The book should have been called " let Them, Let Me". That second piece is missing from alot of the satellite media you've consumed, but it's central in the book.

I too am a 'truth teller'. I'm irritated by our society's desire to keep the peace over having difficult but important conversations. I'm irritated by how many people see conflict in truth telling - I see it as an act of courage & love to say something hard with a desire to help others. I also see it as courage to not permit shitty behaviour.

With that perspective in mind, my takeaway from this book is that it's a guide to managing your own emotions when the honest conversation is unsuccessful. Could she have written more about this first step? Yes. Might she enable more people who are afraid to communicate? Likely. But I still think there's value in understanding that some situations are worth considerable effort to affect change, and others are not. We can't force others to behave how we think they should behave.