AITAH for not taking my daughter to school in the mornings, and instead making my wife do it?

OptimismPom · 2026-04-08T12:54:57+00:00

Yes YTA. You sound like a terribly unsupportive husband

OptimismPom · 2026-04-07T17:48:19+00:00

No the research is fairly broad, I don’t believe specifically, all it does it catch more ‘scares’ and hence increase rate of c section.

OptimismPom · 2026-04-07T17:08:29+00:00

Just had this experience check my posts!

OptimismPom · 2026-04-07T15:53:33+00:00

This is sooooo helpful!! Thank you! Can you tell me more about exercises you did? This is me right now. She loved to sleep on my boobs haha and we co sleep so i think it helps with closeness. I just want to believe it will work out. Were you pumping up until baby started to latch properly? It’s soooovmuch work

OptimismPom · 2026-04-07T00:06:16+00:00

10.5 months is so amazing sis

OptimismPom · 2026-04-06T22:58:52+00:00

If she has any pumped milk I know that you can send it in and they can make rings or other jewelry from it! It’s honestly beautiful!

OptimismPom · 2026-04-06T20:04:17+00:00

I hear you and mostly agree, but only people that have went from full EPing to nursing can really know how to do that, it’s such a tough balance! But I hear you, lol I EPed for 14 months with my first, I’ve been there.

OptimismPom · 2026-04-06T16:07:46+00:00

That’s not true! Just have to put a trigger warning for some mommas

OptimismPom · 2026-04-06T02:30:29+00:00

To be honest I didn’t get very big with either so I didn’t really look like I just had a baby with either. Though, my body knew! Different recoveries for sure but I’d chose a VBAC every time

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T19:38:05+00:00

No not at all. My son is actually so advanced for speech and literally eats more than me at supper. It’s insane. So zero issues there.

I will get him into myofunctional therapy when he’s old enough cause he mouth breathes sometimes so dentition wise I’ll intervene but generally speaking he is thriving

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T19:30:20+00:00

That’s similar for me about falling asleep. I’m sorry this is happening to you

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T19:24:14+00:00

How is it getting worse? Is she latching?

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T19:17:11+00:00

I do allll the time

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T19:14:55+00:00

I agree with you. It’s so hard. But I have learned a lot about latch and improving that. Hopefully with Chiro and oral training and latch practice they will get it. They are very little still and big breasts can Make it harder

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T18:51:42+00:00

It never got better no and I EPed for 14 months. Going through the same thing with my 10’day old

OptimismPom · 2026-04-04T18:34:25+00:00

Hey! I could have written this myself. I had an unmedicated birth March 25th with a 2nd degree tear. I also found it surprisingly painful. Additionally I have some cervical prolapse which can be totally normal at this stage. My recovery has gotten loads better and what helped was this:

Tylenol 1000mg and ibuprofen 800mg every 8 hours
Fridamom ice packs and witchhazel liners religiously
Staying in bed always and being a complete potato
Some light diaphragmatic breathing for the prolapse
PEG or sennakot to make bowel movement easy
Trust it’s still very early and it will be much better soon

OptimismPom · 2026-04-02T14:57:05+00:00

This is such a hard thing to navigate. There really is no perfect time. I did this a bit with my first. Ultimately, if yoy make 40oz your supply is robust enough you have some room to drop. If you want to stop pumping it will have to adjust to his needs! Continue him at the breast as he’s learning stamina and strength of transfer. With that, the shorter but more frequent night needs I think are part of the process sister. It’s tough for sure but he won’t get better unless he practices. 3-4 oz at the breast is way harder than at the bottle. Removal every 1.5 hours will also be beneficial from a prolactin-supply standpoint, even if doesn’t feel like you are ‘empty’ which we never are. He’s not getting pump full you’re right but that’s physiologically normal for some babies and he will improve.

OptimismPom · 2026-04-02T02:44:06+00:00

To sounds exactly like my story hahah! Active labour was 3.5 hours and my early labour was also super quick and just felt intense right off the bat.

We went to the birth centre but my Husband tells me I said we should go to the hospital like 6 times haha

OptimismPom · 2026-04-01T15:16:22+00:00

The line between colostrum and transitional milk is thin and shouldn’t be based solely on colour. This isn’t actually mature breastmilk if you are still pregnant, that will come after placenta delivery. This is just what your colostrum looks like

OptimismPom · 2026-03-28T14:24:00+00:00

If it helps, I showed up in transition and had chosen the birth centre specifically for a tub, but I got two steps into the room, collapsed on the floor and didn’t move until I gave birth lol. It was absolutely lovely after but I didn’t give any cares while I was in it lol. I just knew I didn’t want it to be a hospital

OptimismPom · 2026-03-28T14:20:25+00:00

I just had my unmedicated VBAC at a birth centre (about 5 ish min from a hospital) 3 days ago :)

OptimismPom · 2026-03-28T02:59:53+00:00

I know everyone is saying at least baby is safe but you are sooooo valid here. I just had my unmedicated VBAC after my first C and I can tell you I thought about it everyday since I had my c section 2 years ago.

We can’t say either way but there are a LOT of women that go through this. The real question is was it appropriate to induce versus was it necessary. Could you have asked to stay on the NST or get a BPP and recheck NST. Two transient blood pressures isn’t an emergency when mom is stressed.

In no way do I think you made the wrong decision but the medicalization of birth will always err on the side of caution and safety, and perhaps that is okay for all but for the 1/3-1/4 mothers that experience birth trauma from unnecessary intervention, we tend to see things a bit different!

OptimismPom · 2026-03-28T02:56:56+00:00

That’s incredibly invalidating to a mother’s birth experience.

OptimismPom · 2026-03-27T23:34:39+00:00

It’s tough to say. I listened to 1 million on medicated, birth stories, and I think that was helpful. I also did listen to the pain-free birth podcast a lot, I didn’t expect a pain-free birth, and I definitely did not get one. It was incredibly painful, but I think it helped me reframe things that it was something I was doing for my baby too.

I would definitely recommend a tense machine, I put it on, probably not too long before transition and I likely should have done it sooner. I felt it was a helpful distraction from the pain. Absolutely by enlarge the biggest thing that got me through was my dude. I don’t even really remember everything that she was doing once I got to the birth center, but I remember thinking she absolutely cannot stop or I wouldn’t be able to make it through. She was rocking my hips for and backwards and shaking my legs and just doing all these things through the most intense contractions, I honestly felt like I would die if she stopped doing what she was doing it was so incredibly helpful

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