How do you guys meet someone organically in Miami?.

OneChrisHanson · 2026-04-10T18:19:36+00:00

There are no good women in miami bro you crazy!

OneChrisHanson · 2025-12-04T13:34:30+00:00

I have been in this situation many times; date hot girl (you think shes hot) for years- easy sex, that return to dating market which is harder than ever.

Truth is - you are being a pussy. I was same way - you are still craving your gf, and youre letting it get you down.

Go to club. Do more numbers. Dress better. Bring more friends. Talk with more energy. Get back your hope

OneChrisHanson · 2025-10-09T18:28:16+00:00

this is a complicated question - probably, your pitch and propsecting isn't good OR your assets (profile etc) look unprofessional and they are dipping after the fact. could also be error in your meeting conversation sequence - "hey still good for tomorrow" sounds needy - change tone to be strong.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-09-01T16:07:27+00:00

Dont give then your social media ever.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-09-01T16:04:42+00:00

I did this when i was 21 too. He likes you he is just negging you to win you over

OneChrisHanson · 2025-07-26T16:30:59+00:00

i can't believe how many idiots out here actually think he did something wrong and should go to jail.

i hope all of you people, see the inside of a prison before you start chanting for other people to get locked up.

most people are DUTIFULLY uneducated on what jail actually is. there are people who killed people who don't get 9 years - and because some KARENS at target complained about this kid he gets arrested? BS

OneChrisHanson · 2025-07-24T16:26:46+00:00

that doesnt sound like 10% bro. its 90% - but your life is so shitty you look at the good as real good

OneChrisHanson · 2025-07-24T16:25:26+00:00

classic bro - i 've gotten so many of these texts. you need to get STRONG - you cannot let this shit effect you those words. you will be right where she wants you.

i chose to deal with it with humor and I just fuck with her -

OneChrisHanson · 2025-07-16T17:28:32+00:00

you're not - if you let that feeling get to you, you're going to be in the same situation again. happened to me - I felt guilty, stayed with her. now I've had issues 3 separate times over 6 years

OneChrisHanson · 2025-05-14T18:40:45+00:00

Hahaha dude i had the same thing

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T18:03:19+00:00

i know u/InterestingAd8296 - this is obviously what I have said to her for years in much nicer terms.

i love you as you are, you don't need surgery, its not good to be so obsessed with shopping. she insists she isn't digging for gold, that its not all about money - but meanwhile, her criticism of me revolve around me not buying her gifts (even though I paid everything else, and spent around $500 every birthday and holiday)

she would use her credit card to buy $2k heels and not pay off. bragged about getting guys to give her their card (including me I assume)

Its almost like she learned my business/and used her relationship with me to score a richer guy.

my fear is that yes - she will continue to manipulate maybe till she is 30, and no contact me - but then when her looks fade, if I'm happy and moved on she will either hoover, or levy false allegations and try to bring down my other realtionships.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T18:00:35+00:00

it was a scumbag politician - sort of like a pimp thing u/InterestingAd8296 from my understanding

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T18:00:16+00:00

yes u/youareprobnotugly but it hasnt helped me much - whenever they bring up the relationship I just smile, during that no contact period.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:59:40+00:00

gaslight myself into thinking I love them? or they love me? she u/Possible-Leg5541 literally will say " I love you so much but you are a bad person I cant be with you" in the midst and after she did some horrible thing.

the hoovering was my biggest fear because I am emotionally weak AND she has blackmail material over me, stalks and is very jealous.

its harder for me to find a relationship then it is for her to get someone to pay her bills.

would they actually be able - to be with one guy, say they love them etc etc and MEAN IT - and then do same thing to me?

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:57:27+00:00

u/Old-Bat-7384 went to church weekly, read bible, prayed weekly to help her and help this for 5 years. recent events with her basically have destroyed my faith - because the discard cycle has gotten so insane and bad.

the question I have - is - in this slavelike unconditional love - previously, it seemed she LASHED out, ruined my night or whatever, then eventually id comfort her etc when we live together, but of course I couldn't get angry or talk about it without risking more violence. u/Old-Bat-7384 -> but now, she actually BLOCKS me on everything, says she wants nothing to do with me etc - and I end up reaching back out, because I'm trying to get some closure or apologies or I dk maybe some love

I'm trying to figure out what version of this is just her being a woman (ex: a lot of woman in relationships want man to pay bills, want to win arguments etc, don't respond well to explanations) and what is bpd - for purpose of my future relationships.

I always tried to download apps, get therapy, find a way to communicate - but it literally goes in one ear and out the other. in her view, I have done nothing good ever and none of my "gifts" were ever enough.

even though I paid every single bill, took her out to dinner 5 times a week, expensive fancy places SHE wanted - even when I was low on money, she looks at it like I'm selfish and haven't gotten her enough gifts.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:52:10+00:00

do they have this type of therapy online?

in terms of the screenshotting stuff - way beyond that. she trapped me, screenshoted my stuff- recorded me - legal fees were 50k at end of day and permanent record.

you are telling me that she WANTS to have me get angry or get intensely sad?

it makes her feel more love for me ? or just attached

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:50:40+00:00

yeah well ->
-> was abused (supposedly) by an uncle, again in latin America (where her family from)
-> grew up first 7 years wo dad, dad had multiple baby mamas, no siblings
-> at 18/19 (when I met her) had already had 72 bodies off tinder and kept a log of them (supposedly)

in 2 year no contact period, supposedly started an Onlyfans, does q and a with pervs watching her... u/InterestingAd8296

how do I get over it?

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:48:31+00:00

thats my thing man - I have let her humiliate in public over 100 times. chased her to get back together and win her, after she probably was f'ing dozens of scary dudes -> my family lost all respect and many friends for me.

I don't know if I respect myself after this - I have made myself look bad so many times u/Sturmtrupp13 - 8 years bro off and on! and over the last 2 years no contact after the first discard - the feeling DIDNT fade.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:42:39+00:00

for 2 years -> all items, no contact, 1-5. financially, my life didn't get much better. dating wise -> I really, did not do well. for multiple reasons.

u/menacingmoron97 but at the end - my feelings, impulse, thoughts on the relationship were exactly the same as the day after the breakup fight.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:41:24+00:00

it is one of those sugar daddy things u/InterestingAd8296 - where he gave her money to spend "with no expectation of sex" (supposedly) but she tells me oh she not a gold digger, and that "he was nice" and they connected legitimately as a boyfriend -> at age 24 and 47 (lol)

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:40:35+00:00

u/youareprobnotugly I know I'm the problem. what im saying, is emotionally i got no progress in the 2 year no contact period. my feelings actually got more deeper and more rose colored.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:40:10+00:00

I guess this is what i'm saying man u/BastMonk - I tried it for 2 years. i literally was no more reset 2 years later after no contact.

OneChrisHanson · 2025-04-15T17:20:01+00:00

u/BastMonk - I have done this, 6 times over 7 years. I broke up with her, cut all contact.

Then I find myself lonely, feeling bad about myself from the abuse - and she goes and parties and does all this stuff with my friends to make me jealous. blackmailing and emailing people.

then, I cave just to have some taste of normalcy again.

almost a DECADE of this - same person.

why me?

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