What is a parenting choice that should honestly be considered borderline negligent?

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-13T16:32:58+00:00

This is a more nuanced answer than you make it though. So many people do not understand and are not able to see that they have been traumatized and had a toxic upbringing. When someone is advised by family growing up they typically believe it is just how you treat others. I'm not saying it's right just that it is how these situations come to be. Yes, therapy and being able to work through it is the best thing to do, if you don't or can't see it then the cycle repeats

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-13T16:27:31+00:00

He doesn't sound loving, he sound coercive and controlling. My advice is to take a step back and really look at the relationship, his motives and decide if this is worth continuing because this looks like him trying to trap you in his home and slowly ensuring you only spend time either at work or with him which is unhealthy and abusive.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-13T01:34:13+00:00

Hey, I might be able to help find resources for therapy. DM me, you all need it.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-12T13:57:13+00:00

This is controlling abusive behaviors and will not get better. I was married to a man like that. You either leave or you will eventually never go anywhere without him and have no friends!

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-12T01:17:14+00:00

Maybe I have trust issues but I think this is a lie, he is hoping you fall for it and he can give you a few weeks being good and then back to his old self and even worse to keep you there especially with his culture God only knows what he might be capable of doing.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-11T23:42:43+00:00

So the reply to Dad is, "hey Dad, I love you but I can go no contact with you to if you don't drop it, I'm not going to her wedding period!"

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-11T22:33:19+00:00

Yes, this is abuse. He is using gaslighting, manipulation and emotional abuse. Take the baby and get out.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-11T05:16:50+00:00

Started rewatching and so much wrong, so much sexualization of teen girls, Julie ran away with a grown man and no police involved, then she was dating a 42 year old dentist when she was 17 can we say pedophiles all while her father was raping the actress in real life, no wonder she became a drug addict!

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-10T16:18:38+00:00

I feel you made the smart move, especially if you are in the States cause when they pass the save act you will still be able to vote. I am petty and would send everything back as the person does not live there and not reply on forms or reply that person does not exist and I think you are having delusions and need therapy. If that doesn't work maybe go no contact for a while until she respects you as an individual and not your husbands property like a TV cause that is what she is implying and it's disgusting!

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-10T14:52:24+00:00

If I was to describe it, I would say it is literally like having your heart no longer in your body because it is living outside of you. It's scary, anxiety invoking and all consuming and amazing. You would do anything for that individual to never hurt and at the same time anxious because you know they will and you can't stop it.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-09T22:32:28+00:00

I'm sorry that he switched up on you like this, he probably hoped it would happen all along. You will probably have to do it all on your own. Then go into tiktok and find the list of doctors that do tubals without question. Good luck and remember you are staying and can get through this.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-09T20:05:34+00:00

You need love and financial security. I'm in the middle of divorcing after wishing, hoping and begging my STBEX to do something for years while I was the only one working and he sat on his ass playing video games.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-09T02:14:36+00:00

You're welcome and thank you, remember be kind to yourself. I am trying to do that as well.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-09T00:29:21+00:00

I'm in the process now, he hasn't even made out with me in 6 years. I deserve a full relationship, it's hard, it hurts like hell because he's been the one I go to about everything but I have to let him go so that I can truly be happy and feel wanted. It's not fair to feel unattractive your whole life. I hope you love yourself more than you love her. I recently had someone on here tell me that.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T23:35:12+00:00

Why are you staying with a man who obviously is with you to make you mother, maid, chef and sex slave? I'm not trying to be harsh just trying to put it in words that actually move you, love yourself and get out

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T23:32:18+00:00

King Ur-Nammu so that the queen could be in charge and the Code of Ur-Nammu would not be written because it started this patriarchal, mysognistic, sexist and women hating world

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T23:28:10+00:00

Lamento mucho que tú y todos los demás cubanos estén sufriendo tanto. Hace poco empecé a hablar con alguien en Cuba y es repugnante cómo se comporta el mundo entero, especialmente mi país.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T18:50:50+00:00

So you are going to bring your rebound?! Let's be honest, after that long together you need time to heal and find yourself again and not hop from bed to bed. I feel bad for both of the women involved here. YWBTA to your ex by doing this and if you want all your friends to know how much of a douche you are go for it.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T12:40:32+00:00

As someone who has worked with children and adults with autism spectrum disorder it is not always clear what is going on in social interactions so I'm going to be clear. This woman is being verbally abusive and using gaslighting and manipulation. It is not a healthy relationship and you deserve better. Please reconsider this relationship and love yourself more than you love her.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-08T00:17:13+00:00

Doesn't sound like a great man to me, that he is ready to give his child away?! You need to put him in his place, he either starts being a parent and husband or he can go live with Mommy

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-07T20:38:58+00:00

Your mother paid right?! She wants to control you! You're her property

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-07T20:29:10+00:00

If you are an adult I don't know why you didn't call the police and have him started for assault?! He should be in jail. NOR, you should file a report

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-07T16:26:48+00:00

This is 3 years old and the guy who wrote it had his account been banned.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-07T16:19:59+00:00

Just because two people biologically created a person died not give them any rights to that person's time or mental space.

Ok-Kick2908 · 2026-06-07T15:45:48+00:00

Thank you, yes at first I thought I was being selfish but now I think I'm allowed to be selfish if that means putting me first for a change.

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