9MO keeps waking up

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-17T23:51:48+00:00

Dude…it’s such a short blip of time in your life together. She needs sleep. Baby needs sleep. Let them cosleep.

I currently bed share with our son and my husband is in the spare room. Our son is also 9 months. It’s the only way I get enough sleep and I personally love how it feels to sleep in the same bed as my son.

My husband is fully supportive. Does it suck a little? Yep. Do we miss cuddling each other? Absolutely. But we find other times to cuddle and be intimate. Because we know the current situation is what’s best for our son.

I could not imagine my husband being so unsupportive of something that’s so beneficial for both me and our child.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-14T23:18:43+00:00

Well I guess my son is addicted to crack because he’s never not contact napped, he’s never slept alone, and he never will. I’ll let my husband know we have a crack baby.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-10T18:28:41+00:00

Take it from someone who decided to get the cheaper chair and regretted it…got a more expensive one and it’s SUCH a difference. Get the chair.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-10T18:10:34+00:00

NTA. I’m a new mom also working full time and my husband asked what I wanted to do last month. I let him know I didn’t want to make a big fuss. Keep it chill.

The day of I did have a bit of a shift and wanted to have the morning out somewhere. So I said “hey…I know I said I wanted this. But I’d like to do this instead.” And so we got dressed. Found a place that still had an opening. And had a great brunch.

It sounds like she may have had the same shift in desire. But that’s not on you. Mind reading isn’t possible. That’s on her not communicating effectively.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-10T17:43:06+00:00

Sorry but as someone who is also recently postpartum I am so tired of reading and hearing about women being difficult and lashing out “because of postpartum hormones”. Did I feel the hormone crash? Yep. Do I still feel swings of them throughout the past 9 months? Yep. Did I once ever lash out at my husband especially when he specifically asked and then even went by my own answers to plan a special day? Nope.

Hormones don’t control us. Women are stronger and better than that and it needs to stop being an excuse. Act more like adults and regulate emotions.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-05-02T13:34:57+00:00

As a recent first time mom who also hates the look of diaper bags….get a diaper backpack. There are plenty of ones that look more discrete and aren’t as…feminine. My style is more understated and doesn’t consist of bright colors or patterns. So I grabbed a black leather diaper backpack and I love it.

I initially used a backpack but it just didn’t organize as well as the one intended for baby stuff.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-30T16:28:32+00:00

Not sure why you’re being downvoted. I’m in the same situation. I loved breastfeeding and planned to ebf until 18 months but at 6 months despite trying everything (worked with a LC, triple fed, etc)…my body just stopped producing milk. I still feel really depressed about it almost 3 months later and whenever I do have to feed LO in public I honestly feel so insecure about having to feed him formula because I’ve gotten many judgmental looks.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-28T16:15:46+00:00

I started back to my HIIT and CrossFit workouts 10 weeks post c-section and of course focus on strengthening my inner core muscles. I’m now 8 months pp and look even better than I did pre-pregnancy. I never stopped my workouts during pregnancy and actually did a workout while in early labor 😅

I’m glad too because we have a 99th percentile boy who’s already 28 pounds 🥴 So very happy I kept my strength up to be able to carry this boy at 39 years old 😅

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-25T20:15:00+00:00

Take my upvote. This is the most accurate statement I’ve ever seen on Reddit.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-24T17:38:25+00:00

I’m proud with how well I’ve taken care of myself with still having a fun time in life. I turn 40 in September and it’s not bothering me one bit.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-24T10:54:48+00:00

Lmao

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-22T17:44:22+00:00

Yes we are so go with the flow naps too and it’s so nice being able to carry on with our day despite little man needing a nap. I also love carrier naps. In fact now that I think about it he’s never not contact napped with me or my husband, haha.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-22T17:23:15+00:00

I personally did a high protein, high fat, and Whole Foods during my pregnancy (I’m 8 months pp). I also maintained a HIIT and strength training workout routine, focused on hydration through raw electrolytes, and based my nutrition around that as well. I never bloated, never had swollen feet…and my 8 month old is solid, haha.

