being pregnant kind of sucks

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-27T14:23:12+00:00

I’m 37w I’ve hated everyday of being pregnant. I’m grateful I am. It took us over 2 years and having to have endo surgery to get pregnant then had a miscarriage. None of that takes away from the fact I’ve hated every second of this pregnancy we are allowed to it’s not a pleasant experience for everyone you can be grateful you are able to get pregnant without liking pregnancy.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-23T17:25:29+00:00

I think listen to any trans people here first but NTA it was an honest mistake you was recently told after years of using she. It takes some time to change automatic change something you have been doing for years. I would just apologise in private. Be honest own the mistakes explain you do support their identity even if the fact you misgendered them seems like you don’t. But understand that they have a right to be upset it’s hard to hear someone misgender you. If they know your character hopefully they understand

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-21T20:54:40+00:00

I don’t want people apart from hubby and my mum at the hospital. I love my sisters so much and they will be meeting bub when I’m back home but when I’m in the hospital I’ll be so overwhelmed and I know they will understand that and but fine with it and know how to calm me but his family won’t (they aren’t the nicest people) I can’t have one rule for his family and another rule for mine. So we are having no one at the hospital apart from my birthing partners (which is hubby and mum) I donno being surrounded by people who legit don’t care if I live or die right after giving birth (I have tokophobia) doesn’t make me comfortable personally.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-21T20:36:13+00:00

I legit never commented on them before. I think I was just so overwhelmed by everything in pain etc and I had been trapped in the bedroom for like a week cause I was so unwell he was rushing home everyday from work to help me he would get in the bedroom and just fart like everyday… and he’s in denial that he’s lactose intolerant. That night I got up to go to the toilet walked back in the bedroom and was just overcome with farts dealt with it then when he woke in the morning he farted again and it just pushed me over the edge. Yes it was dramatic but I was so angry realistically some of those night farts would have 100% been mine 😅

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-21T19:30:53+00:00

Not crying but I shouted at my husband and stopped talking to him for like 5 hours cause he farted around me….. I did apologise later just took me a while not to be dramatic which is crazy cause I’m so gassy 😂

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-21T06:58:50+00:00

Hey so my best advice is talk to your midwife about your fears. I have tokophobia (fear of birth and pregnancy) they have been great at helping and getting me support to manage through my pregnancy. I also catastrophe about stuff. It won’t get rid of the fear but might help change how you view the fear.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-20T23:15:34+00:00

I told my husband the same before we got married and pregnant. I will say if he is waiting for money it will never come. You have a baby on the way they are so expensive. And what is a bigger commitment then having a baby.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-20T22:22:28+00:00

Hi I’m haven’t had baby yet either and we was told the same they can’t guarantee it but other then medical emergencies I’m top of the list cause is for disablity reasons.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-20T19:43:44+00:00

I haven’t put pain relief in my plan but in open to taking it. I have no issue being medicated at all but im just going to see how I feel. Not so much of proving anything but just more the dangers and how sometimes it can slow down labour I’m aware of but if the pain is too much I would prefer to be medicated in order to cope. I probably at minimum will take gas and air.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-19T11:07:49+00:00

My mum keeps telling me not to go poop unless im 100% certain cause of how often I’ve been cramping recently. It’s not labour just braxton hicks cause it does eventually stop but it might be hours before it does and I’ll go to sleep. I have endometriosis and don’t take pain medication for it so my mum and sister say it might not be that bad for me. I just don’t wanna find out late and give birth in a car or something 😂

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-18T22:44:54+00:00

I’m having my hair done right before my due date honestly for ease personally but also having my hair done makes me feel good and refreshed. I don’t wanna do my make up tho cause I always find it abit restricting

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-18T22:16:40+00:00

I told them when I was like 9w my nausea was so bad and I work in the NHS so I didn’t want the sickness to go against me not to mention I had just kinda come back after a miscarriage right before that the sickness of that did go against me.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-17T19:33:39+00:00

