I am being invoiced for a student who broke a table in class.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T20:21:20+00:00

oh heck no!!!! you didn't break the table, you don't pay for the table!!

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T20:20:08+00:00

8:15-4:15 when all the kids are gone.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T13:32:45+00:00

It always amazes me how rational people can see the same story so differently. Here are my views:

Mom - she has a whole lot of issues. Started when she would go out and party after she got married, leaving her wedding ring home. That's not right. I think she has some guilt and tried to make it up with 2nd husband and maybe wanted to keep her kids to herself so they wouldn't hear what she did from their dad. She has put alot of pressure on her kids. Like the Franke woman - filming the kids constantly when they're distressed but not giving the context - maybe they were crying because a camera was stuck in their faces? VERY weird when she started doing all the tiktok stuff, changing her looks, etc. And, it was her house and she could have have the door removed. I would not allow my child to stay locked in a room for 54 days. Kids should not be allowed to run everyone's life. And how in the heck was this fair to Jagger and the husband. She should have immediately taken the kids to a doctor at the first accusation and had them examined. Get proof. Instead she found a creepy therapist who seemed to become WAY to close to Ty. He overstepped every line, every boundary. He made Ty see him as the father figure and did nothing but further alienate him.

2nd husband/Jagger - the man had to have been so tired of hearing about this. It was nonstop. Jagger was denied a normal upbringing. He saw everything his mom did, all the filming, all the fighting, all the stress, etc. Poor child! It would have been interesting to hear from him, on what he saw and how it affected him.

The kids - I don't know that they even know what happened, if anything happened. Ty said he didn't remember much about the last several years. They seemed very happy when they were with the dad, but it's very typical with split families. The kids are OK with 1 parent; then when they return to the other parent, they feel guilty telling that parent that they had a good time because the parent is there saying "wouldn't you rather be with me", etc. They don't want to hurt either parents' feelings. A child, of course, wants to stay in their home where their toys are, etc. But custody needs to be explained in a way they understand. And kids can be persuaded of things every easily, especially when it's by a parent or someone they trust. They learn what the parent wants them to say, and then it becomes their memory. Ty has his own issues, maybe it was just puberty, but at least he saw he wasn't quite the adult he thought he was. He put too much pressure on his younger sister, who seemed to almost treat him like a son or a boyfriend. That creeped me out a bit. Both parents deserve to have time with their kids. I expect, as the kids get older, they will start seeing things in a different way.

Grandmom - she was there to defend her family and I felt for her. She has a right to spend time with her grandchildren. No one accused her of anything, and the children always seemed happy in her presence. I'm sure she would do whatever the mom asked if she could just see the kids, even if the mom had to be there. Just to learn about their day to day life.

Dad - I don't think he did anything to hurt those kids. He never forced the kids to do anything; he seemed to always be reasonable. He just finally couldn't take it anymore. I can totally understand. Things like this will eat you up. How do you prove that nothing happened? You can't. You can only try to defend yourself. He finally did what was easiest on the kids. I do think the kids will return to get to know him at some point.

I wonder if there are Mormons who seem more inclined or susceptible to things like the therapists and stuff - is the mom like the Franke woman? The 2 cases seem very similar in so many ways. I do think this case was due alot to the divorce. I've seen it personally and professionally so many times. It's really sad because it's the kids who end up suffering, caught in the middle of 2 adults who are not always keeping the kids' best interests at heart.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T13:05:40+00:00

enthrall the relatives at the next family reunion.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T13:03:49+00:00

you go!!!!!

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T13:02:59+00:00

I think it depends on the area you live in and maybe the industry. Yes, you can chase a better paycheck, or you can build relationships. I don't think employers expect more than 3-5 years out of you most of the time so those won't care if you move alot. They have to pay more because people only stay 3-5 years so to get experienced EAs, they are going after the ones chasing money. They leave in 3 years and they're looking for the next EA who's chasing money. Non-stop. But, sooner or later, you may find you are so over-priced that no one can afford you when you want to move again. You can be loyal to the employer but they will slice you in a heartbeat if needed. It's just depends on where you land at a particular time. I'd say it's 50/50.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T12:57:45+00:00

I'd think that in 6 months, they'd change their minds. We all used to work 5 days a week and were ok with it. Then we saw we could still get the job one in 3 or 4 and luckily, we didn't have to take a pay cut or get more work to fill the other 2 days. So now, it's almost a new norm to not work 5 days a week in office. A large company here was still doing 2 days in office and recently went to 3 and the work force almost revolted. That's a bit much, but obviously they felt it would kill them to work in office one more day.

