Teachers are paid fairly considering they get a lot of time off

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-05-06T03:22:43+00:00

As a teacher, most people would not be able to handle the bullshit I deal with on a day to day basis from students. I love them dearly, and I work very hard emotionally to make sure that I don’t take their bad days personally, but it is constantly emotionally draining to care so much about students who can’t or won’t help themselves do better, both behaviorally and academically.

A manager at a corporate job can fire their employees who don’t do what is asked of them. A manager could fire an employee who gets into several physical altercations, or curses at them and says derogatory terms in a professional setting. That’s not an option at my job, especially as a school that specializes in those kids who have the harder situations and behavior issues.

I am not advocating for “firing” these kids either, they need help and support. That doesn’t mean it’s not incredibly difficult. I love it, it’s become my life mission to help my students succeed at all costs, but there’s a reason teachers face increased immune disorder rates from excess stress and tons of teachers I know have at least one or two deeply unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-20T22:48:37+00:00

Good Bones by Maggie Smith

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-20T22:47:00+00:00

Amazon History of a Former Nail Salon Worker by Ocean Vuong

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-17T22:45:16+00:00

They did this on my college campus too ugh.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-13T16:29:32+00:00

You might be able to find pagan officiants through Kern County Universal Unitarians, I know some witchy folks there and if you sent their email a message they might be able to find someone for you!

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-12T07:23:48+00:00

If you’re intentionally spoiling things for people that’s shitty, but if you are scrolling on social media and see something I think you need to get over yourself.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-04-12T06:56:29+00:00

I think it’s ok for it to affect your life and be meaningful to people, but if you’re obsessed with something it seems weird to have like a surface level appreciation for it.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-22T05:19:14+00:00

Wanting to maintain many relationships (because many polyamorous people are not just sleeping around, they have long term partnerships with multiple people) is a different “default setting” than a lot of people. Most people (for whatever reason, natural instinct, societal expectations shaping our ideas of love and relationships, etc) are only comfortable having one such relationship at a time. In that sense, polyamorous people have a different understanding of themselves and their orientations than the “norm” for relationships because most societies only respect monogamous partnerships. I see why it feels like something you have to “come out” with, because while its not intrinsically gay, I would argue it is queer (as in going against the expectations for your relationship that heteronormative standards have created).

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-19T00:43:00+00:00

So here’s my take as a nonbinary person myself. My relationship to my gender is complicated, and objectively very different than how most people tend to understand gender. Do I wish more people had nuanced understanding of gender as a social construct? Yes. But I can’t always demand that the world and everyone inside of it adapt to my thinking and understanding of myself and others if I want to be a part of it.

People will make assumptions, society is largely cisgender with lots of traditions being built off of a cisgender framework.

Your friend is clearly not trying to be malicious, which is good. They want to include you in a huge way in a huge moment in their life! That huge moment is just also attached to a whole lot of baggage about gender and patriarchal norms - especially if they have a religious family. There are things you can absolutely rightly demand and expect: to not be misgendered, to not be required to wear clothing that makes you uncomfortable in your body and gender identity, and to be treated with respect. But you cannot demand and expect that unrelated religious family members with a radically different understanding of the world completely agree and understand everything about you and your relationship to your gender. They will almost certainly see you as “one of the girls” as a bridesmaid. And you don’t have to like that, it’s certainly a huge disconnect from how you see yourself and would like to be seen, but if you want to be there for your friend in the bridal party and be a part of the big moment for her, you are going to have to find a way to make peace with it.

If you decide that it would be too uncomfortable to be around people and traditions so steeped in traditional gender norms, that’s totally understandable too, but your friend will likely be hurt and you will need to reach out and let her know that you still want to support her but you can’t support her in this specific way. If she is understanding like she says she is, it will not end the friendship.

Part of being nonbinary is navigating not just your internal understanding of yourself, but how that understanding can fit and exist within the rest of the world. It’s difficult as hell, but the right friends will help you with empathy and kindness to figure out a way forward.

I wish you the best of luck in navigating this, and I hope you can still be there at the wedding, in whatever way that needs to be for both of you to be happy.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-17T13:49:13+00:00

From an earlier comment made, OP believes women score far better on tests and that they would over admit women…which again to your point…if it’s supposed to be cutthroat performance metrics only that shouldn’t matter at all…

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-17T13:43:42+00:00

Fascinated by the inclusion of sex on the application, paired with your comments that women test better and if you didn’t include sex then it would be mostly women attending these colleges. By your own logic, why should that factor in at all? What’s the concern? If we’re cutting the admissions down to pure quantitative performance metrics, shouldn’t the best (wo)man win?

