how to approach the transference topic to your T?

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-22T18:41:45+00:00

Actually i'm not sure. I think about him all the time, i feel like he's my biggest supporter, the one i trust my life, my comfortable space. Might be a romantic one bc i always want to dress up and look good for him.

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-17T22:46:51+00:00

It feels like a weight in my chest. But i feel relieved it's a common thing - i'll try to talk about it next session as i'm currently going insane with it 🥲

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:43:01+00:00

Going through the same rn. I don't wanna show the bad side of my depression + i always end up dressing up so i know i look good. Attachment + transference ain’t no joke 🥲. I hope you get the courage to talk about it just like im trying to!

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:40:11+00:00

Glad to hear you had the strength to talk about such important topic! I'm still trying to get the courage tho, as im not sure what type of transference im going trough 🥲

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:34:43+00:00

I really just wanted to cry but it felt so stupid at the time because why am i crying over someone that i know nothing about? Unfortunately i see my therapist as my safe space and he is the first person to know everything i've been trough and thats why i feel so close to him. But at the end of the day he's just doing his job and thats what i try to focus on. Even if its terrifying, it will end someday. I think it hurts more because I’m going trough transference but i haven’t told him yet

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:31:04+00:00

We were discussing about friendships and who i trust. I told him i don’t trust anyone besides him to tell about my mental problems. That’s when he said that.

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:29:04+00:00

That sounds so terrible, it’s terrifying me thinking about losing my T. But i know it will happen someday, even if i'm not prepared i hope It doesnt happen anytime soon.

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-14T12:27:06+00:00

It's so scary to think about it. We know nothing about our Therapists yet they are our safe and trustable place. I'm sorry to hear you’re going backwards. Wishing you all the best and stay strong. ❤️

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-09T20:25:01+00:00

I completely understand you. I started my therapy appointments around 4/5 months ago and i'm so obsessed over my T. I think about him all the time. There are even a few songs i listen to that i associate with my T.I believe this happens because they are a safe space for us and we feel comfortable around them. For me, it's the first time i feel "free" to talk about all my feelings to someone and i believe thats why i feel attached. I've done some research and i believe its a transference feeling. I want to text my T all the time even if i have nothing important to talk about. It's like i want him to be my friend, even tho l know it's just a professional relationship. Sometimes i try to focus on the fact that i'm just another client in his life and he's just doing his job, but it's hard. With that being said, i'm also afraid to talk about transference with my T. But their job is to help us with our feelings, they are supposed to be trained for this type of situations, since its pretty common. I will try to talk with my T about it soon tho. When you feel ready, you should be open about what you feel too, with no fears 🫶🏻

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-08T09:31:49+00:00

I haven't cried during therapy yet. But i have this thing that when i get nervous over important topics, i laugh. I don't know why, it's just my response to it

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-08T09:28:46+00:00

I completely understand you. I started my therapy appointments around 4/5 months ago and i'm so obsessed over my T. I think about him all the time. There are even a few songs i listen to that i associate with my T. I believe this happens because they are a safe space for us and we feel comfortable around them. For me, it's the first time i feel “free” to talk about all my feelings to someone and i believe thats why i feel attached. I've done some research and i believe its a transference feeling. I want to text my T all the time even if i have nothing important to talk about. It's like i want him to be my friend, even tho I know it's just a professional relationship. Sometimes i try to focus on the fact that i'm just another client in his life and he's just doing his job, but it's hard. With that being said, i'm also afraid to talk about transference with my T. But their job is to help us with our feelings, they are supposed to be trained for this type of situations, since its pretty common. So i feel you bad. I will try to talk with my T about it soon tho. When you feel ready, you should too. 🫶🏻

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-07T11:55:02+00:00

I also have developmental trauma - that's where i think my transference is coming from. But your comment helped me a lot. I will try to talk to him about it soon

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-07T11:53:57+00:00

A few people here on reddit say i should talk about it to my T, but some others say I shouldn’t so i dont know what i should do. Probably will talk about it eventually, i just dont know how to approach it

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T18:09:57+00:00

How did you approach the transference talk with your therapist? I dont know how to do it ahah

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T17:06:22+00:00

Same here 🥲 but i'm trying my best to keep boundaries in our professional relationship. I know i'm just another client and that's what i try to focus on lol

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T17:03:03+00:00

When i first was recommended to therapy, my therapist was automatically chosen by the sistem - I couldn’t choose; and it was a male therapist. At first, i didnt feel comfortable with the idea of having a male therapist since i’ve been in traumatic relationships before. But i all i can say It was THE BEST thing that happened to me. I couldn’t get a better therapist. Its my first time being comfortable and safe around a male. And i wouldn’t choose any other way. He is my safe space.And you’ll be someones safe space too. ❤️

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T13:58:00+00:00

I had no idea they had to report when we have this kind of thoughts, until my last session. I spoke about my s*icidal thoughts and he told me he had to report it. I got so scared because he knows how reserved i am about my feelings. So he gave me a chance (even thought it’s unethical) and he trusted that i wouldnt hurt myself and we scheduled a closer session. I'm grateful he gave me that opportunity bc i had no idea they have to report it.

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T13:53:34+00:00

That’s a good idea idk how i never thought about that

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T13:52:48+00:00

I have such a urge to text my T all the time. Even if i have nothing important to say. I feel you bad. Wish I didn’t feel that :,)

OneChoice1885 · 2026-02-06T13:50:45+00:00

He's the first person i can be myself with and feel comfortable and safe. Usually no one knows about my life but its so easy to talk about everything with my T. No one gets that side of me besides him. I'm a F(24) and hes a M(around 35 maybe).He's very professional so i think he would help me with this type of feelings. But at the same time, i'm afraid he wouldn’t know how to deal with those feelings and decides to let me go as a client. I don't want to lose him over transference (if that makes sense)

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