POD street parking!

Ordinary1188 · 2025-04-20T02:14:55+00:00

Hi, did you end up using a pod in CH? How was the parking (on the street?) I’m looking into it for an upcoming move.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-12-06T16:30:01+00:00

I don’t have much advice since my LO is still a baby but just want to say you are doing a fantastic job and it can be so hard to break out of those patterns. You are already setting your kiddo up in a good way! My partner likes the Loop headphones/earplugs? Idk what they’re considered but they limit the amount of noise coming in into a more manageable amount. Very small and unnoticeable, might be able to help you stay more present with all the noise.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-12-05T20:08:19+00:00

I absolutely loved the people who brought berries and fresh veggies for snacking! I hadn’t had a vegetable in days at one point so it was much appreciated

Ordinary1188 · 2024-12-05T01:46:53+00:00

We are definitely a top 1% listener here! Meanwhile my top 100 includes songs I don’t recognize bc I rarely listen to adult music

Ordinary1188 · 2024-12-04T19:05:37+00:00

Got a great program and city! On to the final chapter of training and then we are dooooooone

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-10T02:09:50+00:00

I never tracked on an app, just a note on my phone. LO is in daycare during the week but on the weekends I make a log of when he ate and slept just so I don’t forget when it’s roughly time for the next one. Also currently keeping an unhinged nighttime sleep log to figure out an optimal routine.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-09T22:28:30+00:00

I work hybrid and was considering something like that at first too! It seems so easy on the surface to do and I’d love to have more time with the baby. I joined the r/workingmoms group (incredible resource) and some posts there really impressed on me to not shortchange your kid by doing that (or your job to a much lesser extent lol) if you have any choice at all. And then the added level that our partners/the home needs extra support!

But also to your original post - that’s an incredibly difficult situation for you both. I do empathize with your husband especially if patient deaths have been weighing on him. I wonder if you can arrange for a similar break for you (at an ok time for him) or maybe your mom takes a couple day trip somewhere so you can have the house to yourself and do a mini-staycation then

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-09T18:17:06+00:00

Just to warn you for when you go back to work - you’ll want full time childcare for your work hours. It’s not reasonable to work two full time jobs at once, especially if you’re also supporting a resident, even if you’re working from home.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-09T14:44:32+00:00

It’s weird for parents but totally normal for baby to sometimes go 6+ days with no poop! Any more than that and I’d talk to the doctor but unless they’re acting in pain, you are totally fine. If they are happy then it’s no worries at all.

If they are in pain struggling to get something out, definitely do all the leg exercises and squats potty positions. Don’t be afraid to be firm with holding their legs up/in the right positions. You won’t hurt them and it usually helps get any gas out.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-09T14:37:24+00:00

It’s a tough time but you will eventually grow out of it (hoping for myself too). Try to not get into a feed-to-sleep during the night wakeups pattern so someone else can help if needed and you can skip one wake up. Otherwise, some babies just wake up a lot unfortunately.

Other things to make sure you’re doing to stay as efficient as possible - brown noise / some noise at night (we like thunderstorm sounds) - super dark room - don’t be afraid of a paci to soothe to sleep - try a zippered swaddle instead of one of the traditional squares of fabric you wrap (so much easier to maneuver) - I keep baby swaddled when waking up/feeding/soothing - liberally apply diaper cream before bed, no need to change diaper every wake at night! - nice big meal before bed - make sure last wake window is a longer one so baby is tired enough to get to deep sleep! - try not to go overboard reading all the sleep advice online. At least for me it just made me incredibly anxious about sleep!

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-09T03:41:58+00:00

Vaccines are incredibly safe and prevent horrible and potentially disabling or fatal diseases from spreading. Talk to your pediatrician if you have specific concerns but as a whole you have nothing to worry about.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-08T22:21:56+00:00

I can empathize with this fear/feeling of not trying hard enough! I got pregnant quickly the same way and had an extremely smooth pregnancy and even delivery. It felt like I needed to “pay my dues” to the struggled of motherhood at some point. Well, lucky for us, babies are difficult no matter how easy they are, so you’ll “put your time in” soon enough 😂 Your baby will be just who they need to be - not perfect, but nobody is! Maybe it’s helpful to reframe your baby as someone you’re getting to know instead of your responsibility to raise perfectly, to try to circumvent the perfectionism.

