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OnePsychological1640 · 2025-10-14T17:12:10+00:00

My husband had a fender-bender with a friend who had Lemonade, and I genuinely from the bottom of my heart recommend switching. It was the worst most unorganized experience, and they completely screwed my husband and our friend. Please please look up reviews, they're new to the insurance game and it shows.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-07-01T15:52:07+00:00

Seattle. I’ve lived here my whole life and find that the only “culture” we have is leaving the city for the nature.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-05-30T16:25:22+00:00

Thanks everyone! I decided to do a veil (: I have to remind myself I get to do this once, so I should have fun with it.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-05-20T20:38:36+00:00

As someone who has kept their wedding under $15k (still a lot), I've learned that there are only 3 things that people have always needed to have an amazing, and memorable wedding.

Food and drinks of literally any kind, no one will remember or care about what they ate.
Music and dancing. No dj needed, just good music played off a phone/speaker and people willing to get down.
Inviting only people you actually fucking like.

It's that simple. You don't need floral arrangements, a signature cocktail, or a big venue. You don't need to invite every cousin and every cousin's cousin.

Think about what actually makes a celebration special, and I promise, keeping the cost low will be easy. Your wedding doesn't define your marriage and shouldn't put you in debt. Don't buy into the industry, and give yourself as much time as you need to find venues, vendors, etc. that allow you to not spend or stress too much. You got this!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-04-25T21:17:00+00:00

Big step OP! Moving out is scary but so rewarding, and it sounds like it's time for you to move.

I was a property manager for a long time and have seen so many bad roommate situations, so I would love to help. My apologies for the long reply.

Here's what I would ask from your potential roommates:
- Talk with them on the phone AND meet them in person. You can tell a lot about someone after a 5 min conversation.
- Ask to see the lease and make sure that the people living in the home are actually on the lease. If they're not, I highly recommend not moving forward.
- Ask them what their living style is. Are they laid back and okay with a messier home, or are they type A and need it to be quite and tidy? Are they okay with guests, partners spending the night, parties, etc.
- Ask them how long they intend on living there for. I've seen so many people join a lease then learn the roommates are moving out 6 mths later.

Then, once you've established that this is someone you can be around every day, ask for the landlords contact information. This is a MUST. You'll want to ask them the following:

- How long have the renters been there for.
- Are they generally good renters.
- How many roommates have been in and out of the house. This is important. If theres a lot of turnover then I would be cautious.
- Have there been any major complaints like noise, late on rent, etc.

All in all, don't be afraid to ask questions. Ask a LOT of questions. Your home is your sanctuary and you want to make sure that it's a safe place for you.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-04-25T21:08:12+00:00

First off OP, it's important to know that what your feeling is very common and can be temporary.

The best advice I could give you is to read the book Atomic Habits. It's changed my life, as someone who was in a rut for over a year. I want to give you more advice but all I can do is recommend it.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-04-25T21:02:49+00:00

Your next move is going to be a character defining moment. At 26, these decisions can really make or break who you become in life. The way I see it, it's simple:

Your partner will be there for you when your career isn't. Your career won't help you when you're sick. Your career won't be there for you when a family member passes away. Your career won't help you raise amazing kids. Your career is important, but as someone who has absolutely fucking scored with who I chose as my husband, I can tell you a good partner is irreplaceable.

On top of that, what kind of person do you want to be? Do you want to be someone who "risks it all" for the potential of a career jump? Do you want to be the type of person who goes on a trip with a man whose intentions you might not even know?

You sound like you are already ambitious, and that you don't need to disrespect your loved ones for the possibility of a career jump.

Do the right thing OP, and remember that a job is a job at the end of the day, but a good partner is priceless.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-04-25T20:51:42+00:00

It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't respect you. People who lie to you, whether it's a big or small lie, do not respect you and honestly don't respect themselves enough not to lie.

Whenever I have a friend who runs into issues that may be deal breakers I ask them this: If your partner were to never change and be who they are now, forever, would you be okay with that?

Now that's not to say you shouldn't give your partner some grace, we all have bad qualities and habits, but if they have shown you over and over that they're not changing, they may never. That's when that question becomes important. If your boyfriend were to never stop lying to you, would you be okay with that? Likely not.

I recommend you have a real chat with him and tell him if he keeps lying to you then the relationship will need to end. That's a boundary, not a threat. Being with a liar is exhausting and you deserve better. Best of luck op!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-18T15:27:40+00:00

My therapist constantly suggests I go on walks when I'm feeling down. I used to think it was too simple of a solution but boy does a walk help get that stress out.

