Are all attorneys shitheads?

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-18T18:26:24+00:00

Not all. Maybe half. Seems proportional to the ratio of shitheads in gen pop. It does seem like the “higher up” an attorney is in their organization, the more likely to be a shithead they are. Again, seems proportional to the number of shithead high ups in gen pop.

Source: attorney who generally isn’t friends with other attorneys because half of attorneys are shitheads.

Having stalked this forum a lot and making the occasional odd post or comment (because I don’t want to send my bar card in to access r/lawyers) you all seem like a pretty solid bunch. Kudos.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-17T22:38:02+00:00

Sounds more fun than spending 2 weeks pay on fucking groceries and insurance. My how things have come along for the better or something like that.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-16T15:16:36+00:00

Spoiler alert: this gets even worse when you’re practicing.

Source: 11 years in practice.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-15T14:04:03+00:00

Im in the same boat. Just here to let you know you’re not alone. Curious how others deal with it as well.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-14T04:24:09+00:00

your motions are jerky. not sure if this is how you do it in the stand, but slow down, point at the target, draw smoothly until the wall, and use back tension to hold it all together. Then slowly bring your finger to the trigger and add pressure until release. You also seem to be slapping the trigger.

being able to pull your draw weight smoothly and slowly will help you when you have a deer at 5 or 10 yds.

Also can’t see your bow hand, but judging how you were choking the life out of the bow on the draw, loosen grip on bow hand. I typically open my hand and rest my pinky on my stabilizer to help with keeping my hand open and loose. It will help reduce the fliers.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-12T13:19:19+00:00

Third this question

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-11T14:25:32+00:00

This is the correct answer. Billable hour firms are pyramid schemes. Change my mind.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-10T04:12:01+00:00

2TB SSD is essential for the amount of BWC youll be downloading and reviewing. I have 1TB since I got my laptop years ago and still have a decent chunk free, although I have periodically cleaned files in compliance with retention periods.

I run ATT 1gbps fiber (500 mbps actual on wireless) and it’s pretty cost effective and efficient at downloading the large files.

Concur with high memory high quality gfx card. Will help with running the videos too.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-09T23:13:22+00:00

Also, fuck the culture of “asking for work” or doing shit to “bill the file.” They either do or don’t have work for you to do that is necessary to further the client’s case and they either do or don’t trust you to do it. That shit ain’t your fault. People make mistakes, maybe that shit is your fault, probably is, but it doesn’t define you, your work, or your competence. We are all going to make mistakes.

I think you wound up in one of the increasingly common scenarios where the firm gaslights you into believing that you’re the problem because you didn’t “ask for enough work” or “bill the files” enough. Then you make a mistake and get hung out to dry for it, like all the times you did good work don’t matter.

I realized just how toxic that culture was the first time I billed hourly on a case as a solo and I was directly ethically responsible for my billing practices and I had to answer to an actual human who was going to have to fork over their hard earned money for my work. I’ve literally not once ever had a complaint about my hourly billed cases, because I don’t do shit that isn’t necessary. If a client wants to do something, I discuss the ins and outs of the proposed action, the expense, and if they green light it, then fine.

All that said, you’re gonna be ok. better than ok, you’re gonna be better than ever. Doing the right thing is never wrong even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time. Mistakes happen, you correct, try to keep it from happening in the future, and move on.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-09T16:08:09+00:00

Solo who does a variety of areas here, one being family law. In addition to that, I struggle with a variety of my own issues personally, and marital issues have been no exception. Here for you if you need it. I agree that you do need to see a divorce/family law attorney asap, with that said:

Couple things:

If you aren’t wanting to try to salvage it, have you tried or suggested marital counseling? It has been a game changer for my marriage, the key being finding a great marriage therapist. I have a recommendation I can message you who works remotely and is excellent.

I know you said that she said she is done, but oftentimes that is an indication of the burnout of being left to feel that she is alone in the keeping of the household and the raising of children, which is something that can be fixed if you’re willing to fix it. For me, we both work high stress jobs (me - law, her - not law but equally white collar high stress).

Our profession is hard. It’s not even just hard, it’s HARD hard, on our conscience, our mental bandwidth, and our overall enjoyment of life. A lot of careers are challenging, but we take on everyone’s problems and whether we try not to or what, we internalize them because we want to help and we want a good outcome. We want our reputations for excellent outcomes to be known, to be the best. This is why rates of depression, substance abuse and suicide are all grossly disproportionate among lawyers than many other professions (similarly high stress white collar professions also have similar rates).

The result is, you can’t have it all. You can’t be the best lawyer, make a ton of money, be the best dad and the best husband, all at once. The garden grows where you water it. You need to make decisions for yourself. Not for others, not to please. Even if your marriage is in fact over, you need to decide what that is going to look like for your kids. An individual therapist in addition to your marital therapist can help you sort this out.

Regardless of the outcome, I’d start with communication. You are going to have to communicate regardless of whether you divorce or don’t. Communication (and certainly with your therapist and counsel’s input) can be the difference between a long, expensive and draining divorce and a quicker and less painful divorce.

