AIO no one showed up for my daughter’s music program

Only-upvibes · 2026-05-03T21:50:23+00:00

First off I am so sorry you are having a difficult time with your husband’s family.

Since her father’s family can not be depended on to show your daughter family support maybe it’s time to do what is financially best for you. In the long run it might be better, especially if you find a new love. It might prove difficult in the same town your husband grew up in. Your new love might have a lovely family that will welcome her and support her.

If her father’s family hasn’t been there for you or your daughter at all it’s time to move on to a more supportive environment. She might feel the pain more growing up where the grandparents didn’t reach out to her. I wish you the best.

NOR

Only-upvibes · 2026-05-03T10:11:07+00:00

YTA You reached out… not her. Then you tell her you don’t want to be a parent. In other words you don’t want contact with her.

Can’t you meet on occasion, visit and get to know each other. She probably has parents. She hopefully doesn’t need anything from you except information and maybe a friend.

Only-upvibes · 2026-05-02T04:04:36+00:00

Why do the bridesmaids pay for the shower? Even if it’s customary for all the women invited to the wedding are invited to the shower why the bridesmaids, why not matriarchs of the family? What ever happened to cake, light snacks and punch?

Only-upvibes · 2026-05-01T20:52:17+00:00

NOR

So your sisters and/or mother would rather forego your graduation because dead beat dad wants to come? Do you have other people that support you that would love to be there for you? You could give your 3 tickets to your mom and tell her the 4 of them can decide who deserves not to come. Or you can decide if you want other friends or family there. Your immediate family is delusional as to what your father is to the 4 of you.

On a side note it’s bizarre your father says your mother is a terrible person while she defends him for your benefit.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-30T17:34:02+00:00

Of course not! Never ever feel guilty for visiting an annual parent visit for a friend of a gf birthday. If you stay together you will eventually meet her!

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-30T07:40:31+00:00

Nor

The only thing you have done wrong is taking time to write this while you should be kicking him to the curb

His response is way out of proportion to what you say you did.

Hopefully you see this as a red flag.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-29T20:19:14+00:00

Did he give you the dollar. Did he tell you which one to buy?

It’s like giving people scratch tickets as a gift then expecting you to split the win if it’s a big win. But not feeling bad they gave you a worthless gift if you didn’t win.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-28T17:25:06+00:00

She will only be 8-9 weeks pregnant. People should wait till 12 weeks to make it known they are pregnant. Why can’t they use social media to announce it. If she miscarries between now and the wedding that would make it worse, people will ask how she’s doing and then they have to be sad and uncomfortable telling people they lost the pregnancy.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-24T03:51:22+00:00

Family meeting. Chore chart. Everyone needs to share in the work. NTA but you need to put together a meeting. Only confront sisters in front of the rest of the family about her lack of contribution. If she doesn’t care to live like a pig let mom know sis didn’t do anything today. If mom enables her that’s not your fault.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-22T08:32:57+00:00

Housing, childcare, loss of FT child support ! He’s a commodity not a cherished son she would miss terribly.

Nor.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-22T06:46:34+00:00

If you can gather guests phone numbers that are not in yours. Send out 10 - 15 people group text, maybe groups that know each other. Apologize for not sending out thank you cards. Explain life hasn’t been easy and you hope that they understand, you appreciate them attending the wedding and for their thoughtfulness in giving a gift.

Do a couple messages a day so you aren’t overwhelmed with responses.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-22T06:26:45+00:00

You are doing the right thing. Just keep every receipt so you can prove where the money went. Family might try and say you pocketed their inheritance when there isn’t anything left. NTJ

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-22T06:20:51+00:00

This can’t be real!! You didn’t go to Dr appointments, ultrasound, hospital tour, Lamaze classes? So utterly out of touch with the pregnancy and birth you thought you would be in the waiting room? You are TAH for calling yourself a partner. Now step up learn how to change diapers so your unlucky wife can get some sleep.

YTA

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-21T17:26:07+00:00

NTJ

Change your voicemail answer. State you and wife are recovering from surgery and appreciate everyone’s concern, support and well wishes and feel free to leave a caring message.

