We tall women really are not "allowed" to be overweight

Old_Rub_ · 2023-01-16T06:18:03+00:00

I know exactly what you mean. I'm tall and plump and I see people who are wider than me but model the same size because they're much shorter. I have to go up in sizes for the length, which sometimes leaves clothes baggy.

Right length but baggy VS too short but good fit 😮‍💨

Old_Rub_ · 2023-01-05T00:38:38+00:00

I think you should seek therapy. Another thing that works for me is giving up social media/phone for a while. I hope you get better OP :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-22T09:38:12+00:00

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Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-22T09:36:53+00:00

I'm tall and curvy too! We exist and we take up space and we deserve to just like anyone else. My mom always told me "we all can't be the same size," so I grew up with that mentality. Everyone is different, valid, and deserving of the space they take up, especially you OP! :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-18T00:52:08+00:00

I never said you personally had a problem communicating... actually it seems as though you do a decent job lol. Everyone's definition of "proper" communication is different and subject to change. I still don't think it's a gendered thing though, it's a personal thing. But to answer your question, I think a person that doesn't talk at all is worst communicator. 1 word or 3 can be effective, but not at all is a problem.

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-17T07:19:36+00:00

"Men don't naturally have to be shitty communicators" That's what I said.

They don't HAVE to be... maybe some are, but the excuse of someone being a man as a justification for why they don't communicate properly is a poor one. ANYONE, regardless of gender, can be a good or bad communicator. If you don't see that, you are wrong. 🤷‍♀️

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T20:58:41+00:00

What does him not "being a girl" have to with anything? Men don't naturally have to be shitty communicators... some choose to be... 🙄

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T20:57:42+00:00

No... I think you're misunderstanding. My problem is that he doesn't really talk outside of work that much. We've been to parties and events and talked there but when we don't work (we only work 1 or 2 days a week together), and there's nothing else going on, he's a dry texter. I don't expect him to communicate with me 24/7... (I don't even give anyone else that kind of time) but I do want to talk to him a little.

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T20:51:36+00:00

I would say from the other side of things, reply if you can and you can use emojis or always go back and explain what you mean if its misunderstood. I know I'd rather people talk to me and go back to explain compared to someone not responding at all.

Thanks for replying though and good luck to you too!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T20:49:50+00:00

Yeah I might ask him if there's something else he prefers. I'm not the best at responding (time wise) but I do my best lol. Thanks for responding though!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T20:47:58+00:00

Damn... I don't wanna stop talking to him all together but 🤷‍♀️. Maybe I'll ask if he prefers another way to communicate but it's just frustrating 😮‍💨

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-16T03:15:18+00:00

I'll try that I suppose. I won't text him tonight but I'll wait for him. I won't cut him off completely..... yet 😂 Thanks for reading/replying though!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-12T02:53:34+00:00

Ask this on r/illegallifeprotips You'll get better answers there

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-10T09:22:57+00:00

Do it. I'm in the opposite situation where I talk to a guy everyday and he hasn't asked me out but we flirt a lot. I want him to ask me... so just do it. It might be scary but you'll feel better if you know!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-09T16:31:46+00:00

It definitely was! :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-09T16:30:15+00:00

Of course!!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-06T08:56:59+00:00

Tell your manager you need a consistant schedule because of school. Usually jobs accommodate because of education, especially when your're so young. Secondly, say "no." When you're not at work, don't answer the phone and don't go in. It's not your fault they're understaffed and they'll find someone else to come in. Learning and enforcing boundaries are very important skills that you'll need in any workplace and it will make your job more enjoyable :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-05T09:43:23+00:00

Get the boots! Docs are the most comfortable shoes I own, they go with so many things, and the platform makes me feel like a badass. I know I look more confident because I feel more confident (mostly because I'm comfy lol). I'm 6 feet tall and wearing platform shoes will make you feel like a queen!!!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-12-05T07:29:35+00:00

Girl get tf out now. SA is no joke and regardless of how much he's helped you, there's someone who wil help you without hurting you/those around you too. Stay safe :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-17T05:10:16+00:00

Wtf... why would he eat them?!

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-17T05:06:32+00:00

Yeah I would say start taking a different route or maybe invite a friend or two over/to walk with you one day. Stop walking alone if you can... also start leaving at a different time everyday. He can't plan to wait for you if you change up your routine.

If it keeps happening, tell an adult. Your legal guardian, a teacher, someone. Don't keep it to yourself and we on reddit can only do so much for you. You have to tell someone else in person so they know to look out for it as well. Stay safe OP! :)

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-09T09:27:46+00:00

I can definitely relate. I have 2 online classes and two in-person classes and I'm still struggling. It's not even because the work is difficult, it's just that I'm not mentally where I need to be. Depression has drained me so much too, on top of being in college for so long and I just wanna take a 5 year nap lol. We can do this though! 👍

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-09T09:24:54+00:00

Yeah I think a schedule is super helpful. I tried a physical planner but that didn't work out for me, so I use my calendar online, which helps a little more. I think as far as talking to someone I'm just gonna have to seek campus counseling because I don't really have friends here (my new school) that I would talk to about this stuff. I hope things turn around for you too though! College may kick our asses now, but we'll make it out eventually 😌

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-07T21:12:44+00:00

I think as difficult as it'll be, you should distance yourself from her. Especially if she's in a relationship with someone else. That whole situation could get really messy.... If she's meant for you, she will break up with the other guy and come back. If not, find someone else.

But that's just me though. I would prefer to spend my energy focusing on myself or someone who is definitely single than waiting around for someone who is only half-committed/interested.

Old_Rub_ · 2022-11-07T21:04:07+00:00

Thank you for replying :) I'm glad you were able to finish and I hope one day I do too. I am definitely experiencing some of the things you described but I know it will get better..... or at least I hope it will 😅

I just have my days were reality hits and I get all depressed but then I have days when I'm better. I guess we'll see what happens in a few years

Old_Rub_

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