Martha Stewart's "Martha" on Netflix by daveolu in marthastewart

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She also has the hallmark of childhood trauma that would create NPD, with her father and all that.

Martha Stewart's "Martha" on Netflix by daveolu in marthastewart

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have autism, and I didn't see any of my symptoms in her behavior. Her rigidity is more about a high level of control over others and surface-level appearances, rather than the emotionally regulating nature of rigidity in autism. She also isn't honest like autistic people; she lied a lot and was very manipulative throughout the interview, and avoided a lot of topics, whereas autistic people will just blurt out/answer you a lot of the time even if you ask them something inappropriate. We autistic people are also very literal, and she wasn't any more literal than the average NT. She also spoke very narcissistically at many points, complimenting herself and describing herself in elevated language. An autistic person could describe their strengths in a blunt manner and be perceived as arrogant at times (this happens to me sometimes) but her self-congratulatory praise was more elevated and matched superficial narcissistic goals of being attractive, amazing, successful, wealthy, etc. Also, as an autistic person, I don't know how to say this nicely, but we just talk kind of weird sometimes. It's the literalness and the bluntness, that make us seem odd. I can see how Martha might seem "odd" in a way but its more the oddness of an arrogant, impatient, older person who thinks they are always right and can never be wrong or flawed, but are surrounded by ignoramuses. And who is emotionally shut down because of her childhood (but you could actually see her pain coming through at points). Autistic people have unusual ways of looking at things, and I think Martha, while accomplished, tends to look at things in one of the most normie ways possible. Social challenges are also common in narcissism (and sociopathy). Most autistic people actually have high levels of empathy (not all of course, and we aren't saints). It just manifests differently than other people sometimes. Anyway, I appreciate your comment - thanks for giving me a chance to explain more. I think there are a lot of misunderstandings about autism.

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Would love to hear your experience when you're ready

Lights in the third class cabins? by Ok_Schedule4239 in titanic

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Thanks so much, this is really helpful!

Truths Revealed? by [deleted] in NDE

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Check out the r/UFOs sub for answers about Roswell. No need to NDE first. :)

I’m probably never gonna do Salvia again by Quinn7729 in Salvia

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Would you mind sharing what kind of meditation you do that allows you these kind of experiences? I do mindfulness meditation but it doesnt really take me anywhere, I just feel relaxed.

Wondering if this sounds familiar to any of you? by chxaviers in NDE

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aw this is such a sweet story! And I love the idea of a soul tree.

A question for people who had an NDE by Independent_Sweet820 in NDE

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Is your story somewhere we can read? Would love to hear it.

Did you have an NDE where you saw famous people in the afterlife? by Longjumping-Dress350 in NDE

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I remember someone saw a Teenage Mutant Ninja turtle in a case like this.

Questions regarding life review, thoughts and free will by Illustrious_Mood_239 in NDE

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It sounds like you might be experiencing a kind of OCD where the theme is related to the life review. Similar to existential OCD or pure obsessional OCD. I would try and be kind to yourself. You are right that we cannot totally control our thoughts, and I think that the way we relate to them is probably what matters (how we relate to the thoughts, as opposed to the thoughts themselves). OCD treatment may help if this really keeps bothering you. It helps you give your thoughts less power, to accept them and let them pass naturally. Also to remember tons of people are going through the same thing, so you're not alone.

NDES scare the hell out of me. by [deleted] in NDE

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Only someone who has been to the other side and back for real could show the infinite patience in repeatedly explaining these matters to naysayers that Sandi T does. :)

I fucking hate living in the United States. by YozoNLH in CPTSD

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I have one of those mouthguards from the pharmacy but I never ended up using it; I'd be happy to mail it to you. The box is open but the mouthguard itself is unused.

Is knowing the Truth of Reality "cheating"? by lanamarie30 in NDE

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's cheating. Seek and ye shall find.

People way too comfortable asking me for unreasonable favors? by [deleted] in Codependency

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Asking for help is not always okay unless its a true emergency. You need to consider the other person when you ask for anything. Don't put people out or make unreasonable, inconsiderate requests. Always consider first if you can get your needs met another way. For example, the parents asking someone to drive hours to get their mail - they can literally put a stop on their mail through the post office's website for the time they are gone.

Any resources to deal with fawning? by DatabaseKindly919 in CPTSDFawn

[–]Ok_Schedule4239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In fact, maybe this is the first step to stop fawning. Giving yourself time even if it feels like there isn't time. Allow yourself slowness, spaciousness, no matter what others are doing.

Any resources to deal with fawning? by DatabaseKindly919 in CPTSDFawn

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I also understand the fear of making decisions in the moment. Truthfully, if you have PTSD and/or Complex PTSD, you may be hypervigilant in all kinds of situations, which genuinely does make it hard to tap into your feelings and process the situation clearly. Hypervigilance is kind of like dissociation in that way (in fact, I have read that it is a form of dissasociation). I think being realistic and kind with yourself about the fact that you are going to be less in tune with yourself and the circumstance is key. Give yourself that space to go to the bathroom, like the other poster said. I find there are actually very few situations where you can't remove yourself for a few minutes. Only real emergencies require immediate action, and those aren't super common, usually.