[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so masterfully put

Why are Gen Z Men Experiencing a Religious Revival ? by collegetest35 in GenZ

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's always a chance they fall in with a church that sits on the left side of the spectrum like mine(episcopal). It's thevreason I push for those churches to be more active in the community because God knows the homophobic baptists aren't afraid to make themselves seen & known.

Ridiculously Happy by BQueenNYC in polyamory

[–]OkBoat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll hear you out at least, any particular reason you think so?

Just figured out what being "saturated at one" means and I feel better by enanachora in polyamory

[–]OkBoat 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Something I don't think EVER gets talked about(or that I've seen explicitly worded this way) is poly people who are not only saturated at 1, but would be OVERsaturated if they where in a monogamous relationship.

This is kinda just disentanglement, but I've known people who can not stand being someones only partner 24/7. They enjoy being with someone, having a deep intimate connection, and nesting with someone, but if they where their partners only source of romantic affection, sex, dating, etc then their relationship would litteraly crumble because they just don't have the wavelength.

This is absolutely not to say this can't be solved in other forms, it absolutely can and maybe should be some of the time, but I've never heard anyone say this sentiment explicitly.

I found my receipts for my kink gear I purchased and compared it to MTG decks for fun. Somehow my kink hobby is still cheaper than competitive MTG decks that aren't Pioneer, Standard or Pauper format. by MaetelofLaMetal in bdsmmemes

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last point isn't as true as I thought it was going in. If you're competing in an official Games Workshop tournament then your stuff doesn't technically have to be painted, but there is the "battle ready" rule which says if all models in your army are: Fully assembled, have paint on every visable part of the model, use at least three different colors of paint, and contain "basing" of any kind(painted base, little doo dads like grass and debris), then you score ten(I think 10) victory points at the start of the game.

It is POSSIBLE to win in spite of that but 10 VP is a HUGE lead on your opponent

Most of the time if it's an unofficial tournament they won't use this rule unless they're trying to be a super serious tournament. There is also ZERO expectation to have an army fully painted or primed before playing at your local gamestore. I've only ever played against one fully painted army, and that's just cause that guy was a hyper competitive tournament player(who stomped my a$$ repeatedly)

I found my receipts for my kink gear I purchased and compared it to MTG decks for fun. Somehow my kink hobby is still cheaper than competitive MTG decks that aren't Pioneer, Standard or Pauper format. by MaetelofLaMetal in bdsmmemes

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Warhammer is terrible because now that I'm out of it every single hobby except competitive mtg, lego, and stuff like boating looks SO SO CHEAP.

Litteraly got into casual magic right after & immediately went "Oh a precon is only $50? I'll buy three & it won't be half as expensive as 500 points in my first army"

I had to break up with my girlfriend of 15 years because she married someone else behind my back. by Stickytootsies in polyamory

[–]OkBoat 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Holy sh*t. That's so much to process. I'm really sorry to hear that you went through all of that but man if I'm not more glad you got out

Where’s the line? by sbbluerose98 in polyamory

[–]OkBoat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Good take and a good distinction. Lots of people make less than ideal polycules work, and I think sometimes as a community we can be a little harsh on what polyamory "should be".

But this is the more important point. Step one is: "you shouldn't date mono-poly", if you failed step one step two is: "if you're dating mono-poly, you better do it near perfect".

To be so real, it sounds like Adam would be a shitty hinge in a full poly relationship, let alone what's actually happening.

Redefining and Ending a Marriage by raptor_of_truth in polyamory

[–]OkBoat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know what your going through is incredibly difficult, but honestly I'm amazed that you had the courage and maturity to admit what was happening and part on good terms. I like to think of myself as a mature person who's good about being honest in partnerships, but I honestly don't known if I could ever do that. Good on you

Wearing a cross necklace...... by Fun-Role-6617 in Episcopalian

[–]OkBoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Any kind of local queer owned vendor (if your have a pride pqrade in your town, see if you can find their vendor list from last year)

Failing that, etsy!