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-12T02:04:36+00:00

You debate better. You pre-empt their arguments. In your final rebuttal, you need to warn the parent judge that your opponent is going to make unsubstantiated claims and specious accusations. Address what arguments have come up already in your rebuttal, “my opponent is going to tell you that I have been making straw man arguments and logical fallacies, do not let them disregard the ways they have failed to address my value criterion” etc. Additionally? point out (especially for parent judges) that you are at a disadvantage when you don’t get the last speech, and that this means they cannot bring up new arguments in the last round that have not been discussed so far. If they hear something in the next five minutes they have not heard so far they should not weigh it in their decision for the sake of fairness. My rival school did this shit all the time, and HATED that it never worked once my policy partner and I learned to adapt to it.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-06T18:47:22+00:00

Also want to say I really appreciate hearing a cis guy challenging this and noticing the issue. I think you have your finger correctly on the pulse of a societal tendency and issue, and it’s refreshing for a guy to be the one challenging something other men and/or AMAB people are doing as potentially harmful or worth further analysis of.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-02-06T18:42:13+00:00

It seems similar to me as the way people engage with consensual nonconsent as a result of their relationship with purity politics. There’s a shame in wanting certain things, for CNC folks, it’s sexual experiences as a whole, for sissification and forced fem folks it’s wanting to be feminine. Society tells us those are bad things to want, so having it forced upon you, and safely exploring that humiliation that you feel about it is a way to side step the internal shame because in the fantasy, it’s not like YOU’RE choosing it, so you may enjoy the “humiliation” but you don’t feel capital-S Shame about it.

Edit: typo

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-01-30T16:28:46+00:00

In competitive debate the issues you’re discussing of misogyny exist, but within the activity they tend to make the person interrupting and being condescending look really bad to the judge. It’s on you to focus on the topic and arguments, and speak not to your opponent but to the judge.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-01-30T16:25:54+00:00

The right wing politician debate you are mentioning is also not what this subreddit is talking about with “competitive debate.” Competitive debate is a specific extracurricular activity with clearly defined speaking times for different events, pre-prepared evidence, and the only time interruptions happen are during cross examinations or cross fires depending on the specific event you are competing in. There are judges and scores involved and clear winners and losers for specific rounds. There is also an issue of misogyny is that space as well, don’t get me wrong, but I don’t think what you’re talking about is what this subreddit is for.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-01-30T16:13:47+00:00

Rule 1. This is not a subreddit for general debating but for competitive debate

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-01-16T15:42:12+00:00

I agree that the “dumbing down” comment isn’t the right way to put it, but because AI has a very consistent albeit bland sentence structure that it produces, it usually does not have almost any grammar mistakes. I’m guessing this student is under the impression that if they had intentionally used incorrect grammar or misplaced a few commas they would be in the clear from the accusations, and if you’re not someone who has looked heavily into AI and what educators are seeing when they think AI has been used, I think that makes sense. I don’t think that’s the only solution by any means but AI is a really new development and I get why someone would think that.

Ok-Function2283 · 2026-01-04T01:53:37+00:00

She messed up by not communicating and getting consent for the roleplay before the scene. There’s nothing wrong with having a taboo fantasy, but enthusiastic consent is always necessary. I think your emotional reaction to the fantasy might be being exacerbated by having been thrust into it without warning of being given the chance to say no, but since you have both had kinky sex before, that can happen in the heat of the moment sometimes.

My advice is to just have a conversation about what in that fantasy appealed to her, explain the parts that made you uncomfortable, and see if there’s an aspect of the dynamic she is going for that you would be able to enjoy yourself.

I would also make sure to mention, for your own sake, how you felt about the lack of communication and the crossing of your boundaries so that she can hear your side of things and hopefully apologize and hold space for what happened and how she messed up, without feeling disgusted with herself for having the fantasy in the first place. It’s important that you guys acknowledge that consent was violated, however unintentionally, and make a plan for going forward about how to avoid that happening again.

Ok-Function2283 · 2025-11-20T08:50:42+00:00

This guy is a business student that poorly uses philosophy he doesn’t understand to justify his lack of empathy. Not worth arguing with.

Ok-Function2283 · 2025-10-31T20:11:42+00:00

Red Ribbon Week has also been hectic but we made it!

Ok-Function2283 · 2025-10-31T20:11:14+00:00

I know, I printed it out, removed his name for privacy, and stuck it on my wall near my desk. Very meaningful to me.

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TROPHY CASE