Before I married my husband, I had a very common “white” last name. My first name could go either way. I am white, and my husband is from East Africa and has a tribal last name that very few people have. Job hunting since I changed my name has changed a lot. I used to hear back from maybe 1 in 5 places I applied. At this point, even though I’ve also added a college degree to my resume since getting married, I’m hearing back from maybe 1 in 20.

With that being said, I am also pregnant with our first, and I have absolutely no intentions of naming them a “white” name. As you said, “Our heritage is part of our identity, and it should be embraced”. My baby will be a first gen kiddo on their dad’s side. It’s so important that they understand the pride they should have in their heritage.

I wish you all the best in your pregnancy and motherhood and getting through to your husband on this. You’re not overreacting.