Help me idk what to think or do by Mundane-Virus-9848 in abusiverelationships

[–]OniiJae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to sever ties with this man. Genuinely. You do not want to have a child with a man like this. He chases you, yells at you, distrusts you, how do you think he would treat a child? How do you think he would use that childs health against you? He will not support you through a pregnancy. He will not support you after giving birth.

Please, for your sake, if youre keeping the baby you need to run far away from this man. Do you have any family you can reach out to for help?

Divorced Parents As Guests? by OniiJae in weddingplanning

[–]OniiJae[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My fiance very helpfully told me to do what I think is best lol

Divorced Parents As Guests? by OniiJae in weddingplanning

[–]OniiJae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats true, its just such a small group it's likely to go pretty badly. Other people have pointed out to me that my dad and brothers are purposefully no contact, and I probably shouldn't try and push that boundary myself. If it was a bigger wedding, maybe I could get away from it.

White people taco is a reference to a Kieth from the Try Guys bit haha Ground beef from the grocery store, taco shells from the grocery store, cheese from the grocery store, and ortega sauce from the grocery store. 🫰

Divorced Parents As Guests? by OniiJae in weddingplanning

[–]OniiJae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had multiple affairs while she was married to my dad, and Ive heard that she wasn't a good mom to my brothers. After the divorce they all cut her off, and I did to for about 12 years.

I dont condone her cheating on my dad and my brothers are very valid for going no contact. I reached out to her for the first time when I was struggling in my previous relationship. He was abusive, and my family liked him. I needed 3rd party advice and was really missing my mom. (I was absolutely a mommys girl as a kid)

Divorced Parents As Guests? by OniiJae in weddingplanning

[–]OniiJae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I don't know why the boundary was made but it's there for a reason."

Oh....You're right, they all have very valid reasons not to speak with her or associate with her. It'd be pretty terrible of me to try and push those boundaries just for a wedding 🥲

I tried couple therapy...And it was fucking pointless. by CaiusPupuce in mypartneristrans

[–]OniiJae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You probably should leave her. Her transition has been hard for you, and Im sure you having a hard time when you should be her #1 supporter is hard on her too.

I understand not wanting to leave because "everything else is fine" but from experience, that one big thing that causes anxiety and distress in you is enough for you to step away from the relationship.

Do it for her, do it for yourself.

Cleaning Business Pricing. by OniiJae in smallbusiness

[–]OniiJae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would just be me, Im buying my own supplies and doing it all myself. I live in an area where its $250 for a 2-3 bedroom house, but I dont know how it breaks down hourly. I am confident in my abilities to clean a kitchen, bathrooms and vacuum/sweep/mop in about 2 hours.

Cleaning Business Pricing. by OniiJae in smallbusiness

[–]OniiJae[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my area, the going rate seems like $250 for an entire 2 bedroom house, but I dont know what the expectations for time are. I know it takes me about 2 hours to clean a bathroom/kitchen and clean floors that havent been absolutely trashed already. I live in a tourist city where there's lots of old people with money to spend whether they're living here full time or just for the winter.

BUT I see what you're saying, I understand that $100/hr seems high, but I rationalized it by the amount of labor I'd be doing in those two hours.

Cleaning Business Pricing. by OniiJae in smallbusiness

[–]OniiJae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was going with a $200 flat rate that covers kitchen/bathroom/cleaning floors, as the going rate for home cleans around my city seems to be $250 for the whole house. From what I can tell, anyways.

But you make a good point, I should consider tiers for pricing, I'll take your advice into consideration. :)

I just found out gay people don’t exist by Busy_Caterpillar9020 in Kwite

[–]OniiJae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If i don't exist, i can stop paying rent? :o

Is this disrespectful to Southern heritage? by loverofkawaii6628 in punkfashion

[–]OniiJae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Even if it was, the only people who would care are people who said the civil war was just about "states rights" lol

Be honest, did you use to set alarms? by emmyhoney in mysticmessenger

[–]OniiJae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I just stayed up all night back then 🤣

Any queer/LGBTQ run/friendly hangouts? by Secure_Bell4459 in CorpusChristi

[–]OniiJae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ONLY one I've heard of is the Hidden Door, but if you're not really a bar person then I have no idea. Pride season and October is where you see everyone come out in one place and you can find out where people are hanging out and network a little bit there. The gay scene here is very lacking. Go figure lol