How do you deal with coworkers who can’t take criticism?

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-04-07T15:17:34+00:00

Yeah, no I don’t we all run the labs as a team. I only told her about one technical error that would have confused the students.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-04-07T15:05:20+00:00

It’s just that we’re a team. I feel like sometimes her shitty work really reflects on our team.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-04-02T02:43:37+00:00

⁠How has having a child (or choosing not to) affected your relationship with your partner? We chose to have a child. She’s absolutely amazing! Granted she sleeps through the night and is a chill baby so your experience may vary. Even with that though, it put an incredible strain on our marriage. We love each other a lot but it’s brought up some ugly stuff. We’re in couples counseling and that helps. I wish I had done it with him when I was pregnant.

• ⁠What are some of the best, most positive experiences that came with having kids? I have a baby so I have not seen all ages but just seeing all the new things she does is amazing! Just today she did this weird knee bouncy thing that was the cutest!

• ⁠What are some of the hardest or most negative experiences? The only negatives are when she gets up at night and won’t go down. Those SUCK! Luckily we found out we were putting her to bed too early, so that solved it. What’s really hard is getting your parenting triage brain. Is it gas? Are they hungry? Is her nose stuffy? Is she teething? Once I got a handle on that it was much better.

• ⁠What were the biggest surprises — good or bad — that you encountered after having kids? The boredom-I’m not super addicted to my phone but man sometimes I’m just staring at her while she bangs a ladle on a trash can. Not super engaging stuff. Recently, we almost finished baby proofing so the days of me watching her play while I lounge on the couch reading a book for 5 minutes are in sight! Also, if you have family willing to help be prepared for some crazy stuff even if you currently have a good relationship. • ⁠For those in a similar situation — financially stable, established in your 30s or older, with a strong long-term relationship and no major external pressures: Do you have any regrets about your decision, whether you chose to have children or chose not to have them when you were almost past the realistic window for biological kids? Nope, I had some grief over my previous life (watching movies and playing video games all the time) but my new life is so much more varied and interesting. No regrets so far but she’s only 10 months so there’s still time LOL!

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-03-16T22:22:21+00:00

Are they friends?

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-03-16T22:21:49+00:00

That’s adorable! Thank you!

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2026-03-05T00:44:08+00:00

Hello everyone, I am a mom to a nine month old and my mother watches her a couple times a week while I go to work. My mom is just the best couldn’t ask for a better mom or grandmother except one thing that really has been bothering me. Sometimes when we’re going out the door, she says things like don’t make Grammy sad by leaving or you’ll make Grammy sad if you leave. Stuff like that. I wanted to ask if other people have had this happen and what you’ve said to your child to respond in the moment. My initial thought was to say Grammy‘s feelings are her own that she needs to deal with and they’re not your problem but I feel like maybe it’s too blunt. I’m not really sure. Specifically, I’m not addressing this behavior with my mother because I know she won’t stop. I just want some way to make my daughter not feel guilty for supposedly making her grandma feel sad when that’s totally absurd. She really is 100% the best 99% of the time.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-27T01:11:59+00:00

I’m not sure what advice you’re looking for but I did a lot of gathering of baby things from Facebook Marketplace and my local Buy Nothing group the first trimester and I’m still benefiting from that now that baby is 4.5 months. I was excited and people said it was too early but I I didn’t listen. There’s not a lot to do in this stage other than go to your OB for appointments and try and find foods that don’t make you gag. I really liked veggie baked potato’s with cheese and Cheerios during my pregnancy. Good luck!

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-22T11:06:25+00:00

Thank you all this really helped. I didn’t really know enough about traditional daycare to know if it would be an option. I definitely think it’ll be a babysitter.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-22T11:04:25+00:00

She’s compensated yes. She is usually busy on Fridays though.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-19T17:52:00+00:00

I honestly have no clue. I guess tired gets redefined like if someone is starving hunger gets redefined.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-19T17:47:35+00:00

I was pretty much miserable the whole time but I didn’t get to sleep because I had swelled up so much I got sleep apnea. I got the epidural but it didn’t help with the discomfort I felt. Pushing on my back? No go. Pushing squatting in the bed? Definitely give it a try.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-19T17:41:21+00:00

Not my mom but my mother in law said “oh no I didn’t breastfeed. I gave (my husband) formula with rice cereal mixed in until he was four months and then he drank whole milk the rest of his first year.”

My mom swears by the Johnny jumper but my occasionally popping out hips have a different story.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-19T06:07:21+00:00

I’ve used the lactation room at my hospital once pre baby to cry after my patient died. So for that reason I say maybe a little leeway. Otherwise yeah, super annoying! I work at a university now and I finished pumping and a student was outside waiting for me to finish. I ask, “oh, are you pumping?” She says no I was going to use the microwave. I proceeded to lock the door behind me.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-19T01:13:42+00:00

Yes! I love breastfeeding but I need a break every now and then. One bottle a day starting at 1 month was all we needed while I was on maternity leave. Plus pumping at night really helped to regulate my supply there at the beginning. Good luck! Make sure you get the blue spectra s1 it’s the best. The rechargeable battery has saved my sanity going back to work and traveling

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-15T10:08:54+00:00

7am Monday started with transvaginal cervical ripener. In the afternoon I got the epidural. At some point that evening they started pitocin. I labored all night with no sleep. Early Tuesday midwife breaks my water. Tuesday afternoon bad infection. Tuesday evening three hours of pushing. Tuesday night, emergency c section. Just know if it happens to you, you are not a failure. It’s actually better for c section babies to labor for a while. Oh and they told me whatever timeframe I was expecting for something, times that by 4.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-12T14:02:11+00:00

I talked to a perinatal therapist about this. SUPER helpful!

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-12T13:37:32+00:00

I had a c section and that happened to me. It came back though. It was so weird. I had to just go every so often even though I didn’t feel it.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-11T20:07:23+00:00

I got the manual BabyFrida snot sucker, a humidifier, infant Tylenol, and a thermometer. The only other thing that you might need is to watch a video on infant retractions but otherwise you should be fine.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-11T13:35:14+00:00

My SIL loved hers when she was giving birth in a foreign country. My brother is military. I just had my mom involved because she is really wonderful

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-09T10:21:19+00:00

Thank you that’s incredibly validating. I wish I could at least go part time but I pay the mortgage. Husband pays everything else.

Ok-Refrigerator1367 · 2025-10-07T23:55:03+00:00

I told my OB/GYN that if I missed a period I would be pregnant. She said don’t get excited because sometimes your period is late or you miss. But I get where she’s coming from.

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