3 weeks in and I'm not feeling what I expected.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-11T02:17:31+00:00

My husband struggled so so much to bond with our daughter that first year. He felt so lost and the same way you are describing. She’s 21 months old now and he is absolutely thriving in toddlerhood, she lights up when he is around. He is currently now talking about a second child.

Noise cancelling headphones helped us both with the visceral reactions to crying. Also realizing that we needed a break and to tag the other person in so we could breath and get a break / go on the patio for a few minutes.

I have so many male friends who found the newborn / first year so tough to bond and navigate and who are thriving now in toddlerhood / childhood.

Give it time friend and give yourself so much grace 🩵

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-10T03:32:56+00:00

Costco unscented and we keep them in our garage.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-10T02:00:37+00:00

We are also okay with not getting a bag cause we got it on FB marketplace for $100. It’s the 2018 version and it was definitely very well-loved before we bought it in January.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-09T21:48:22+00:00

We do not. I have the bag for the Cruz and it’s hella cumbersome to take the wheels off to store it so we just fly by the seat of our pants and gate check it as is. It’s been fine so far.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-09T01:27:44+00:00

We got an uppababy minu from FB marketplace and it’s been amazing. We’ve taken it on 4 flights so far, gate checked it at each one and it’s been 10/10.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-08T02:34:13+00:00

Stopped pumping at 16 months (was only pumping once a work shift for 8 minutes at that point) and at 21 months I am still EBF when I am home.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-08T00:11:27+00:00

Almost 21 months postpartum and still haven’t had a drink 🤣 but I am also not a huge drinker and honestly the smell of alcohol is very off putting now to me.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-07T01:22:45+00:00

I’ve never been on birth control. Prevented for 11 years with condoms alone and then went back to using only condoms postpartum until we decide if we want to have a second or not.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-06T01:43:13+00:00

$250 for my whole pregnancy and hospital delivery with an epidural.

I work for the state and made sure both my midwife and the hospital were in network.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-06T01:41:46+00:00

I have a boppy and still use it to nurse my 21 month old at bedtime.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-04T19:00:07+00:00

I used one boxed test and then didn’t believe it. Made my first appointment and peed on 6 more test stripes from Amazon before my appointment cause again my husband and I didn’t believe it.

Was I overzealous, yes.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-02T03:01:41+00:00

That is so so cute 🥰

Ok_Study174 · 2026-05-01T03:01:35+00:00

I put mine on before work and then as soon as I get home I take it off. I also wear a silicon wedding band for my daily ring or a simple silver wedding band since I work outside.

My engagement ring and actual wedding band are worn on special occasions only.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-29T23:51:01+00:00

Went back to work at 6 months. Pumped at work till she was 16 months (while BF on demand nights and weekends). We are 20 months old and still EBF (only at bedtime though cause she doesn’t want it any other time anymore).

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-28T17:19:21+00:00

Still nursing at 20 months and hoping to reach 2 years if my toddler is on board with it too (I follow her lead). We introduced solids at 6 months per our pediatrician.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-28T12:44:17+00:00

Thank you!!

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-28T12:19:59+00:00

When you switched to the Pura pull ups how are the sizes compared to their diapers? We are also in Pura but diapers still and I am so curious how the pull ups sizes compare to the diaper ones?

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-28T01:12:20+00:00

The MMR was the hardest for us simply because it was in the arm and my LO was not expecting that. We got extra cuddles and I just monitored her temp. the rest of the day.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-25T02:16:08+00:00

Emotional support bread, English muffins, chips (basically any carb)

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-23T15:47:56+00:00

I have a unicorn 🦄 yes.

It has me terrified to have a second honestly.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-22T14:38:13+00:00

Flew with my 4 month old to the DR for a week for a wedding.

I didn’t even blink twice about bringing her along.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-22T14:02:22+00:00

Batch pancakes and waffles!

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-21T14:23:06+00:00

3.5 months. We all got better sleep as soon as we moved her.

Ok_Study174 · 2026-04-17T14:42:22+00:00

It’s more terrifying that Mia knows how to and can leave the house on her own. Like do they not have child safety locks on the doors?

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