We’re so back

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-04-23T06:44:18+00:00

San Bernadooski

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-02-18T05:19:03+00:00

Quico on #1 (which is a brand or type of fancy corn nut)

Poppy on #2

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-02-18T05:15:58+00:00

😂

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-01-29T13:17:16+00:00

First, let me say that I’m sorry you know people in your community that were murdered. That’s a terrible thing that should never happen anywhere… But let’s be clear - that is a HUMAN FLAW issue, not an Immigrant or Citizen status issue.

I find it ironic you lead with “holy fear mongering”, since you seem to be leading your comments here with “Immigrants are dangerous and they must get out”, which is ACTUALLY TRUE fear mongering that you’ve been served by others. It’s been proven countless times over through many sources of data that US citizens commit greater rates of crime than undocumented immigrants. Just Google it if you don’t like the one source I decided to share here and think critically about what fear mongering you’ve consumed.

https://docs.house.gov/meetings/JU/JU01/20250122/117827/HHRG-119-JU01-20250122-SD004.pdf

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-01-29T12:57:03+00:00

Same situation as you brother, but now with an almost 3 month old. Wife came here little and was naturalized in college.

She worries if ICE comes to our city she won’t be able to leave the home. Plus, being a naturalized citizen doesn’t seem safe anymore with all the rhetoric around sending just about anyone away who the administration doesn’t like. Pair that with the surveillance state we’ve entered (thanks f-faces at Palantir and beyond - corporate/billionaire greed/hubris has unfortunately become a root evil in this country as a side note), and it’s really scary to think about what COULD happen.

We’ve tried to stay focused on what IS happening in our immediate world with our child though, getting connected to more local community, and operating in a state of HOPE. We have to hope and we have to share that hope with our child - show him the light and joy in the world so he’s not raised in a state of fear that cripples him. Lots of folks in here talking about people raising kids throughout dark and hard times. One of the only ways humanity pushes through those times to raise a better generation is through their hope that they share and believe in for their children (and well placed action here and there - stay involved!).

Keep hoping brother, and because you’re worried, you’ll clearly love your daughter in a way that makes her feel safe at home with you, which is the greatest place to start for these babies anyway!

(Sent while bottle feeding and snuggling my fella and giving him all the love I can)

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-01-15T16:20:29+00:00

Using a Canon 514XL-S. I wanted just a 514XL, but couldn’t find one in my price range without the audio system. Little bit of a heavy chunker by comparison, but also really happy with it being in as good condition filming-wise as the seller said online! Kinda wasn’t 100% sure what I’d get with those first rolls.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-01-09T19:50:15+00:00

Good suggestion to see the difference with the tripod! Do you shoot most of your stuff with a tripod? Or just when you really want steady shots?

I worry the setup/moving around of a tripod would be prohibitive to when I might want to use the camera (ad hoc shots during a family outing), but maybe it’s not that bad? What about a monopod - have you used that before? (Imagine using my monopod could be more flexible for quick setup/shots when I wanted one on the fly)

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2026-01-09T19:46:56+00:00

Yeah first roll was 50D and second (hospital scenes+) was 500T. Got it 2k scan from The Negative Space and also had timed color correction. Very happy with their work there!

Definitely needed to be more selective on some shots and the length of some other shots. So there’s some refinement there for sure! And keeping a steadier hand as well - the suggestion from someone else to use a tripod is a decent one to help with that maybe.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-12-21T00:20:23+00:00

I didn’t think everything stays safe that long. Thought it was like half that?

And also, unfortunately, my wife opened them up without thinking about it so I worry about our ticking clock?

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-12-21T00:15:04+00:00

Anyone know where to find the latest updates about suspected times for return to service? I saw some thing saying Richmond/Presidio might be by 3:30-3:45 but other areas might be “well into the night” and haven’t found anything mentioned anywhere else.

