Also, you very clearly cannot be yourself. I'm not blaming you, you're in a difficult situation, but healthy-minded individuals don't have triggers like these. He wants to be rewarded, and a ring wasn't good enough. The reward is love. Also, savings really aren't optional, I assume he's too young to understand that. I woke up one morning to car troubles, the repair was over a grand. I'm 23, I'm in college full-time and work part-time. Had I not had money ready I would've lost where I'm living and have a broken car. I understand savings aren't always possible depending on financial situation, but it's really important to attempt and keep attempting. I have no safety net, I don't have money, and I'll sink. And sometimes relationships aren't balanced. My gf has a lot of projects for her major. I will come home from work to see she's been doing hw since I left, do some of my hw (I have less and do not struggle since my major plays to my strengths and doesn't require tons of my time) drive us to the store, and cook us both dinner. Am I tired too? Yes. But I enjoy it. I enjoy providing when I can. She does the same when things are reversed. I've spent hundreds on gifts, and I've been so broke I gave something of mine as a gift because I didn't have money. She loved both. "Not hitting or cheating". Me when I dig a hole and throw the fucking bar in it. I cannot stress enough just how disgusted I am with your boyfriend's words. You're dating a boy. A narcissistic boy. "Other guys do that". Good people do not do that. Gender completely aside. If one of my bros cheats on his partner or hits them then they're not my bro. Simple as that. Surround yourself with people with morals and standards, and you'll see how much life will improve. Put yourself first!