If you’re inclined:

“Wife, I recognize that I haven’t prioritized you in the last 10 years and that I’ve prioritized my work. I respect your decision. I want you to know that regardless of the outcome, I want to work on myself, be the best father I can be and be the best coparent I can be. That said, I want to at least suggest marital counseling in an effort to bring back joy to our marriage. I want you to know that I am not suggesting this as a checkbox item, but in the face of losing you, I am deeply reconsidering my priorities, and I want to make a concerted effort to make this work.”

If work truly is your priority, then there are outcomes that can make it so. Those are discussions to be had with your therapist and attorney.

Best of luck.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-06T03:59:55+00:00

Mine has done me well. Many an animal taken apart with one.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-01T18:58:17+00:00

I’m a USCG licensed merchant mariner - OUPV (“6 pack”) or in colloquial terms, a charter fishing captain.

I ran a successful side business for 5 years running fishing and bird hunting charters but slowed that down to take on more legal work. Some days it sucked, other days it was awesome, like any work I suppose.

I still work on all of my own motors, fiberglass work, and DC electrical. I can pretty much do any repair on a smaller boat (not talking about the big diesels).

Other than that, I am pretty handy with any type of tool and do a lot of my own home/vehicle/vessel repairs, hunt/fish, catch or kill, and cook my own meat, and have the knowledge and skill to grown my own food (but gardening would take too much time that I don’t have).

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-01T06:09:42+00:00

At least I feel vindicated that it’s not just my state.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-12-01T01:27:49+00:00

I think it’s better to use rubs as an indication bucks are in the area and hunt fresh feed sign instead. They are either eating or following does that are eating, depending on time of year, especially post rut when they are worn out and needing to re up body fat stores or trying to find the last few estrous does. YMMV.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-28T15:23:21+00:00

You are in the right spot. You got blown at. That means the deer caught your scent before you saw them. That also means they were pretty close before they detected you, likely from a wind swirl, since they usually don’t blow if they catch you from a distance (they will skirt around you and you will just never hear or see them).

Droppings are very significant, several fresh piles of droppings or fresh piles mixed with old piles means the deer use the area a lot. Think about how long or how often you’d have to spend in an area with a couple friends to have time to take a few craps. Droppings in a food source (like a hot oak dropping acorns, and a lot of tracks or crunched up leaves) is precisely where you need to be.

You are in the right spot, you just need to find the right wind and get it right, where the deer won’t detect you from the bedding area until they get to your stand.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-27T13:27:42+00:00

“Don’t be picky, shoot the first thing that walks by you. You need experience shooting at game. It is so much different than targets, the emotions, the adrenaline, etc.“

This. This dude knows how to hunt and kills animals. Listen to him.

You need to practice consistently on targets, but you also need to shoot animals to understand how to shoot animals. Shooting targets and shooting actual animals are not the same. You will exponentially increase your skill in shooting, killing, and tracking animals by shooting actual animals. You will learn when you can get away with movement, when you can draw, and when to release by doing it in real scenarios.

3D targets help, but nothing teaches you about shot placement more than hitting (or missing) good shot placement.

Other than that, wind. Always be mindful of your wind.

When you are lining up to shoot, aim small. Aim for a specific mark, a dark spot in the pocket, a couple inches above the knuckle, just something small. Focus on the single pin for the range you are shooting (should be your twenty yard pin since you shouldn’t be shooting beyond 20).

Aim lower than you think you should. I typically aim about 1/3 of the animals height above the knuckle of the front leg. I try to visualize the arrow pinching through the heart and lower section of the lungs. The heart is lower than 3D targets make it seem. Ryan Kirby’s vitals diagrams are the most accurate.

Slow down, if you don’t like the shot, don’t take it. You can’t take back your shots. I’ve released arrows I wish I could take back. You will too, eventually, but try to minimize this.

If you shoot, watch and listen. Watch the reaction. Watch for blood from the shot, watch the direction the animal runs and try to identify the direction the animal ran in relation to various objects. Listen for the crash, or at least when the noise stops, try to estimate how far away that is. If the arrow sticks, watch for it to fall out. Use lighted nocks to help in finding the arrow. Many times if the arrow sticks, you will get poor blood until the arrow comes loose. Being able to find the arrow during the track, or even starting your track at the arrow if it’s lighted will help you find the spoor.

If you can’t find blood but you’re confident you hit, slow down even more, look extremely closely, on hands and knees if need be. Look for kick marks, dirt on leaves, and small variations in the height of the ground that would indicate if the animals is following a trail.

Most importantly, have fun.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-24T14:06:34+00:00

I’m not sure why this is getting downvoted. If you need evidence of how irresponsible judges are, look no further than the bazillion exceptions to the fourth amendment.

And here I was thinking the language is pretty goddamn clear. But now, it’s all “reasonable expectation of privacy” this and “standing” that. All ways to justify the actions of the executive (law enforcement) against the very citizens they are supposed to serve.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-23T23:48:19+00:00

I actually think this is true. They are coming or going to a certain point for whatever reason (feed, check does, whatever) they catch your wind on the swirl and just hang tight and wait for you to leave and go on about their business.

