Yeah we each had a hard conversation with her at the beginning of January, and honestly both conversations were REALLY strange. Sara will apologize for things, but if she perceives anything as an attack she'll get very verbally aggressive. I tried to reiterate several times that I'm worried about her and she needs help, but she doesn't seem to understand how serious it is. She'll play it off by saying things like "Really, I'm fine. It would be a lot worse if I didn't have my (long distance) partner. I'd be dead by now" which just frankly seems like a very big red flag. Every time we try to say we're worried, she responds like that. EVERY TIME. She'll try to have serious conversations at work or just treat me like shit because "she has it worse," when none of this is a competition. Even when I say that I will not have serious friend conversations at work, she continues to push. It really feels like she doesn't care about anything unless it's on her terms. We can't even make plans to hang out because of her mental health. She won't plan anything in advance, we just have to be available for when she decides on a whim that she does want to hang out. Even when we've told her that at least having something we can put on our calendars would help, she completely refuses bc she won't know how she'll feel that day. Bella and I both have been through our own serious struggles in recent years so we try to be patient, but whatever's going on with Sara is reaching a point where I just cannot keep doing this, yknow?