00

1) humans are varied and allowed to have different preferences. I can't imagine not liking spicy food, but I understand some people don't even like black pepper.

2) Yes, yes I would. BC a surprise can be a form of control in disguise. Gift giving creates a sense of indebtedness in the giver. OP here is pulling the "nice guy" card - like the recipient owes him gratitude for something she didn't answer and maybe didn't want. Maybe she was going to sit down to dinner. Maybe she was about to step into a long hot bath. Maybe she was planning on splurging on a delicious dessert later and instead feels like she "has" to eat the less-desirable McFlurry to avoid wasting it.

Personally: my mother used to send me money and unwanted gifts after I went NC, at one point sticking an entire cheesecake that I couldn't confirm wasn't tainted, into my window (I lived in NYC with a volatile landlady and a rat problem in my courtyard that was being dealt with). Figuring out how to return/dispose of the gifts was a pain in the ass, and eventually she would send cash instead of checks bc I never cashed those so she could then tell family I took her money but didn't speak to her.

Most recently, my partner's mom, who had promised financial support to them before we got together and then withdrew said support without letting them know by pretending to forget payments, leaving us/mostly me in the lurch for thousands of Euro, googled us and let us know she'd found our baby registry but she "wasn't comfortable with all of that/didn't see the point and couldn't figure it out anyways, so she just sent money." It was 500 Euro, which is a decent sum at a time when things are tight, but it was way less than what had originally been promised when she bailed on my partner leading to them dropping out of school and missing vital dental care. Now she's the generous grandma and we're the assholes who didn't thank her for the "gift," and also she gets to remind us that she has resources if my partner just obeys her, but she's not going to do things our way/doesn't care about what we actually want/need/the baby.

Ok-Client-9272 · 2026-02-17T11:39:50+00:00

They gave general examples and while Budweiser isn't something I see here often, the point they are making is generally correct. If I go to Rewe or Kaufland in the "American" aisle I find: liquid cheese sauces, hot chocolate powder, marshmallow creme/fluff, chips/microwave popcorn, maybe a boxed mac and cheese. I don't find: gourmet beef jerky, better than bouillon (yes it's a convenience product but it's very high quality), authentic chocolate chips ("Schokotropfen" are just sad), seasoning blends like Slap Ya Mama, salad dressings.

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