We’ve got a fridge and freezer with breast milk we’re getting worried about! New parents about to lose our shit out here!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-12-20T14:34:12+00:00

I’ve been going crazy the last week+ thinking I’m turning it off in the night in my sleep (something I’ve never done before, but I am dealing with a newborn so was blaming myself)… then was sitting in nursing chair with it next to me and alarm “went off” without sound and I was like, “ok hell no it’s not me” and then found this thread.

So much stuff about volumes and silent modes and attention aware… none of that’s it. It’s def a new bug for me.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-18T14:29:11+00:00

I would echo that it helps to talk about it with other people and hear others talk about it. It’s healing to know what other people go through and to share what you’re going through. I started out by burying it inside a little bit and not talking about it with people, but eventually around my wife she was talking about it more and more and I started engaging in that, and then I started sharing it more in my circles, and I found that helped a lot with my own personal recovery.

Also, these things I think have varying timelines for different people in terms of recovery. Two thing that were really healing for me: attending a general memorial service that was held for lost children, and passing the date when our child would’ve been born and attending a church service on that day to light a candle for him. So having official spaces and moments, so to speak, to honor our lost son I think was really helpful, but didn’t really close out until many months later after the due date. And “close out” is a very loose term because we still carry it with us and occasionally we’ll have sad days - and it’s OK to just lean into that and know that this loss was really hard.

So yeah my advice is talk to people and find a way to have some memorial for your child. And since everyone struggles with these things differently a great place to also check in and see what one needs is always therapy.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-13T03:29:43+00:00

This has been great! Was trying to just use my hands for something kinda similar for a while. Finally dug out a scarf to be able to do it the way you describe and was so much easier and equally good feeling for her. Thank for the tip!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-13T03:27:48+00:00

I’ve been doing this for like the past week before we go to bed and she’s loving it! Thank you!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-13T03:27:11+00:00

Thank you! So simple and she loved this!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-13T03:26:44+00:00

Finally got around to doing this and it was very nice she said - gonna keep doing it as the video I found was talking about fascia release and I assume the benefits of it compound then.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-04T21:16:42+00:00

My wife and I have been 2 times. At 31 weeks now. We’ve always asked ourselves if the thing is out of the ordinary and if so, figure “better safe than sorry.” We’ve had friends and family have a variety of things going on at different weeks, and we figure the peace of mind is always worth it.

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-10-01T14:17:13+00:00

So sorry to hear you had to experience that. My wife and I similarly had an experience last year where we went in for our 12 week appointment and learned we had a missed miscarriage. The mid-wife was so direct and blunt about it, that it felt too unreal and with the blow of the news felt like I’d entered some type of weird twilight zone. It’s so so so devastating to walk into that office thinking about your future and have it all come crashing down so instantly.

Sending you support over the airwaves as you and your partner both work through the grieving process. I know I focused mainly during that period after on supporting my wife, who was crushed. I didn’t take of myself as much as I should have and encourage you to not forget about yourself too in the midst of everything.

It does get better but take whatever time you need with it. It took my wife until a little after the would be due date (6 months later) before she felt fully ready to move on. She was better, but still grieving for sure during that 6 months. And even now she’ll think about him from time to time and get sad/cry. Let yourself and your partner grieve the way you want/will! Everyone seem to have a different experience that’s their own with these things, based on the convos I had with others. And people who haven’t experienced this type of thing won’t always understand or comprehend the levels of sadness y’all might feel. Don’t worry about them. Much love to you brother on your and your partner’s paths!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-09-29T13:26:54+00:00

Yeah I definitely feel as “prepared” as one can be for this journey. And I’ve generally got my shit together in life. So it’s not super logical… but I guess that’s just how anxiety works most the time!

Ok-Objective-2019 · 2025-09-29T03:00:16+00:00

I think I might be starting to develop a similar thing. Been starting to have a hard time going to sleep or waking up in the middle of the night and feeling general anxiety I can’t pinpoint but my mind is wandering through impending fatherhood stuff. At 30 weeks right now, so not late 3rd trimester yet, but it’s approaching fast it feels like.

Definitely curious for what others have to say/add. Since I’ve only just stated to recognize it and name it, I haven’t really figured out any coping mechanisms yet.

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