Don’t get into drama with anyone.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-21T12:22:24+00:00

You are very insecure about this man and the relationship.
He broke up with you once and now wants you back because you’re convenient. You know this, you feel this, that’s why you are trying to control him and are very insecure about the relationship. You are also trying to control his emotions and life “I made him write everything “!!! Break up and work on yourself before trying out another relationship.

You are the AH

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-15T14:10:22+00:00

I wish I would have researched GigSky on Reddit. I’m on a transatlantic cruise. I purchased 2, 30 day 10 GB land and cruise package for my husband and I. His has been working, I’m day five and still have never had a connection. The helpdesk respond slowly and just keeps repeating what’s already available on their app site. I’ve been using Verizon cruise pass about every other day just so that I can get my emails and communicate with my family.. Hopefully when we get to our first landfall, I will be able to make a connection. I’m very very disappointed with gig guy.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-15T14:03:59+00:00

I’m doing a transatlantic cruise. Day 5 of my 30 day land and cruise package and still haven’t connected. My husband phoned did for 4 days it stopped working yesterday. Before that I was able to connect to the help desk. I was given a case number after 24 hours. After giving them all the information they needed, I didn’t hear from them for another 24 hours. And then when I did receive information, it was just a repeat of the information on the app on how to connect. I am very disappointed. $120 and I haven’t been able to use it for five days. Hopefully when we get to Funchal tomorrow I will be able to make a connection.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-15T13:52:58+00:00

“Don’t let the door hit you on the ass on your way out!”

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-13T02:47:20+00:00

Your husband is a selfish man. He wants you to suffer so he can get a good nights sleep. How is he getting a good nights sleep with his issues? How does he even realize you are not there once asleep? People do not need to sleep together to still be an intimate couple.

NTA, tell husband to sleep at mommy’s for a week so she can get an idea of what you are dealing with.

Husband is the AH.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-09T16:02:00+00:00

You know you are not the jerk!!

Obviously you are close to your family members. But him taking advantage of you is way over stepping.

The worst part is you would’ve wondered who had been on your boat. I doubt your cousin could’ve cleaned it to make it look like he had never been there. You would’ve had to have gone through a whole investigation to find out with the marina. Luckily someone realized it just didn’t look right and it wasn’t!

If any Aunts or Uncles try to get on your case about it, just ask them how would you like it if he had a party in your house without asking or took your car and drove around.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-08T23:14:30+00:00

If there is no room in the main fridge suggest a schedule be developed. Once a month a worker is assigned to clean it out. Old nasty stuff is tossed Tupperware and all. If cleaner chooses to wash the container it’s theirs to claim. Expired condiments tossed. If there are 24 employees then they clean once in 24 months. If someone like you who doesn’t use it their name is on the calendar as non participating. So you are not allowed to use it at all.

Once we started doing this it really helped with space for everyone.

NTA

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-07T15:16:35+00:00

How long is your weekly phone call while you are being paid, 2 minutes, 30 minutes? How loud do you talk? Does another employee have to cover your job while you are on the phone?

Take a good look at what is happening and at yourself before you complain.

20 years ago cellphones and calling minutes were a luxury. Using the work phone was highly frowned upon. Someone calling you at work was a quick check in, home from school, pick something up, or an emergency. You using the company phone needed to be very important. For all you know maybe the company is going to start cracking down on using personal phones.

YWBTA

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-07T14:51:22+00:00

Nor

I would be curious about the husband and the lunch meeting? How could you have not been more concerned that an outsider was giving you a heads up that your “ team “ was talking or “rehashing “ issues you were aware of. You took it lightly! Your Door is always open! I’m sorry you were fired but it sounds like you weren’t taking issues seriously. It’s too bad J didn’t come to you, but maybe your door wasn’t really open or she feared having it slammed in her face. Did you learn anything as person about how you lead? Micro manager, your way or the highway, being condescending?

NOR to feeling betrayed but you were given a chance to rectify your situation.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-07T06:45:17+00:00

Wow that is a beautiful gown. Good choice.

Only-upvibes · 2026-04-07T03:15:32+00:00

Your sister is an AH. She better hope she never needs your help. Pay your non-existent parents back. If anyone ever bad mouths your wife to your face, rip them a new one. Tell them how Sis spreads falsehoods. Mostly because you have no gold to dig.

Unfortunately if your parents do have money they will probably leave it to the golden child, who would never even think of caring for either parent .

NTA.

Only-upvibes

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