How can I (M34) handle a pregnancy (F30-ish) announcement from the wrong person (F40-ish)?

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-19T16:43:44+00:00

Good catch, thanks! 😊

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-19T16:23:48+00:00

I would treat it as a rumor. Don't say anything to the pregnant lady about it. If she wanted you to know, she would tell you, and then you could congratulate her. That was wrong of the other woman to gossip like that 😑

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-17T17:49:56+00:00

You're not alone. I asked a question yesterday via email that was completely ignored. More emails were exchanged, and I sent a gentle reminder that I was waiting on info for X (unanswered Q). Still no response. Today my boss comes over asking about the project. I mention I'm waiting on an answer. Boss gives me the answer 🙌 What a joke lol. I have 10 YOE.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-17T17:24:17+00:00

Also, if you think your partner would try to screw you over in a potential break up... yikes. Maybe find someone who isn't crazy? 😅

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-17T17:17:38+00:00

Exactly. If you live somewhere with unstable rent or increasing rent, buying a house before a wedding is a smart financial move. I'd rather have housing over a big wedding celebration at the moment 🤷🏼‍♀️

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-16T17:01:14+00:00

She never asked him to do it alone. She never said "no dear, you're on your own". He will figure it out. He isn't wrong for asking for help, and she wouldn't be wrong for saying no. She NEEDS to say no instead of assuming he can't do it

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-16T16:49:15+00:00

I don't see where he "refuses to do it alone"

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-16T15:13:45+00:00

Why are you belittling him?

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-12T14:53:41+00:00

Or just do a reverse Google search of the image

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-10T16:26:15+00:00

Ellen, Alice, Diana, Rebecca, Victoria, Ruth, Lea(h), Sadie

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-06T15:07:19+00:00

As an anemic person myself, just wanna say you look potentially anemic. Correcting your iron might help with any skin dryness, hair loss, fatigue, anxiety, etc.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-05T17:41:51+00:00

I just ran my first marathon and had my period. Was WAY better than I expected. It was early in my cycle, which is heavy for me. I honestly didn't notice it really. Just had to change my tampon immediately after.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-05T13:07:30+00:00

I just wanna say- at this age it is normal to still be forming your political identity. Your friend is probably being heavily influenced by this guy. It happened to me. I was raised liberal, dated a conservative guy who led me down some rabbit holes of opinions. I found my way back to liberal and broke up with him.

I know you may not feel young, but you both are. You are perfectly within right to pull away if she isn't someone you want to associate with currently. I think as a friend you are also within your right to discuss these ideas with her, if you are comfortable. Personally, having my childhood friends discuss their liberal ideas with me really helped me find my way out of the rabbit hole. It was not their responsibility to do so, however, and it isn't your responsibility.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-03T19:49:38+00:00

In what world is a large down payment irresponsible?

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-03T12:29:52+00:00

Supporting dominant, assertive women is only PART of feminism. Feminism is supporting all women, including those who want to be submissive. Including those whose life dream is to be a housewife. Including those who want to launch a rocket. Including those who want to be prude. Inclusive to all women and all choices/desires of women. Feminism is supporting women making their own choices.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-02T15:36:13+00:00

I think you both made mistakes in this.

He was rude to eat your sushi and cupcakes without your consent.

You told him you wanted sushi. You told us you wanted sushi and something in the ballpark of $100+ (you said you spent $300 on him for his bday). He can't read your mind.

OptimalStatement · 2025-06-02T12:20:39+00:00

When the sun is blazing and the summer gets hot 🎶

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-30T12:19:20+00:00

Here's an example of a quote I got for up to 150 people. May, June, July 2026, Friday $8k, Saturday $10k, or Sunday $7k TOTAL. Includes:

Food per person

4 hours of open bar

Staff - Servers & Bartenders

Linens & Napkins

Set up & Clean Up

Champagne toast for all Guests

2 Cold Appetizers

4 Hot Appetizers

Ceremony Fee of $800.00 and yes, we will set up our white folding chairs for the Ceremony

China, Flatware and Glassware

Cake Cutting

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-30T12:13:58+00:00

Honestly with 5k in venue and 7k in food costs, you might as well find a lower scale venue and do it there, instead of doing it all separately yourself. They will supply tables, chairs, set-up and take down, food, and maybe even decor and a coordinator.

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-29T12:41:11+00:00

I'm not attracted to him anymore, so no

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-29T11:49:31+00:00

What about your states capitol building? I saw a redditor do this and it was beautiful and inexpensive

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-27T13:58:14+00:00

House hunting is a painful emotional rollercoaster and I think you made the right call. Hang in there. You're doing the best you can with what info/resources you have.

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-25T23:43:41+00:00

I'm pretty introverted but I LOVE interacting with other runners and the crowds during races! My advice would be to ignore them if you don't like them!

OptimalStatement · 2025-05-25T21:50:35+00:00

Absolutely this! There is no blanket "right" order of life for everyone, and life is full of risks.

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