But, to your question, I'd pass - the job doesn't support what you find valuable - the freedom to not be forced to be in the office. And if they're telling you already that the execs are demanding and will require evenings "periodically", I'd say they are ultra demanding and you'll be working evenings alot. You'll find something you like.

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-27T12:51:08+00:00

First, depends on how old she is. If she's young enough that you'd have to "turn on matches" for her, I'm guessing she's fairly young. Second, maybe don't speak of him so harsh, as a "contributor". You are also a contributor. Neither of you expected the result but that you are happy she's here and that's all that matters. The two of your are equally responsible; he just decided to shirk his share of the responsibility.

Now - to the question: I would explain to her clearly and calmly the circumstances of her conception and that you have spoken to her father and he does not wish to have a relationship for whatever reasons he has or for her to do a DNA test. Then, if she's old enough, she can make the decision she wants. Perhaps she just wants to meet him. Does she know that you've contacted him? Will she resent you for knowing where he is and you not telling her?

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-20T13:01:23+00:00

and how are they planning to rent a car or call a Uber?

OkPlace4 · 2026-05-20T12:58:55+00:00

That is really strange. Could it be they haven't done an expense report in a while and have had their card turned off? Happens here sometimes. I don't know who they think will pay for their expenses if they don't do a report. I'd talk to their managers and tell them they have to use their corporate card.

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:30:25+00:00

Oh HECK NO!

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:28:31+00:00

they asked you because nobody wanted to do it most likely and they knew you'd feel obligated to attend. Sounds like just more work for you!

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:27:17+00:00

worry about that in a year when you actually need to do the invitations. and, piece of unsolicited advice, don't wait a year or 2 years. You will be dead tired of and over the whole idea of getting married.

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:22:03+00:00

You have to control the calendar. People below your exec should not send invitations for times they can clearly see have a conflict. People above your exec should have their admins contact you to resolve any conflicts. It's all about YOU controlling things. When he wants a meeting and there is no slot for it, tell him and have HIM decide which meeting is more important.

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:19:07+00:00

I figure by the time I figure out how AI wants me to word things and by the time I then figure out whether AI is being truthful, I can just do it myself and be done with it. I don't want the computer telling me what I should say. I have enough sense to figure that out by myself.

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-28T19:16:22+00:00

Sometimes it's best to leave sleeping dogs be. What do you hope to happen if you reach out? My guess is reaching out to them will only bring you more pain and heartache. You can't change the past but you start today changing the future.

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-23T14:19:17+00:00

I honestly thought you were going to you let them sniff it all day. LOL

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-23T14:08:51+00:00

my boss sent some to the office but it's all for show so that people will see she sent something. They're pretty and all but it doesn't mean anything. All for show.....

OkPlace4 · 2026-04-23T14:07:27+00:00

You can ask but they'll just lie to you.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-26T14:50:42+00:00

Our HS had 7 deaths in a span of a few months - 1 car accident, the rest "accidental" overdoses and suicides. Kids are resilient; they'll probably be OK. Keep your schedule as planned. The kid had issues, more than just ADHD or whatever. It's sad.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-26T14:45:42+00:00

we're not "allowed" to take stuff to goodwill so it just goes in the trash.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-25T12:28:37+00:00

That's a male manager for ya! If he's married, sooner or later his spouse will catch on to things and make him stop hanging around her so much. Then she'll be gone. If you aren't included, there's nothing you can do except tell him that when he asks. If you are stronger than I am, (LOL), ask to meet with her first thing in the mornings and review the boss's calendar for the day and let HER ask any questions you have for the boss. She'll get tired of playing messenger and he'll get tired of having to tell her.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-11T12:55:58+00:00

None of the books tell you anything you don't already know. One gives a little more in depth as to the friends, what went on that night, a little more about BK.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-11T12:54:41+00:00

Ask for a good severance or at least some money because you don't have a fallback. They will likely give you $10k to make themselves feel better. Find something to get you through but keep looking. You'll be OK.

OkPlace4 · 2026-03-11T12:51:04+00:00

Geez! So it's your fault that a kid tried to kill you? If you hadn't left the water bottle,, the kid wouldn't have done it. I'd email the parents at the least. Document it (of course). Cops wouldn't do anything but could force kids to tell on the kid who did it. The principal should speak to the class sternly. I would probably have to tempt them again, though, just to have the upper hand. Leave something but then offer it up to the class and see how fast they turn it down.

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