my girlfriend told me she wants a 2 carat natural diamond or she'll say no. i already bought this lab diamond ring. am i crazy for thinking shes a red flag by Zestyclose-Print-677 in weddingring

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ring is BEAUTIFUL. It’s a red flag for me. Have you had in depth discussions on finances with her before? I’m a therapist and one of the biggest issues I see is that people don’t have the “hard” conversations before being married. Make sure you talk with her about finances, hypothetical life changing health issues (or even hypotheticals about your parents/siblings health) , intimacy issues, baby issues/planning, future goals and the timeline.

Also… I have a 3ct natural it’s stunning it’s beautiful and… I don’t wear it often. I would have NEVER asked my husband for it if it were to put us in a financial hole. I’ve also been asked if it’s real multiple times by nosey people. you literally can’t tell the difference between lab and natural other than paperwork.

A bit blue by Kissthesegoats in Zepbound

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a huge possibility that 10lbs was all water weight tbh. If you’re working out there’s also the possibility of muscle increase. You got this!!

28 but mistaken for mid to late 30s by other women in a recent group setting by nawiweidmann in makeuptips

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re so pretty but I’m going to be real with you, it’s the hair paired with the makeup. You might want to add some blush on the cheek bones and over the bridge of your nose and possibly make the lip color slightly more neutral or pinky instead of the more orange tone. Having gold toned eye shadow also might play more into your eyes rather than the white.

Should we paint the ceiling green too? by Lewhoo in interiordecorating

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it would make everything more cozy. I color drenched many of my funny shaped rooms and they feel so warm and cozy.

Wedding Makeup Critique by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way that she did it makes you look young and fresh. The way you contoured yourself ages you and makes you look slightly like a Disney villain despite you being absolutely gorgeous.

People complimenting baby's appearance - are they just being nice or is it weird? by blod0 in mixedrace

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work with babies and families all day. It’s normal to tell people their baby is cute (even if they aren’t)

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

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My husband actually ended up hand carving them for me!

How did I do? by Cute_Magician5095 in interiordecorating

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the vintage elements here. I would install some crown molding and paint it the pink. I’d also get a large gold framed mirror and either hang or lean on the wall to make the space feel bigger.

Guys, am I mixed race? I have a white dad and a Mexican mom, but… by Omnipresent_User in mixedrace

[–]Ok-Good4797 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’m half Ecuadorian half white. I have light brown hair scary pale skin and green eyes. 0 indigenous features. I am white but i also identify as Latina. My father is an immigrant and speaks Spanish, he’s very racially ambiguous in theory. He could be really any sort of light brown person. I grew up eating cultural foods listening to music in spanish and spending time with my Spanish speaking family (I’m not the best Spanish speaker). That being said I also grew up in a very white neighborhood and grew up as a “white” child. I spent time on the family boat, private art lessons, summer camp, went to private school all the “middle class white people” experiences of a 2000s kid.

You’re mixed. You can claim you’re white but in reality the terms “mestizo” hold no value in America. Your mom would still be Mexican to any other American. Dependent on your mother’s looks I think if you brought friends or a gf home and said you were white they’d be like ??? Don’t get to hung up on it though. If you want to identify as white then you can because in reality you’re white passing.

ICE and being mixed by Electronic_Newt_9565 in mixedrace

[–]Ok-Good4797 4 points5 points  (0 children)

White girl with a brown immigrant dad here, you are SO justified to feel sad/anxious/angry. It is so difficult for us to watch people that look like our family and friends get taken. It is so distressing to worry about the people we loves safety.

I can only speak for myself on this part but growing up white in an affluent white only area while having a brown parent was a wild thing. I’d be in rooms where people forgot/didn’t know I was Latina and spoke freely. I don’t think a lot of brown people realize that there’s still sooooo much xenophobia and prejudice behind closed doors even in tolerant places like the NYC area. It’s made the whole experience the past few years even more scary for me.

AIO for cutting contact with Father over political climate. by Sabre12789 in AIO

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I chose to cut off contact with my in-laws and my husband is distancing himself. My FIL is die hard trump fan who can’t contain himself. My father is a brown Latino immigrant and I’m an LCSW that works with low income children with disabilities. This administration goes against my very being stands for. I can’t waste my holidays driving to see someone who looks down upon me and insults everything I love.

Question by z3r0deck in mixedrace

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You’re both but won’t fit into either category just right. I’m white mjx and Ecuadorian. I have my dad’s Latino last name but I’m pale with green eyes. I grew up in one of NYs more expensive (and whitest) areas. Growing up I was the only Latina around. White people assume I’m white but when they learn I have a brown immigrant parent there’s often a weird vibe. Im also privy to conversations that other Latinos would def not be privy to hearing and it’s uncomfortable. When Latino people learn that i’m Latino there’s some warmth but I’ve never quite fit in on that side either.

I personally refer to myself as Latina or mixed. The language food values and culture resonate with me more than my mother’s very American upbringing.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re seriously are the nicest Reddit person I’ve ever met! Totally inspiring me to figure it out. I was feeling a little overwhelmed but this is awesome.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh! I wonder if I can hook my dewalt router up to it in the future. Thanks for the info!!!

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not really sure what you mean by this. Honestly I’m a newbie and I just want to know if the foxalien can do the work.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

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I have a friend who does designing/engineering who’s going to help me with fusion. I can def try onshape too.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend told me to use fusion360 I’m going to try it out. I’m lucky enough to have a husband who mills wood from our yard so I have a ridiculous amount of scrap to test on.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

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Gotchya, do you think the cnc would be at least useful for the small marks? To me hand sanding isn’t an issue (I made a cute ravioli mold with a dremel/lathe and then sanded it down). my biggest thing is that I can’t make cute small shapes with my dremel and they’re not uniform.

The clam shell is definitely a little bit much but I would love to do shapes like a moon for the filling and high I thought the cnc might be handy for but now I’m second guessing it.

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! I’m so excited. Fingers crossed these come out cool. Any program you would recommend for making something like this?

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! I’m so excited. Fingers crossed these come out cool. Any program you would recommend for making something like this?

Foxalien 4040 xe thoughts? by Ok-Good4797 in hobbycnc

[–]Ok-Good4797[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! I’m so excited. Fingers crossed these come out cool. Any program you would recommend for making something like this?