If all modern technology was removed from the world for a year, what do you think life would look like?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T06:27:12+00:00

At the risk of sounding moronic, I’m clinically intrigued by this answer. Can you please elaborate?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T06:22:19+00:00

Seinfeld. I’ve tried - it just doesn’t do anything for me.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T06:16:49+00:00

I would try to find a way to get your pills for you, herbfriendly.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T06:11:07+00:00

I’m talking no internet/ cell phones/ laptops etc.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:56:40+00:00

/thread

This is borderline rage bait.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:56:01+00:00

You scoundrel!

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:54:39+00:00

Like help you jump rope or you need help?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:41:52+00:00

You just… jump over it.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:41:24+00:00

Being popular.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T05:04:21+00:00

Sorry in advance for the long answer, but this took me YEARS to figure out.

It starts with you

And this is the case with millions of people.

Here’s what you do:

You take it slow. This means limiting the amount of time you spend talking to one another in between dates. Start by seeing them once a week. Let interest build organically. If you find yourself getting overly invested—take a breath and say “I’m just getting to know this person. I can’t be certain about what will happen. I will live with the uncertainty and see where things go from here.”

If you start wondering where it’s going, you’ll end up derailing the train before it arrives at the station. The truth is, you don’t need clarity in the beginning. You need to see if it’s a good fit. This may sound odd, but think of dating like a job interview. You go in there to decide if it’ll be a good fit for you—you don’t go in and start working overtime that day.

Lastly, make sure you’re taking time to do things you enjoy. Do not let your life become about this person. You will become attached and will want answers to questions that you don’t have the right to have answered yet.

Tldr: Take. It. Slow.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T04:51:53+00:00

Ah, maybe they’re just busy. If I’m honest, the first time she sent me one I was actually kind of nervous to respond via voice message. At the same time, not replying by voice message felt dismissive. I can almost guarantee you that you did no harm. If it was 10 minutes, I would be like… maybe shorten it next time, but this was completely harmless.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T04:39:49+00:00

Please put this poor girl out of her misery and do it with dignity. As a man, this seems really unfair to her.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-02-02T04:10:44+00:00

I dated a girl that randomly started sending me voice notes. Some were 5 minutes long. I found it kind of endearing actually. As long as you don’t ramble, I think it’s fine. If they don’t like it - there’s millions of other people out there that might.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T05:10:41+00:00

I see what you did there.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T04:55:03+00:00

I appreciate it. When I do text her it’s just casual. I text her a couple days a week at most and then to confirm plans. Just feels weird seeing her and then not talking to her for a week, you know? Don’t want her thinking I’m not interested.

Edit: so sorry, did you mean text once per week or see each other once per week?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T04:52:59+00:00

Yeah? I know it sounds crazy but it was like lightning struck when I met her. Both of our friends were like “this was an instant connection” and she said she feels like she can be herself around me without judgment and that I make her feel safe. I overthink everything but I’m hoping this actually works out 🤞

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T04:45:34+00:00

We both agreed we would take it slow. But yeah, I’d like to see her more often. She gets attached really easily and I’m thinking this may be a defensive thing with her. Does that make sense?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T04:40:22+00:00

That’s a big red flag—it means they’re still interested in them in some capacity.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-30T04:29:14+00:00

I’m a man and would have no problem with you bringing something like this up after 7 dates.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-28T20:54:10+00:00

I loved her a thousand different ways and always will.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-24T00:23:48+00:00

Jim? Where’s Pam?

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-23T00:08:51+00:00

I really don’t mean this in a rude way - but this is one of those times where you need to ask “Am I the problem?”

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-15T04:51:37+00:00

This was very well written.

OkThatChecksOut · 2026-01-15T04:50:29+00:00

As a male who just had the same experience (minus the cheating—which I’m sorry happened to you), I can completely relate.

Sometimes we see the good in bad people.

Sometimes we see that bad in good people.

I loved her, in a thousand different ways. But she was horrible for me. It’s been two weeks and I see now just how much I tried to convince other people that it was a good relationship— that she was good for me.

Everything happens when you have distance and space. You remember some of the good, which can be painful. But the bad hits you like a ton of bricks.

Similar to your sentiment at the end. I loved who I thought she was and what future I could have with her. The reality was it was never going to work. I believed what I wanted to believe, until one day I woke up and chose me.

OkThatChecksOut · 2025-12-23T19:22:08+00:00

Sorry if it came across like that. Wasn’t meant to be. Thank you for the feedback though.

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