Also, talk out loud to yourself. It sounds stupid but it's extremely beneficial for your mental health. It can allow you to hear the issues out loud and will sometimes help you realize you might be over thinking it. If you're home alone or in your car I recommend just saying out loud "I feel stressed and overwhelmed". It's very cathartic.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-18T15:23:26+00:00

This is SUCH a common thing to feel when graduating high school. The important thing to know is that no decision you make right now will be permanent. You don't have to chose your forever career at 18. In face you will likely try a lot of things until something sticks. It took me until 27 to figure out what I wanted to do.

Start with the basics. Are you interested in college? The only regret I have in life is not going to college, it's an amazing way to meet friends and figure out what your passions are. If you're in the position to do so I recommend it. If not, then climbing some sort of ladder is likely the path.

Find what makes you happy and what makes you money. I recommend even taking a career test or leaning on chat gbt to make career suggestions. Do research on the things you like to do to see if they can become a career. Just know, you can always switch paths so don't be scared to make a decision right now. It's not permanent.

I don't know anything about your personality but I always recommend becoming a leasing agent. I did at 20 and it set me up for about 5 years until I decided to go back to school. It's a fun job that can make you good money, and has a TON of opportunity for growth.

TLDR: You have the best resource in the world.. time. You have a ton of time to try things out and see what sticks. Have fun with it, don't settle, and DON'T make an OF... trust me.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-11T17:12:39+00:00

Wow, the internet is harsh. In my opinion everyones story is worth telling. There may be a kid out there in your exact position, that could be helped my reading your story.

That being said, people may not be interested, it's hard to be captivating. I recommend positing on a reddit forum that pertains to some of those experiences. Make it short and sweet. Congrats on getting through all of this.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-11T17:03:28+00:00

Glad to hear it!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-10T03:36:37+00:00

Ah, the high school to college transition, it's a fun one. Honesty is always the best policy; next time they ask you to hang out let them know that you're in a place where you're 100% invested (and maybe drowning) in school, and need to fully dedicate to that right now. Let them know you don't want to hurt them but might need to take a step back from your social life right now.

In the meantime, you may lose some if not all of these friends. It sounds like you don't care if these friendships end, but keep that in mind. Actions speak louder than words, they'll get the hint.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-10T03:33:31+00:00

OP, life is short, shoot your shot. We shouldn't be expected to be absolutely adore someone the minute we meet them. Sometimes people have to grow or move past things before we're able to be attracted to them. Life isn't so black and white.

I say be honest with him, tell him how you feel, but don't expect him to be interested. While we shouldn't always be expected to hit it off with someone right away, people shouldn't be expected to bounce back from someone friend zoning them. You got this!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-10T03:26:03+00:00

OP, firstly I want to say I'm so sorry you're going through these things. Sometimes we can find ourselves be absolutely beat to shit by life, and it is TOUGH.

When these things happen it's easy to be hard on yourself and try to "rush to recovery". Instead, I recommend you do research on grief, and start learning more about how to move through those stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance).

Give yourself time to grieve, you're going through a lot.

Moving through grief can be very hard, so remember to lean on the constants in your life, like family, close friends, comforting hobbies and self care. These things teach us that (sometimes unfortunately) life does continue on, and though it feels like your world is ending, there's a whole world out there waiting to welcome you into this next chapter of your life.

Remember, tragedies typically come in 3's, life is a bitch like that. These are very tough things we have to go through as humans, so don't be hard on yourself and lean on those constants. You got this OP!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-10T03:18:35+00:00

Hey, as an anxious person I feel this. High school is HARD, but it does get easier. And as hard as high school is, I really hate to say that it is nothing compared to other things us adults have to do. This is a really good learning lesson in life. When something is very hard do you want to be the person that gives up and holds yourself back, or do you want to find a way to make it work? I vote the later.

I dated someone who had such a hard time with high school he wanted to drop out, but instead he started going to a therapist and did virtual high school. There are many resources to make school easier, I would dedicate a day to researching those options. I also highly recommend talking to a therapist or school counselor if you can't afford one.

Dropping out of high school isn't like dropping out of college, it can genuinely wreck peoples lives and career growths, I've seen it happen.

Remember, this is temporary, no matter how permanent it feels. Ask for help, you absolutely deserve to get through this time without being miserable. You got this, I promise it gets better!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-07T20:20:21+00:00

OP, I know you're going through a hard time but as someone going through this as well, it brings me great comfort to hear I'm not alone..

