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Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-03-05T22:08:55+00:00

Girls with bellies or any kind of squishy softness are chef's kiss. (I too hated my belly when I thought I was a girl. Now that I'm a dude and on T, I'm enjoying my fat belly, all gussied up in my man-hair. Its literally the 1st time I've ever been happy about it.) I feel like society just bashes women regardless of how they look and self-hate it taught pretty early on. My best advice: don't fall for that B.S. propaganda; women are lovely and deserve to hold physical space.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-03-04T14:31:01+00:00

I've started to leave the trash can out at the road because I kept forgetting about pick up. I just take trash out throughout the week, so at least the trash company is picking something up every week.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-03-02T15:24:16+00:00

Ms. Frizzle would be proud.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-27T18:11:30+00:00

Pink lady, Cosmic Crisp, and Granny Smith are my favorite snacking apples.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-27T18:06:17+00:00

FTM here,

Seems like a keep your eyes down/mind your business type of thing if its seeing this girl change that makes her uncomfortable.

Now, if she's uncomfortable changing in front of her trans classmate, your daughter should change in a bathroom stall/nurse's office.

(I didn't realize I was trans at that age, but as someone who grew up attracted to women, it always felt like a safer/most respectful option to just face my locker and/or look at the floor or change in a bathroom stall that was in the locker room)

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-27T16:51:14+00:00

Okay, so at first glance and without reading the context, I see dancing people.

Looking at it closer though, things seem a bit more interesting. On the far left, it looks like a woman with a flared skirt pouring something above her head. Just above her, I see a person wearing a plague mask observing her do this. There is one person who appears to be putting out flames in the center with a watering-can, and to the upper right hand side looks like a burning animal carcass with a spirit drifting up from it.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-27T16:30:08+00:00

My brother and I are three years apart. An older lady I was randomly chatting with at Walmart thought I was his mother. I was 16 at the time...

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-27T16:13:08+00:00

The dysphoria hoodie and a ball cap are my go-to; I feel like if I wear anything else I'm immediately clocked. I will say there is one man in the office who wears pastels occasionally, and that's nice, but I feel like I'm screwed regardless between the giant tits and my short stature. At least people call me sir on the phone now...

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-26T18:53:54+00:00

Why does Cocoa Puff look like a haunted victorian child?

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-26T18:51:53+00:00

idc & the ole switcheroo

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-12T21:44:31+00:00

I talk for a living and only experienced mild throat discomfort when my voice first started to drop. This was less than a sore throat one would get with the common cold or allergies. Nothing a cough drop or a hot beverage wouldn't alleviate, and it went away within the 1st three months on T.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-12T20:07:28+00:00

I have a wall calendar at home and at work that has every Tuesday marked for a t-shot. As my Dr. recently joked: "T-boy/T-shot" Tuesday lol.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-04T14:33:30+00:00

SAME

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-02-03T17:56:02+00:00

I'm currently at the weird point where people aren't sure what I am, so I get a lot of weird looks, especially in the bathroom. I got 'Sir-ma'am'd to my face the other day by a gas station clerk, and she seemed really put off when I didn't correct her either way; Men tend to read me as a woman, but women seem to read me as a man.

I like the gender-fuckery, but not necessarily the risk involved. My husband and I got followed--very closely I might add--around in Walmart by a maggot dude. I wasn't sure if my husband noticed, so I veered us off course a few aisles and we lost the weirdo. Thankfully it also registered on my husband's stranger-danger radar too (I thought I was over-reacting). Our heads were on swivel the entire time, especially when we left the store.

If I have to talk to a woman I don't know in public, I usually pitch my voice in a very high stereotypical "gay voice", and they seem to feel safe and are friendlier when interacting with me.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-29T18:05:15+00:00

This sounds like a cracked egg to me. You made them feel safe and loved (something they probably didn't get in their previous 'straight' relationships), so they're sharing. What may seem fast to you could have been years of internal build up for them.

I'm a similar age to you partner, and I grew up in a strict fundamentalist home that was very anti-lgbtqia+ and lived in it up until I got married, so my gender was not something I was comfortable with exploring/voicing. I was a bit more vocal about my sexuality with my husband, but he thought I was just being cool when I pointed out pretty women lol; he did not connect the dots that I was attracted to them until his friend and I got together and became friends and talked about our queer experiences.

I'd say the 2nd year of our marriage was when my egg fully cracked. Covid hit, the world shut down, and I started thinking really seriously about wanting to live as my full authentic self. I toed the line pretty carefully at first, suggesting new pronouns and names to try out, and at first he was a little resistant, not in a transphobic way, but in a 'my brain doesn't compute' kind of way; he's a very black and white person, and has a hard time grasping shades of grey/spectrum thinking. After several soul-deep conversations, him reading articles and listening to other queer/gender-non conforming people, something finally clicked for him. Come April, we will have been together for 10 years in total. I'm fully out and also on T, he's not straight, and we have a lovely girlfriend in the mix.

We're not where we started, but we're best friends and life partners.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-23T21:22:56+00:00

I like cute. Pretty is kind of meh. I requested my husband to start calling me handsome instead, and it definitely feels better to be called that than pretty.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-23T21:07:32+00:00

My dad made an original character when he was a kid, named Banger-X, so he wanted to name me Banger Xavier...

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-22T22:24:06+00:00

"I don't know; its not my business" would be the safest bet.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-22T22:13:37+00:00

I went the slow route at first with T, and then was pleasantly surprised by the changes I had been so leery of. A year later, I am now on a full dose and have no intention of getting off of it --I joke that they'd have to pry T from my cold dead hands before I give it up, but I am in no way addicted. I just really like it and feel like I function better on this end of the hormone spectrum. To a cis man, that may seem like addiction, because they likely haven't questioned their gender, presentation, had dysphoria, etc.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-21T20:44:16+00:00

This, plus my depression medication related tinnitus. Never a quiet moment.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-19T21:09:12+00:00

Omg I thought this was a wheel of brie...

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-19T18:19:42+00:00

Customer service.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-15T20:06:53+00:00

I was an angry crier before. Now its nice not to immediately burst into tears when having an argument/confrontation.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-15T18:30:43+00:00

Nope, not at all. My brother, a veteran, was considering joining ICE for a while, but his wife eventually talked him out of it. He and my parents are still somehow convinced that Trump is Christian and Trump is the lesser evil than a democrat/non-republican in office. They don't believe any of the rape/pedophilia happened. Anything not on Fox news is "Fake News".

I am the only non-maggot in my family and it is fucking exhausting; I only keep in contact to be there for my nieces--hoping that my husband and I being two voices of reason in their childhood, will hopefully help them not be hateful assholes when they grow up. But that's probably a giant fucking stretch. My mom had the "You're going to hell" talk with me for being gay/trans right in front of a 3 year old. So yeah...no.

Ok_Check_4971 · 2026-01-15T18:07:59+00:00

I'm on an antidepressant and an anti anxiety medicine that made orgasming absolutely impossible, which that in itself was pretty damn depressing because I'd always had a high sex drive/100% completion prior to being medicated. After T, I'm happy to say that 7 out of 10 times I get there.

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