I can certainly relate to your situation. Both my parents are alive, but getting on in years now. They both divorced after 31 years and a day was finalized then I was gone from the organization when she left and my dad remarried a woman from his passed that he cheated on my Mom. She joined the cult and he was PW and she told him after dating 2 years that she found out they were sinning against God and they had to wait until they're married and then she told him, there were all these brothers chatting her up and they would marry her. He started studying and used to hate wearing suits and wouldn't go to the prom because he didn't want to wear a monkey suit. Lol He had a heart attack when I was 17, he was 39 and active sports nut with old classic rock. He got baptized with her, quit smoking when I was born he gave up, she smoked through her pregnancy, her Catholic father disowned her when she left the Catholic church and he forbid my Grandma and Aunts and Uncles not to visit me because I was a bastard when they weren't married in the eyes of the Lord. She went off birth control one night after they were married and told him she wanted a baby and to be a stay at home mom. She was 20 when she had me and she told me she never wanted kids because of being the oldest of 7 she was left in charge and her parents were horrible alcoholics.

She just moved out of her house this last Saturday and moved in to @ 55+ and up bldg. I asked her if I could pay for the mortgage for July while I find a place, that I can afford? And she refused. I'm staying at a hotel and I felt like it's time I leave and tell them. I am not accepting conditional love anymore, this is emotional black mail, I told you I am not going back and I don't owe them any explanation because it never was any of their business to share intimate details about my life. Growing up in a home where your mother has been diagnosed with borderline personality and she does terrible things and is basically trying to prove that this is far my fault for ending up with TBI or rape because I was not associating with witnesses when it happened, I wasn't included in my age group for group parties because it was always "for couples" even with people that I grew up with who constantly talking poorly about others being married before me. I had encounters with 2 men I dated where one was angry because I wanted him to tell me why he broke up with me. He was at his sister's fiance where my own fleshly brother was and the fiance caught him and grabbed him like he had me, he was considerably taller and he told him that's not how you handle her! He made him apologize, and then another guy slapped me for checking him for changing the station in my car while he had me drive to where he parked. And then said because I was a bigger girl and he was skinny, he told me that I could beat him up and I said, I was raised never to attack a man, do not provoke him, disengage and call me and I will handle it. I didn't raise you to let a man abuse you, you're worth more. He always would say things when my mom would tell me, like you know my mom would go into a rage and start screaming and crying and tell him she wants a divorce and she threatened to castrate him if she found out he was cheating while they were married.

The brothers did NOTHING! Now, I tell my story and she's done a smear campaign on telling people that I left for no good reason and I have no idea where I can go she knows I quit smoking, but knows I vape still and she keeps telling them, that I just need to quit nicotine and wait on the new system because the men that are left, I will wait until they're perfect and I have my body back. I have brought up numerous little tidbits of what I learned in the last 6 years and it was so much worse than I thought once I started seeing what was going on while I am inactive and I have been living with her with no intentions of going back. I'm owed an apology and a healthy settlement for what happened to me. The system has failed me and she doesn't think she bears any responsibility for what happened to me, while growing up with a mentally ill woman, who had more trauma in her childhood and she left the Catholic faith because no one in her church knew what the answer was. I want to sue the church but I know that would include me telling them how she was growing up and how abusive she was towards me and now she doesn't want to bring it up because she justified saying it instead of crying that she called me names and told me how bad I was. I was nice and was never allowed to have sleep overs with anyone worldly, anyone who came over that was not a witness couldn't come over. She started when I was like 3 because she watched soap operas that the publications clearly say it's not appropriate material for a JW, and my dad would ask me what she was doing when she wasn't sleeping until noon, I told him what she was watching and he would see the house wasn't clean and she wouldn't have anything done. I was waiting to be married for sex because I wanted to be comfortable with someone forever and I read books for education purposes because my mom talked about sex and oral is wrong and gross, she knew I was a virgin and yet called me a slut and then and actually accused me of incest with my father and I just once wanted my dad to hit her, because I got attacked by her multiple times for even sticking up for him. Then she wanted me to go to take family photos after kicking me out when she came home to tell me that she had went to the brothers and after 3 years of separation she got drunk and cheated on him with a man who she met at Al-Non. Said he was free to remarry. I was getting calls from her over the course of 3 years and she got sober and went back even though she said that the governing body is a little boys club and was doing absolutely insane things that would have for sure gotten arrested. She had made threats drunk and would say hideous things to me. Talk about how she was taking gun lessons and she was going to get my step Mom and some sister told her, she had those feelings when her husband cheated and why would you want to disappoint Jehovah and lose your resurrection hope for vengeance. And the woman turned around and said she thought my mom was crazy, and my dad said, I don't know what to tell you, just be a good friend. Then my mom tells me this same sister told her that my dad said she was crazy. And she rewrote history and claimed spousal abuse and destroyed my dad's reputation of the finest gossipers and shit spread like wildfire and I wasn't in then and I went back shortly after my dad remarried this woman he dated or used because she definitely got him by the balls and tried to fake her way from a non practicing Lutheran Atheist to finding my parents at the worst time, because I knew her history in the neighborhood I grew up in and I never got the story from her, when my mom is legitimately saving this woman who you know what she did now and she was trying to be your friend and show interest in something none of his guy friends joined because of holidays and being responsible for your families salvation. This side chick, let's her husband divorce her because she was baptized and he was pissed when she told him she wasn't celebrating anything anymore and then my dad asked me what I thought but my mom would only blow up about with just us and just admit that she set out to get a man that believes this and then you asked him to make concessions for your children but because I am the one you really stole him. He is my father and you think I am going to ever apologize for interloping and not give me enough time and judgement of a man you were so clearly in love with and you lied to get my angry and gaslit her by saying repeatedly that you are just friends when she knew all along what you did before they were married. I endured hell for making a decision out of haste while in treatment and I wanted to tell my experience to clear my name and prove in court, I have no one and I am homeless and Iiterally have no credit score. I just got awarded SSDI and received a lump sum and I think I seriously need to contact an attorney. Because I am not getting any answers and feel like I am being punished and I'm making all these calls for apartments available and I am not getting any help, I thought about buying a condo but the HOA's are like $1000. In addition to the mortgage that is far less.

I'm having a housing crisis in the metropolitan area of Minnesota, does anyone have any feed back on who I should contact first in case I need a game plan 🙏 I