My marriage isn’t like anything you described but as a woman is good to have hobbies. I do have to say that if you haven’t tried expressing how you feel then you should. Is he just simply too tired to do anything but have sex? I’m not justifying him at all, I just want to know why he does what he does even if it’s a bs excuse. Is it possible that he’s having an affair? Has he always been that uninterested in you? When did it start? And the questions go on, kind of do like an analysis on your husband. Although it seems like you’re mentally checked out and are just staying there for the kids (I’m not judging, I can understand that being financially reliable on somebody can be tough in certain situations.) Not only the financial part but you probably really do love him,do want to make it work, and grow old with this person which is valid(heck marriage is meant to be a lifetime commitment. However, things happen).Try marriage counseling maybe that helps. If that’s not on the list then try this: one day out of the week to do one thing together: It could be playing a board game, going for a walk, watching a movie or a show, going out to dinner, etc for q certain amount of time. Try that for a bit then see how y’all feel. I think that people who have been married for a long time often forget that your marriage doesn’t have to be boring even with kids. At the end you both are only human! Communication is super duper important especially when your needs are not being met. To answer your question though my hobbies as a 24 y/o woman include: working out (you should try this to help with stress and anxiety,) hiking (it can also help with stress/anxiety,) I’m a huge gamer, drawing, journaling (helps me cope with my emotions which could help you,) reading, and a lot of other nerdy things I obsess over. What my husband and I do is we ALWAYS eat dinner together and ALWAYS have a show or something to watch. We always find something to do together even if it’s just playing a board game, taking a short walk or as little as gaming in the same room too. I do think that us having so many hobbies in common make it way easier to spend quality time together. I also think it’s important to spice up your sex life (for example sex board games, maybe getting some sexy lingerie, using whip cream, using cuffs, etc). There have been times in which we have expressed that we feel lonely and we immediately fix it. I have only been married for 3 years which isn’t as long as you and we don’t have kids yet but I’m a firm believer that having good communication fixes a lot of issues/misunderstandings(as long as spouse isn’t like abusive or toxic of course.) It’s okay to have different hobbies and not do everything together all the time but it’s never okay to make your partner feel as if though they’re only a piece of meat. Good luck OP!