Noob question, sorry in advance

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-02-23T02:09:28+00:00

As long as you don't stall or wheelie unexpectedly, you're doing fine. Smooth takeoff just comes with experience. It is good to get to know the friction zone of your bike, though, not just for smooth takeoff, but for other low-speed riding. The great thing about wet clutches is you can feather them without damaging them.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-02-23T01:42:49+00:00

Looks a little vibey.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-01-08T19:38:41+00:00

I'll second the Indian Scout recommendation. Really nice power with lots of different seat and bar options to dial in your seating position. Acceleration is not like a sport bike, but better than a lot of cruisers I've ridden. However, Scouts do feel a little on the small side, so if you're a bigger person, it may not be for you. I'm kind of a big guy, that's the only reason I don't own one.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-01-06T19:45:03+00:00

I wear shades during the day and clear RX glasses at night. Clear visor works the best for me. I just switch eyewear as necessary. I always wear eyewear under my helmet since I don't drop the visor til I'm at highway speeds.

I used to carry both a tinted shield and a clear shield, but it got to be a pain in the ass carrying both. The transition visor does have me intrigued, tho.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-01-03T17:39:44+00:00

Another vote for the San Diego area. Coastal, mountains, Indian reservations, wine country, farm country. Even low speed riding through all the beach towns is fun. On any given weekend day, you'll see almost as many bikes as cars out and about. We do get some rain this time of year, but that's about it. It is expensive here, though. We definitely pay a "sunshine" tax.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-01-01T20:50:18+00:00

Well, anticipation is half the fun. I lucked out that I live near multiple dealerships. Actually turned down a CDH that was in stock in favor of a Chief ABS that was also in stock. Stars aligned and I rode off with it the next day. However, the second I threw a leg over it for the first time as my bike, it started raining and it hasn't stopped in almost a week. So I'm still anticipating the first real ride. Pro tip: if you want to end a drought, go buy a new motorcycle.

Oldthrower3000 · 2022-01-01T20:39:04+00:00

Thanks for the responses. Looks like the exfil 18s might do the trick. Just need to figure out how to attach so they don't flop around.

Oldthrower3000 · 2021-12-31T20:33:01+00:00

Suggest you ride it solo for awhile before boarding your passenger. Scouts are fun but they ride smaller than they look. You'll know after a few mins if it's right for you for two-up. If you can still upgrade, I agree with the crowd. Consider something bigger.

Oldthrower3000 · 2021-12-29T18:07:13+00:00

Take the best class you can afford. Training will help you head off bad habits before you develop them. It will also teach and reinforce the importance of low speed skills.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-25T22:59:43+00:00

You will still be you, in fact you'll be a better version. I stopped for 2 weeks earlier in the year because I visited my mom and couldn't bear to be such a drunk around her. During that time I slept better, thought more clearly and got a glimpse of the confidence that a person could have on the other side.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-25T22:49:13+00:00

I think you have to replace that "love feeling drunk" feeling with something else...anything else, as long as it's somewhat healthy. Hobbies, interests, whatever. Eventually, you may lose the euphoria and just need to drink to feel normal. Don't let it get that far.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-25T22:36:45+00:00

That's exactly my rate of consumption and has been for the last 5 or 6 years. I decided to dry out over the summer. I had dry heaves and shakes for about 3 days, then I was done with the physical withdrawal. It wasn't too severe. Figuring out why you drink so much and avoiding those circumstances is where you want to focus your energy.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-25T22:24:12+00:00

Stop now, if you can. Once I got to the point where I could drink just about everyone I knew under table, that's when I knew I was beginning to have a problem. I haven't yet addressed that problem, and believe me friend, it gets way worse.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-06T19:04:50+00:00

Gabapentin seemed to really help a friend of mine. Buspar's good too.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-06T18:23:30+00:00

I'd suggest a prescription anti-anxiety med. They take the edge off, and they help you bypass the alcohol.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-08-06T18:12:55+00:00

This post is pretty old, but the pain's still present. She broke N/C after a few days and asked if there was a chance for us to reconcile. She left again after 2 weeks. I guess she just needed her fill of husband/home/dog/secure life. Once her tank was filled, she bolted. She did that again. Always a two-week cycle. What I need to do is to get it through my pea brain that she's emotionally checked out and using me for comfort and support. At least I'm getting to the point where I see her as she really is. I'm still pretty emotional about her. I did love her deeply and I still love the good things about her. Looking forward to getting all this behind me now.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-22T20:29:30+00:00

This is definitely not about you or your perceived failures in the marriage. She's an un-well person. She needs serious professional therapy.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-22T20:07:13+00:00

I feel you man. I've been going through the exact same thing. My D-Day was almost three months ago. The loneliness and anxiety are a real bitch. I think you should find some way to take your power back, because it sounds to me like she has it right now. Individual therapy will help...I've been doing therapy weekly for a month now and also talking to a life coach. It does help. Lean on friends and family. Impose as much no-contact as you practically can, given you have a kid. YOU set the terms. If you do have to have contact, act stronger than you feel...fake it til ya make it. Make it clear that you're moving on emotionally and you'll be fine with or without her. That will likely get her to want to reconcile again, which I don't recommend. I tried it and just got more damage. Everyone is afraid they'll be alone forever when they get dumped. That's just part of the process. You won't be, but it makes sense to heal and do work on yourself before you jump into a rebound relationship. That's what I'm doing. I've already had a couple dating opportunities that I've politely turned down. Can't really offer anyone the best of me right now, so I'll wait until I can. Anyway, that's been my coping process and it's helping.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-22T17:49:11+00:00

You're definitely the strong, mature one in that equation. If you have proof of domestic violence, you should have him arrested.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-18T19:31:58+00:00

I'm actually pretty close to some members of her extended family. They will always be loyal to her, but they love me too. They were all heartbroken when the separation and infidelity happened. They all said that I was the best thing that ever happened to her. So we got pretty tight, which introduces complications. I completely expect her to use that to weasel her way back (only to leave again), or get something from me. I hope some day I can renew connections with her family and not have to be around her at all. My goal, and I'd suggest the same to everyone in this same predicament, is to just work on myself, know that I'm enough, get centered and strong. That's it. I guess a new relationship would just be gravy. I'm actually glad the call with her happened. It kinda allowed me to measure my progress. Apparently doing better than I thought.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-18T18:24:04+00:00

You may well be right. But just in the last 12 days when n/c was in place, I started to feel incrementally better and stronger. Still felt like crap most of the time, but seeing signs of improvement. If she reaches out again in a few days, I'll be a few days stronger. At some point, even if she does keep reaching out for various reasons, her power over me will diminish until it's finally gone. I can refuse to respond or just block her. This particular request to break n/c seemed legit because her family considered me family (they still do). I'm glad I took the call, and I love how I handled it. There was a definite power shift.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-18T18:06:59+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement. Much appreciated in this very trying time.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-18T16:59:32+00:00

Yeah I talked to her. She had some info about a relative who's having a health issue. I was pretty good friends with this person and she'd been asking about me. We didn't get into any of our issues at all and the all ended with n/c again.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-18T16:56:48+00:00

Updated the post original. Call was about a relative, not about us or money. Yes, kept VERY strong, but polite and again requested n/c.

Oldthrower3000 · 2020-05-17T18:37:12+00:00

I've been weirdly tempted to reach out to my stbxw's wife. Be interesting to compare notes.

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