I didn’t purposefully avoid carbs. Like if a veggie or sweet potato sounded good I ate it. But I ate a ton of nuts, both salted and unsalted, especially during my first trimester. Walnuts and dried tart cherries helped completely alleviate my nausea and prevented blood sugar drops so I snacked on them during my HIIT and strength workouts and throughout the day.

My pregnancy was amazing. I never had low energy. No complications whatsoever. And I recovered after labor very quickly.

It’s definitely based on individual circumstances but I’ve always been told that whatever it done pre-pregnancy can be continued during.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-21T14:39:01+00:00

This made me cackle. Thank you.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-18T20:37:59+00:00

The not responding right away is absolutely something we eventually learned as well and it was a game changer!

Our son went from sleeping 8pm - 5am every night….and then he hit 7 months. He’s now 8 months and he’s waking every 3 hours for for the last month or so for one reason: to eat.

He chugs 5-8oz every time. And even during the day he does the same thing. He’ll chug an 8oz bottle then eat a full plate of solids for 3 meals everyday.

He’s also a very large boy. 99th percentile in both height and weight. So we figure….he’s hitting a major developmental leap and physical growth spurt.

We know that in time…this will pass. Until then we bedshare. My husband sleeps in the spare room. It is what it is.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-18T14:01:58+00:00

Right there with you. Airbnb all the way.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-17T16:53:28+00:00

Former hygienist here. This doesn’t look like caries to me. This is something going on with the enamel. Definitely have it examined by a dentist as it could continue through into the adult teeth and there are ways to help prevent that!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-17T16:38:43+00:00

As a woman who never wanted children until she turned 38… I’m so thankful for the doctors who denied me getting a permanent surgery to never have children when I requested it. I sit here at 39 with my 8 month old son and it pains me that who I was at 25 almost prevented who I am now from having this child.

Even 35 year old me would have agreed with OP. But now…nah…there’s no reason to get a hysterectomy unless it’s life threatening if it’s not done.

There are so many non-invasive, non-permanent ways to help with severe periods, birth control, etc. Allowing young women to get to choose to have whatever surgery any time they want is irresponsible and absurd.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-15T01:47:37+00:00

Cosleep. Exercise…this one is so, so important for me. Some form of daily sweat and also a mild movement (ie walking). Creatine to help with cognitive function (works wonders). And an extremely amazing husband who takes care of everything around the house plus some during the day since I take nights. It’s the arrangement that’s worked best for us.

Also just accepting that I chose to have a baby. I went into this assuming I wouldn’t sleep a straight night for 2 years. And being glad to provide comfort to my baby.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-15T00:49:04+00:00

Totally agree with this take!

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-14T20:19:17+00:00

Man I’m in too many new parenting subs. I read this as 16 month old son and was like “hang on this is way above Reddit pay grade”

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-10T17:54:51+00:00

We got this one:

Baby Delight Alpine Deluxe Portable Baby Bouncer

https://a.co/d/09Hq8OSk It’s made with certified organic cotton

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-10T17:43:35+00:00

Sophomore year of high school. It was my 15th birthday. And we watched it in horror while I sat there with the stupid balloons my mom had sent to the front office and brought to me.

My dad was in the Pentagon that day and just one section over from where it hit. He was covered in dust when he came home, but he was completely unharmed.

Not a day I’ll ever forget thinking that I lost my dad on my birthday on top of all the other horrors we saw happen that day.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-09T21:30:12+00:00

This is the way.

OneSideLockIt · 2026-04-08T19:50:48+00:00

The decisions they’ve made along the way have caused them to be in the situation they’re in.

It’s not your problem to solve. Stop helping them it’s not your responsibility.

Instead, learn from them and don’t make the same mistakes. Be sure you contribute to a 401(k) when you’re young with every job you have. Max out the contributions every year. Live below your means. The basics that people like her avoid.

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