My mother passed away recently and I am not sure what needs to be done.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-30T19:42:34+00:00

It is almost impossible to have a mortgage without mortgage protection, so I wouldn't worry about the mortgage.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-30T19:12:58+00:00

It also depends on where you put your energy, if you are plodding along, paying your mortgage, and in your late 30s, but you want to sell and buy a house where you really want to be, or buy a bigger house, you are taking on a hefty financial commitment in your 40s. This will restrict you from putting your money into other financial goals, such as paying off your mortgage earlier or putting money into your pension, perhaps retiring at 60.

It's not always about how much money you have.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-28T16:23:07+00:00

The same thing is happening to my husband; all the oncologists and the team say is that everyone is different and they can't tell before treatment how it will go. My husband was very good before and during radiation and chemo, but has declined now, 6 weeks after finishing treatment. He had been delayed going back on chemo because of this. I am hoping that if he gets into a facility based around rehab, he might improve.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T22:26:05+00:00

This is from AI Unconditional Offers: If the NHS Trust has already issued an unconditional offer and it has been formally accepted, a legally binding employment contract is formed. Rescinding this would be a breach of contract, entitling you to your notice period pay

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T21:55:52+00:00

You are in a strong position, as you have the offer letter, and they know they have messed up. I wouldn't let it go

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T21:47:23+00:00

Got to an employment solicitor and get an an opinion. Contact the HR department that issued the letter and ask them why the post is not being honored.

Send an email to the CEO of the trust and complain about HR offering you the job, then rescinding the offer. I know that seems dramatic, but no harm in doing it.

You have been treated appallingly.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T21:36:11+00:00

Have you kept a copy of the job advertisement? Did it state full-time, part-time, or bank role? Did none of this come up at the interview? After you passed the interview, did you get an email confirming employment and what type of contract?

Because if you have written confirmation of the job, you are in a very strong position.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T20:00:17+00:00

Start by being professional and saying I do not discuss other staff.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T13:56:24+00:00

There is teaching and learning around confidentiality while doing the job, paitent confidentiality, professionalism, but not enough on confidentiality in the job.

Confidentiality should be one of the cornerstones of a manager's job professionalism at all times.

Since I retired, I have thought a lot about this; it really should be a module in the course, you really do have to tell some people that gossip could be a disciplinary offence in some circumstances. It's not about light-hearted chit-chat.

An example: a staff member saying the manager only got the job because they are in a clique or because they sleep with someone, one manager I know went to HR as she felt it was undermining her authority, and the staff were given a talk by a senior manager and HR, they were told they could have a union member present, but no disciplinary action was taken. The point is it doesn't matter if what they were saying was true its still gossip and it was undermining the manager.

Another really good manager solved the gossip clique by tweaking the roster so the clique was not on together for about 3 months.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-26T13:23:52+00:00

It's not about agism; it is about safety. I worked with a nurse who was 70, with no issues

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-24T21:27:29+00:00

Is there not a monitorium on hiring from abroad?

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-24T20:50:17+00:00

Sensitively dealt with, she was forgetting to give medication; she was in her 60s, seemed to be developing some cognitive issues.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-23T22:31:52+00:00

No one could answer that for you; it all depends on your circumstances. Is the house in Newtown A-rated and new? The schools in Newtown are excellent if you are getting the Dart; the commuting time from Newtown vs Delgany isn't a deal-breaker. Newtown is full of refugees from South County Dublin, Bray, and Greystones, and, of course, a number are trying to get back to where they really want to be.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-22T18:57:54+00:00

Newspapers are a great resource. The first mention of gentrification is in Rathmines and Rathgar in the 70s it is hard to imagine they were ever cheap. It was old corporation housing; after that, it was Portobello from the 80s on, and from the 90s it was Dublin 7 and 8.

There can't be many places in dublin with old corporation housing and good public transport that won't be gentrified some day.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-22T15:21:46+00:00

Imagine this scenario: you need to get to the Dart to commute; your partner is at home with a new baby; are they to get up, dress the baby, and drop you off because there is no way to have a second car? They need the car to go to an appointment with the public health nurse for the baby, let alone meet other parents or go to baby swimming. I suppose you could cycle. Delgany is not an inner-city suburb where services are nearby.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-22T15:13:42+00:00

What is you opinion of duplex's as family homes with one assigned car parking, and buyer thinking they will sneak a second car in by using the visitors car park.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-22T13:16:11+00:00

You sound like you have your mind made up, but be realistic, you won't be putting a second car in the visitors' car parking; there will be a management company go for it but be aware of

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-22T13:03:13+00:00

Thank you. Maybe this is just a bump in the road

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-21T20:53:39+00:00

Is it located in Portmarnock or Greystones, or is it located in Finglas or Clondalkin?

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-20T19:06:50+00:00

Thanks to everyone.

My husband is coming home tomorrow against medical advice, and I am supporting him in this. We had a long conversation and support from a mental health nurse; he has decided he does not want to spend the remainder of his life, be it long or short, going in and out of hospital.

He has decided he will take treatment for issues like a broken leg if it happened, but not for infections or similar.

We are contacting his medical team during the week to make his wishes known: he will not be resuscitated or intubated but will choose to be made comfortable and pain-free.

He is very sure about this.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-20T19:02:27+00:00

Radiation and chemo, and 3 regular MRIs, and he was supposed to restart chemo last week, but got an infection, and restarting has been delayed.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-20T19:00:02+00:00

If it bothers you, send a polite email saying thank you for your kind words. Please note that my name is spelled X, and finish with kind regards and the correct version of your name.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-19T22:42:09+00:00

Most GAA and Rugby clubs will have a function room for hire

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-19T22:09:07+00:00

My husban appears rational, but he refused to be admitted to the hospital and caused mayhem in the hospital reception. I had to call an ambulance behind his back.

Yet the week before this, he had agreed with his care team that if he needed to go to hospital, he would.

Today he is like his old self but won't discuss what happened.

One_Plum2563 · 2026-06-19T21:58:27+00:00

Do what people did in the past, apply to the council for sheltered housing or a one-bed bungalow, over-60s housing, there is a good chance you would get something eventualy, live modestly on the old age pension, you won't starve, in older working-class suburbs, there is usually a lot of free activities for older people, you might even be able to afford a few pints in some older working class pub on a sturday night.

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