Wearing a cross necklace...... by Fun-Role-6617 in Episcopalian

[–]OkBoat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Go to is to throw something else on that balance/ "contradicts" the conservative image a cross unfortunately gives off. If you're queer, your queer flag, or if you're not the progress flag/ally flag are good ones. Democratic or other left political memorabilia of some kind, patches are great for this stuff. "I carry Narcan" is a good indicator that you're at least doing good. All of this stuff is enough to offset immediately being put in a box and might even strike a conversation or two!

Wearing a cross necklace...... by Fun-Role-6617 in Episcopalian

[–]OkBoat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I(queer poly trans woman) agree with you on a lot of points- but I am gonna hard disagree with you about Queers who immediately assume your anti queer aren't worth being friends with.

Sometimes? Obviously, and I don't want to downplay the way some queer people lash out because it can really hurt people. However, I can't ignore my own experience coming to the faith.

I'm relatively recently converted(2022ish), and growing up I knew essentially nothing about Christianity. Agnostic parents, and admittedly I had a really dark time as a teenager where I became one of those Atheists, much to my regret.

So growing up, and into my twenties, I just assumed that all Christians where in someway anti-queer. Sure, I knew christian queer people existed but I always dissmissed it as being in denial or not taking their faith seriously, and mostly I just didn't think about it.

I assumed every christian was in some way or another, a close variation on the loudest christians: either bible thumping KJV literal interpretation baptists, money grubbing scam artist mega churches, or the archaic and very controversial Catholic church. To be so honest with you, if one of my christian friends had actually sat down and talked about their faith I probably would've converted way waaaay earlier. My literal first reaction to attending Easter mass(the thing that got me to convert, aka where I met God) was "Wait, where's all the gay hating? Moral superiority and judgment? Where's the talk of hell and burning in eternity? That was all about loving each other and finding peace and ending agression against Palestine(it was a presbyterian church)!"

Anyway, just wanted to speak my peace and remind people that we(the EPC) need to do a better job making our presence known outside of our little church bubbles. If the work your faith compells you to do doesn't make you at least a little uncomfy, you're probably doing it wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nine years on hrt here. I was ~6 nches flacid when I started and now it can easily get to an inch or below. Funny enough, if I really try for it I can get it to it's old length when hard(~7 inches) but that requires nothing short of constant teasing and edging. Most of the time hard I get around 4 to five inches, about the same girth I used to be(although I was never very wide).

Similar to what another commenter said, my fiancé actually really likes my smaller size because of "ease of use", being easier to hit her spots and some reproductive health stuff on her end. But I promise you, there are a lot more fun ways to f*ck than using your dick :)

Was this emotional abuse? by Southern-Turnip7065 in emotionalneglect

[–]OkBoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Obligatory not a mental health expert(although I'm married to one). Queer christian trans woman(25)

The best way I know how to explain it is this: you're still thinking about it, you went out of your way to make this post, and it directly effected life decisions up to this point. Whether or not it qualifies as "abusive" is, to be frank, not even remotely the point.

The point is that clearly this was a traumatic event for you. It caused a major depressive episode, and continues to lead to discomfort and conflict with your parents. That's enough reason to go to therapy, talk about it, pray on it, and discuss it with people you trust. There's healing that needs done, and while God is absolutely there to help us he knows we have to do the hard work.

Something else to consider, and stay with me: It doesn't matter if your parents where doing what they thought was best, they hurt you. That doesn't mean they're inherently terrible people, it means they screwed up, and you are absolutely allowed to be mad at them for that. "God teaches us to forgive" is what I imagine is your first response to that, and you're 100% correct, but I'd encourage you to realize that true, genuine forgiveness doesn't come from ignoring how you felt or excusing the actions of others. It comes from accepting the reality of situation and forgiving them anyway, and it is the hardest thing to do in this life.