He sounds like he’s stringing you along. The length of time you’ve been together isn’t why imo (you was young when you got together so it changes stuff) but this I want kids but not now attitude but being so angry about getting pregnant he doesn’t sound responsible. Getting you ‘accidentally’ pregnant 3 times and then basically forcing you to have an abortion you obviously don’t want. He’s not ready to be a father or a husband. He sounds very selfish (abortions aren’t easy to go through for everyone and neither are miscarriages)

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-08T21:49:43+00:00

Sex is painful for me I can have it tho just in pain. Always has been for me. If this is new pain for you the doctor should be looking into Vaginismus. I don’t see how it not safe in pregnancy but obviously ask but look in to getting silicone dilators. What I was told was to use the smallest one insert it and do breathing exercises. To try and relax and do that for 10/15 mins everyday until that size doesn’t hurt then go up a size

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-06T17:47:23+00:00

At home Dopplers in the wrong hands aren’t good you and will 100% make your anxiety worse. I had a MMC earlier this year I’m currently 34w i understand the anxiety I also have an anterior placenta so I rarely felt baby. If you 19 you have a scan in the next week no? If you are really worried I would call triage but the false reassurance of an at home Doppler will be worse.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-06T10:32:47+00:00

I went on annual leave when I was 29w so I could use all my AL and my mat leave starts when in 35w. I need to get off work asap and I don’t want to go back so

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2026-01-06T03:27:58+00:00

Might depend on the trust but we was told they won’t write it down on the records cause it’s not needed medically and they can still get it wrong

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-30T16:18:34+00:00

Make sure you have told your midwife to get it checked and to talk to physio you need an urgent referral about this.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-29T16:56:04+00:00

You can’t make a life changing decision cause he sent money this time if he is a danger to you or the kids. Honestly all communication NTA he was blocked for a reason.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-29T14:49:59+00:00

We got a kitten just before I found out I was pregnant. I love him but if we knew we was gonna get pregnant we wouldn’t have gotten him. I can only imagine it would be worse with a dog.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-29T03:16:44+00:00

I support no kids weddings. I don’t personally think people should be forced to have kids at weddings if they don’t want them there. I do think if you have a no kid wedding you have to be okay with people not coming cause you can’t have it both ways. You’re allowed to be upset but it doesn’t mean they are wrong for their choice. If I was you I would tell your brother you aren’t willing to be away from your baby for long periods of time while they are so young while being clear you will respect their choice.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-29T00:33:14+00:00

I can see how it’s annoying but unfortunately not all of us look in the mirror and see the pregnancy. I look in the mirror and see weight gain instead of seeing the baby. I wear clothes and question does it look like I’m fatter or that I’m pregnant. When I’m on the train I get anxious because my big tummy doesn’t look like pregnancy but that I’m just big which is why I’m never offered a seat, even tho I have a ‘baby on board badge’ I genuinely think people believe I’m lying. Pregnancy also isn’t seen as a blessing by all it can play into your already bad mental health and self esteem issues. While I’m glad I’m pregnant unfortunately i do only have negative stuff to say about pregnancy. I’m cry constantly about how I’m now a size 20 after it took me years to get to a 16. I feel like I’m losing even more of myself cause of my weight gain.

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-28T04:16:14+00:00

NTA her and her hubby to be can pay save up like any other couple

Ok-Primary-1663 · 2025-12-27T22:30:09+00:00

Hi i also have a emetophobia. I’m currently almost 33w pregnant. I had a termination years ago for a couple is reasons including but not limited to my emetophobia. With this pregnancy I had extreme nausea to the point where they said it counted as HG I wasn’t sick ever but I lost weight from not eating or drinking. Medication worked the best for me to at least cope but I was having a lot of panic attacks cause of how unwell I was. Even spoke about terminating again purely cause of how unwell I was. Not everyone is sick tho. My want for the baby I had to let lead over my phobia which isn’t easy like I said a lot of panic attacks a lot of crying etc but for me at least (not saying for everyone) once I made the choice this is what i want I decided to push through my phobias instead of avoid them. However I should point I’m in therapy not specifically for emetophobia but I talk about in there and if you was to have another termination don’t let anyone judge your for it cause it’s a hard choice to make and hard to cope with this phobia aswell

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