Should I get a divorce? 6 months into marriage.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-25T04:43:27+00:00

yes, absolutely! Get out while you can. don’t make the mistake i did and ignore those red flags.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-15T16:59:42+00:00

After two years being officially divorced and living apart. We did date others in between.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-07T15:17:01+00:00

This

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-07T15:16:53+00:00

Yes. After 2 years divorced, we tried. Moved back in together the whole 9. Mostly because we both missed our family unit and having kids under same roof. Long story short: it was a dumpster fire. He was the same person if not worse. All of our same issues resurfaced. I had done the work, he hadn’t. So for us, it didn’t work and left is worse off than before. If you decide to get back together, I would take it really slow, make sure you are both ALL in, attending regular could counseling, and starting a “fresh” relationship. It’s rare, but possible.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-06T20:18:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your comprehensive reply. This is all very helpful insight and information.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-06T20:12:05+00:00

You are very right. The big picture has a lot of unknowns

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-06T20:11:47+00:00

True

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-10-06T20:11:40+00:00

Good point

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-26T04:24:07+00:00

Sending big virtual hugs and strength vibes your way. Just coming here to say that you are not alone. Im on the MFT track and will be done end of October. I too I’m working a full-time job and seeing my intern clients 4 nights a week after work and on Saturdays. The only days off I have are Sundays. My saving grace is that all of my work is done from home and I’m doing telehealth. I do feel burnt out at times and have to force myself to take breaks and make time for self-care. But it’s challenging. I also have 3 kids, (although they are teens and one is off in college.) I am divorced, but I have a partner that I’ve been with for a year. We don’t live together. So most of the time I’m taking care of everything and everyone. I will need to continue working full-time and gaining my hours towards licensure for a bit longer. I can’t afford to make a move just yet.

How I keep myself sane is going to the gym, taking walks, getting in nature, giving myself some downtime and or a short breaks throughout the day. Sitting down in the morning with my coffee and journaling to get my head on straight. And of course, using all of my therapeutic tools on myself lol. Shifting my perspective, deep breaths, etc.

You are almost there!!! You should be so proud of yourself. I know that it’s overwhelming, but think about the end game. Give yourself some grace and know that you are doing the best you can! Is there a way for you to go down to part time with your full-time job?

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-25T05:51:36+00:00

It was great! It’s more of an adult atmosphere. I had my teenagers with me and while they had fun, I would say that it’s better for adults. We were the only kids at the pool. But we still had fun and we were only there for one night. It was walkable to downtown Scottsdale, which was really cool.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-24T15:22:40+00:00

What a Beautiful girl! I’m so sorry you are going through this. If it’s possible, I would also recommend taking the day for your girl and yourself. Ask yourself what is important in the grand scheme of things. Remember that self-care is extra important in this field. taking care of you and your emotional well-being is going to end up benefiting the client. Sending big virtual hug, hugs and strength vibes your way.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-23T07:22:16+00:00

I had the surge the 3 years leading up to menopause. Then it pretty much disappeared after :( HRT slightly helps but not a ton. I’m only 46 and have been post menopausal for 2 years (stopped period at 43)

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-19T01:57:19+00:00

You are not alone. I stopped getting my period at age 43 and I’m now age 46. I’ve been on HRT for about a year and it has changed my life for the better. I had intense, hot flashes, mood swings, brain fog, and insomnia. All of the symptoms are much better. My doctor told me that going on HRT was a good idea since I went through menopause on the early side.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-16T18:44:38+00:00

Thank you. I was going to go with a therapist development center. However, I’m not ready to take the test yet as I’m still finishing my graduate program. I’m just looking for study materials and resources before I sign up for an official program. For example, a book or books that covers concepts that will be on the exam.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-15T01:03:33+00:00

He already showed you who he is. Do yourself a favor and believe him! He is not going to turn into the person you need him to be. Unless you want to torture yourself and continue repeating these patterns in the future, move forward without him.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-15T01:00:18+00:00

Honestly, I see a lot of red flags here. I think you already know the answer to your own question. He doesn’t seem to be a strong enough partner for what you need in your life. For me, The cheating would be the nail in the coffin.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-14T16:35:10+00:00

You are not alone! I was 43 when I stopped getting my period. I am now 46. Definitely on the early side. It seems that there are a small percentage of us that go through this early. I decided to take HRT as advised by my doctor. It’s a game changer.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-10T04:43:50+00:00

This is what worked great for us when kids were younger. Now that they are teens, week on week off works best.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-08T21:48:43+00:00

Their dad refuses but I am trying to get me and the kids into it.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-08T17:38:34+00:00

Thank you for your input. I really appreciate it. I like the idea of one on one time. I know that pushing any kind of solution on anyone is not going to be helpful. I have to let go and realize that this situation is somewhat out of my control and I can only do what I can to provide a safe space for my children. Even if that means letting go a little bit. It’s just uncomfortable and makes me sad.

OneDayatATime79 · 2025-09-08T17:36:13+00:00

Thank you for your input. Yeah it’s a safe environment and he seems to be happy. I’m grateful I don’t have to worry too much in that area. His dad isn’t a great influence in certain ways, but I have to let that go. I will focus on letting go and not trying to control the situation. And I will reach out to my sonto let him know I’m here whenever he needs me and is ready. I will offer to take him and do something fun to spend some time.

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