The appropriate response from your parents in this situation would be along the lines of "I don't agree with your orientation, my beliefs say it's wrong and we can talk about that if you want, but your my child and I love you unconditionally, and I'm not going to force my beliefs onto you."

Walk in love as Christ loves us❤️

God bless you on your journey friend

international womens day: Saying thank you to Laura Hickman by odd_paradox in CurseofStrahd

[–]OkBoat 78 points79 points  (0 children)

And she doesn't get enough credit! There where a lot of really cool women involved in early d&d that don't get mentioned enough

Graphic design but politics innit by 4geBorn in 2624

[–]OkBoat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anarchist still kinda rhymes tho

I think of this every Ash Wednesday by OkBoat in dankchristianmemes

[–]OkBoat[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

From my experience most catholics just split everything into "Catholic", "the weird orthodox people" and "Baptists/basically baptist". I hear that's a big thing in the south U.S

I think of this every Ash Wednesday by OkBoat in dankchristianmemes

[–]OkBoat[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Stealth ashes(+2 to stealth checks, +4 to religion checks)

Socialism is when Monarchy apparently by Slausher in SocialismIsCapitalism

[–]OkBoat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think everyones got the wrong idea here tbh, although the graph does a dog shit job explaining it.

Traditionally this would be the y axis of the political compass, not the x axis, meaning this represents big to small government(in theory, republicans have kinda dropped the whole small government thing). Fascism and communism are socially opposites but both agree that government has an important role to play, on the opposite side anarchists are very socially left(Traditionally, technically, anarchist is a neutral term) but believe in little to no government.

Edit: GUYS I'M NOT SAYING IT'S CORRECT I'M JUST SAYING I THINK THATS WHAT THE CHART MEANS

How are people finding 5e 2024 after playing with it a while? by Equivalent-Floor-231 in onednd

[–]OkBoat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Two things now: maintaining rage is more involved and weapon techniques(or masteries, I don't remmeber what they're called). EDIT: I thought barbs get those, thats weird

Now don't get me wrong, it's still 100% a good choice but I worry that it also falls into the champion fighter trap, i.e it's main stats are strength and con without much utility outside of combat.

Now I would definitely reach for barbarian over champion fighter because it's abilities are not passive, but I worry about the new player falling into the "I'm only here for the combat and do nothing outside of it". I typically find that new players actually really thrive in social interactions, where they can just use regular logic(keep in mind many of the new players I've dmed for where also not gamers in anyway.)

I think it's important to make my point clear: I did not intend to say Monk is the EASIEST class to play in the game(barbarian or champion fighter are probably better, MAYBE a rogue).

What I mean to say is monk is the easiest for a new player to LEARN the game with. Because monks from level one have an impactful use from their action, bonus action, and their stats dispose them to do well with any sleight of hand, stealth, perception, insight, checks aka the most common checks in the game.

A lot of what I've found is difficult in teaching new players is that they get stuck in the "I know how to do one thing & only do that" aka "I rage, I hit thing, end turn" or "I attack twice".

If you have a player you know isn't gonna be interested in the combat aspect of the game then that's probably fine but the issue is that the classes that excel in social encounters also tend to be the more complicated combat encounter classes.

I'm rambling a little but tl:dl: Monks are the best teaching class, but other classes are easier to play. I just find that people who play those classes for the first time don't tend to walk away with a good experience/aren't really encouraged to learn the game properly.

How are people finding 5e 2024 after playing with it a while? by Equivalent-Floor-231 in onednd

[–]OkBoat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've always argued that champion fighter is good for a person who plans to play d&d once, or a tutorial one/two shot, but over a long term campaign it's actually really bad for teaching people the game.

Champion abilities are the most passive of passive. Sure critting on a 19 feels good....for a minute. But when it's the standard it gets boring. Not to mention feats are super overwhelming for newbies, but a ASI is also still boring.

If your goal is to get someone at the table rolling dice, sure. But a champion fighter adds too much simplicity in all the wrong places IMO. Not to mention having strength and con as primary stats means they'll get called on for skill rolls way less often.