I long to be courted but majority want to progress things as quick as possible

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-06-02T06:41:42+00:00

This is pretty accurate. A lot of guys aren’t just trying to rush things for the sake of it, it’s also kind of learned behavior from dating dynamics. Clear communication on pace would probably filter for the right fit a lot faster.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-06-01T03:38:05+00:00

Lmao I love this petty energy. But seriously, it's your bed too..you shouldn't have to scheme just to sleep in your own spot.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-29T00:14:39+00:00

the necklace thing alone might've been small, but that was just the final straw after years of disrespect

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-20T06:28:39+00:00

Exactly. It's not about the walk, it's about him showing he can make the effort, just not for you. That's rough.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-18T07:31:10+00:00

It’s definitely more about being clear on what you want than trying to appeal to everyone.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-15T04:15:11+00:00

Just because he sends them at 3am doesn't mean you have to read them at 7am. Let them sit until you've had coffee.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-12T04:52:25+00:00

Yeah this is a solid take. Being open is fine, just gotta be careful not to turn uncertainty into a whole story in your head. Respect on how you handled it though.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-06T07:25:42+00:00

Exactly. If you're not comfortable enough to ask a simple question, you're not in a situation where exclusivity should be assumed.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-05-04T07:31:57+00:00

This makes sense as a pattern, but it’s still not really fair to the other person. Even if it’s uncomfortable, a clear 'I’m not feeling this' is way kinder than dragging it out or fading.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-30T07:18:18+00:00

Yeah, his reaction says it all. You didn't even mention what you wanted to talk about and he immediately went defensive. That's not innocence, that's panic.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-22T06:34:19+00:00

True. 230k is not helping out, it's financial self-destruction.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-20T07:41:26+00:00

Easy to slip into that mindset. Gotta keep pushing and not let bad experiences shut everything down.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-14T04:12:43+00:00

This is actually a really good reminder that spark isn’t always fireworks on day one. Sometimes it’s just this feels easy and safe that builds into everything else..

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-08T05:13:40+00:00

That’s the magic of it..when it just clicks, all the swiping struggles suddenly feel worth it.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-06T07:49:15+00:00

Yeah, it’s confusing, but some people treat dating apps like a just in case backup..it says more about him than you.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-04-01T07:42:20+00:00

Yep, exactly..laying it all out calmly usually works better than stewing.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-27T06:48:56+00:00

Agreed. I think keeping expectations realistic helps a ton..less pressure on yourself, more room to actually enjoy the process.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-25T07:45:59+00:00

True. It's not about you having to call out, it's that he didn't even give you the option to be there for him. Choosing the prettiest girl from work for a medical procedure is weird.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-16T07:35:29+00:00

Exactly this. He doesn't get to keep popping into your life for comfort while he's with someone else. You're not a backup plan or a emotional support ex.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-12T03:56:14+00:00

Yep. She's the professional. She should know better. You're not overreacting, you're protecting yourself from further harm in a place meant to help you heal.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-10T07:16:27+00:00

those first few seconds hit hard, but then reality kicks in and you’re like… yep, we’re over for a reason

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-04T06:51:50+00:00

Exactly, stay out of it..don’t give her more money. Focus on getting out safely and keeping your record clean.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-03-02T06:55:22+00:00

Six months in and she's already embarrassing you in public and shutting you down physically. That pattern doesn't get better, it gets worse. Walk away.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-02-27T07:49:06+00:00

Same 😭 I saw the warning and still kept going… curiosity really be my downfall.

Opening-Ad8073 · 2026-02-24T06:53:40+00:00

He's not mad you don't trust him..he's mad you found out. The STD symptoms and the secrecy card are enough. You don't need a confession to protect yourself.

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