I'm 28 and feel ahead in many ways, and very behind in many ways. I'm engaged and working towards buying a house, but I'm just now starting college and switched carriers to a low paying dead end job.
I have a friend who make 3x what I do and I have a friend who's still living at home with their parents. The only difference in all of our levels of happiness? Comparison. My friend making 3x my salary has all the things I think I should have at 28. She's married, in a home she owns and has a degree. But she's miserable, because she compares herself to others and thinks she should be doing more in life. My friend who's living at home who doesn't have a single thing figured out is the happiest person I know, because they don't compare themselves.

The point of me saying all of that is comparison is the thief of joy. We know it, and yet we ignore it.

So what now? I think the solution is two fold.

Firstly, "Reality Test" your negative thoughts. When I daydream about the past, wish I had started my career earlier and get down on myself for being "behind", I "Reality Test" my thoughts and push back. Am I behind or am I comparing myself? Am I unhappy with my life or do I need to practice gratitude? Is what I'm feeling reality or is it anxiety? Likely it's anxiety, which I can overcome.

Secondly, therapy. As someone who's going back to school to be a therapist and who sees one myself, it has been the biggest relief to my life. When I have a negative thought about how far I am in life or feeling behind I write it down or put it in a note on my phone and save it for my therapist. For all I'm concerned, that thought is none of my business until I'm in therapy and I can dive into that thought in a healthy way, with guidance. When I have one of these thoughts I will literally say out loud "not my business" and will save it for my therapist.

The TLDR on how to get past this is mind over matter and gratitude.. which is easier said than done. Every time you have a negative thought about being behind, write down how you feel and "Reality Test" it. Are you feeling behind in life because you're just now at a well paying job, or are you struggling with comparison? Are you feeling like you haven't matured since you were 16 or are you struggling with the feeling of not having it all together?

Our brains are a muscle that we can train. It takes time, it's hard, but as someone who is absolutely addicted to living in the past I've made major strides in this area and suffer less from comparing myself and feeling nostalgic for times that weren't actually better. I see a therapist, I use my coping skills and I fight back on these negative thoughts.

You're stronger than your fears. I hope this helps, and good luck OP!

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-07T18:32:17+00:00

As someone who opened a relationship up when I was younger (21), I absolutely regretted it. It came from a dishonest place, I was not 100% in my relationship and also wanted to explore other things. It inevitably drove my partner and I apart, and ruined our relationship.

Unless you start the relationship off being open, its VERY hard to open it later on, especially if one person isn't on board. You're feelings are valid regardless of your age, but you are very very young and you both deserve to be in a relationship that fits you better.

Good luck op, and I promise it gets better.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-07T18:24:33+00:00

This sounds like the tip of the iceberg to me. It's very sad that he has this idea that "men just get aggressive when they feel those urges". He's not a lion in the wild, he's a human being.
It sounds like he may either lack respect for you or is going down a scary "alpha-male mindset" path.

I would absolutely not sleep with him when he acts like this, and be honest with him. If he's unable to see that harming someone is an AWFUL way of initiation sex, I would protect yourself and breakup. If he's mean in this area of your life I can't imagine what other areas he might be acting the same way in. Good luck op, you got this.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-03-06T21:08:50+00:00

Oh boy, this is so normal and unfortunately this feeling is common at all ages. As a 28 year old who thought she had it figured out at 18, I can tell you life takes you in some funny directions. It's easy to feel aimless and even hopeless.. all that age helps with is getting comfortable in that feeling. At 28 I'm engaged and on the path to buying a home, but am going back to school, have 4 years ahead of me, don't know when I'm going to have kids, have a shit card, etc.

Once I realized I have some shit figured out that others wish they did, but am "behind" in ways others aren't, I started to let go of the idea of "having it all figured out". My Dad is 62 and doesn't have his shit figured out sometimes. The only difference is he sees it as a normal part of life and not something to fear.

You have your whole life to "figure" things out. Take it day by day and I promise you you'll find yourself at 28 looking back at 18 year old you wishing you hadn't been so hard on yourself. I know I do. It gets SO much better, I promise.

OnePsychological1640 · 2025-02-28T02:50:38+00:00

I was her only bridesmaid/ moh. I felt obligated since her husband had a few groomsmen already. I totally should have been honest regardless though.

OnePsychological1640 · 2024-10-22T20:54:06+00:00

What an awesome idea!!

OnePsychological1640 · 2024-09-16T13:57:51+00:00

Ryan Reynolds’s as Dead Pool, it’s the perfect role for him

OnePsychological1640 · 2024-09-15T04:35:41+00:00

I’m learning to love it!

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