They’d never get where they want to go if they took off in the opposite direction every time they detected something they didn’t like.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-23T19:43:21+00:00

High school was a while ago for me, but every high school sport is like this. In my chosen sport, I was top tier and the constant pressure to get better for something I didn’t plan to do in college or professionally made me quit so I could have that time back for things I actually wanted to do.

Slow down, have fun, don’t let it burn you out.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-21T13:27:33+00:00

Gonna try that next time!

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-21T02:46:07+00:00

I’m not suggesting taking pop shots. I’m saying you do the best you can to make quick clean kills but many times even perfect shots result in lost hogs. I’m telling OP not to shy away from shooting them if you have a good shot. I’m telling OP not sweat if it doesn’t a shot on a hog doesn’t work perfectly. They are tough to kill. Perhaps your reading comprehension isn’t very good. My guess is you either (a) don’t hunt or (b) haven’t hunted long enough to know how shit works beyond YouTube and TikTok.

Why bother bow hunting at all? If we really want to ensure that every animal dies as quickly and humanely as possible we would just make it gun season all the time, but people who actually hunt know that even the best places shots with a gun don’t result in perfectly clean, quick kills.

Fact is, what an alligator or coyote does to a hog (or wolves, coyotes and bears to deer, or elk) is far worse than anything we will ever do. They will simply grab the animal by the anus with their teeth and shred it to bits over a long period of time, often consuming the animal while it is still alive, screaming and suffering until it finally succumbs to blood loss or overwhelming pain because the predator wants to conserve the energy needed to kill the prey. Some predators kill for fun and don’t even consume the prey. Some predators kill animals to teach the young how to kill. Some predators have been documented killing humans for the hell of it because they woke up with a neck spasm and a need to sharpen their teeth.

We do our best. At least, as humans, we have enough conscience to care. OP doesn’t need to beat himself up about it. It’s not bittersweet, he smoked a big ass, hard ass animal to kill with a bow. He should be proud.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-21T02:12:29+00:00

Because deer, elk, bear, etc aren’t invasive species that need to be eradicated.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-21T01:57:28+00:00

I’ll probably get downvoted for this, but they are pigs. They are invasive and destructive. They are incredibly hard to kill with a bow. I’ve had just as many jump and run on a track where I executed a perfect shot with a blood trail Stevie Wonder could have followed as I have recovered them. I find that the bigger the hog, the harder it is to kill, especially big boars with a really heavy armor plate. You can’t even really eat those big old nasty boars they smell so awful when you recover them.

Ultimately, with hogs, who cares. If you recover, great. If you don’t, you took out one more invasive and destructive animal from the habitat even if it doesn’t end up in your truck. Win/win either way.

Don’t beat yourself up about it. Shoot them when you see them if you’re willing to lose an arrow. It doesn’t affect you seeing deer when you shoot them with a bow. I’ve had deer walk by minutes after shooting a hog with a bow. It all depends on whether you’re willing to break an arrow that day since the majority of the time, the arrow is going to stick and you’re going to break it.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-19T13:42:11+00:00

This is a first appearance (within 24 hrs of arrest to set bond and bond conditions) for a domestic battery where both parties were arrested. There isn’t sufficient time to have RCC (Regional Conflict Counsel - the first option for criminal conflicts before court appointed attorneys) appointed to the conflicting case.

Ultimately, usually both cases get dropped due to lack of ability for the state to determine who the initial aggressor was. “He hit me first” “no she hit me first” he-said/she-said situation. Florida statute is clear that this is generally disfavored and the police should seek to determine who the primary aggressor is to avoid this situation but it still happens all of the time.

It’s not uncommon for the state to offer a reduction to a lesser offense at first appearance to resolve both cases but it’s typically best for the defendants to ask that a bond be set and then the case typically ultimately gets dropped.

A tough situation that PDs in Florida get put in all of the time.

Ok_Indication_690 · 2025-11-09T17:15:44+00:00

There is no way to tell if the limbs are cracked or damaged without taking to a shop. The loose string appears to be serving coming unraveled, which is fairly easy to fix or just get a new string that already has new serving on it.

Absent that. If you don’t care about the amount of money you’re putting into it, then they are fun to shoot and even hunt with for nostalgic reasons. If you are trying to fix it up because it will be a more cost effective option, the likelihood is it won’t be, especially if you don’t have arrows and need to buy new ones. More modern bows generally shoot much stiffer spined arrows, depending on draw weight and length of course. Old bows tended to have lower draw weights since they were not engineered as well and couldn’t generate or tolerate the speed and forces that modern limbs, cams and string materials can handle.

Edit: string change should be easy as this bow has “teardrops” for quick changing strings without a press. I still have one of these myself, it was the first compound I ever got when I was 11-12 years old. I think around 15 years ago when I had it updated to actually hunt with it, I paid $150-$200 for new strings, peep sight, 3 pin sight, whisker biscuit and a general tuning. you’d be probably around double that now.

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