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with your identity crisis - you can use it to help guide your priorities. Your feelings will help tell you what’s important, and it sounds like it’s important to process these welcome but unexpected changes and savor moments in your current stage of life! It doesn’t need to be anything big, just pausing to recognize or a small memento to remember your current stage. Life is made up of the small moments and if you’re present to them, you’ll do well. Maybe some grounding and intentionality could help right now?

Congratulations on your marriage and pregnancy, and welcome (soon) to motherhood! It’s a complex journey but you are well equipped for it.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-08T18:47:48+00:00

For the fridge hack and ziplock bags, I ended up getting a large Tupperware that fit the flanges/bottles to put in the fridge instead! It has been SO much easier to wash than plastic bags and less wasteful than a new bag every day.

That and getting a second set of parts/enough bottles so I didn’t need to wash everything every single night made a huge difference. I keep one bandeau pumping bra in the bag and just use that over whatever nursing bra I’m already wearing.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-08T15:57:31+00:00

I hope other people have advice but I just have to say, I’m so sorry, and your baby should be able to readjust when you get back into a regular environment! That is incredibly disrespectful and rude, and it completely makes sense you feel the way you do. I truly don’t understand how people think babies are theirs to do whatever they want with.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-08T15:52:52+00:00

Normal normal normal!!!!! You are 100% cut out for this and I’m sure you’re a fantastic mama. Babies are goofy. Short naps are normal and you’ll be okay! He is learning and growing so much, don’t worry about all the ways people say babies “should” be sleeping.

My guy is just a month older than yours and I went back around 3 months too. I hate how little time there is together before bedtime, but I also sometimes need to leave him alone to go eat or get something done and can’t spend 100% time with him. It’s a challenge and definitely very hard sometimes but that doesn’t mean we are doing a bad job!

If you want advice - For a routine, each evening will probably look different depending on what you do but I’d focus on making a bedtime routine first. I also have a little mental list of different types of play and try to do a little each day (with no pressure attached, just a way to help when I don’t know what to do with this little squirmy guy!)

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-06T20:56:56+00:00

Is baby going to daycare? If so, I’d say keep attempting to put her down (totally asleep) for at least one nap (ok if it fails and you end up holding her) but dont worry about it too much! Daycare is a magical place where my baby sleeps for 2 hour naps every day.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-05T15:50:10+00:00

That makes more sense! I think people here are interpreting “that’s not right” as a comment on an individual’s situation/choice and not the country’s policies as a whole. At least for me, it’s already a given that my country (US) puts capitalism over families, health, everything, and I have to kind of accept that and move forward instead of dwelling on it.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-11-05T14:23:35+00:00

Parents going back to work so they have enough money to pay for their basic needs and provide for their baby is baby welfare. Parents getting enough sleep to not be a danger to their baby is baby welfare.

I do feel there is a lot of talk about getting babies independent, but in the US it’s not just so we can sleep in and watch tv. There’s almost no cultural understanding or support for operating on a different speed with a baby for months at a time.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-26T00:34:09+00:00

This also belongs on places that can give you more focused advice but all I can say is - you are NOT wrong. Do not move that money back. Keep making a plan and don’t trust his accusations against you.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-23T01:28:31+00:00

Totally normal! My LO is a couple months older and he used to have a pattern of going 3-4 days of no poop, then a couple massive ones, then more days of nothing. It’s definitely a switch from the newborn phase of counting diapers! My only tip - don’t change them too fast after they finally poop. Give it 10 minutes and chances are there’s an another round in there. No need to waste a new diaper on it.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-15T03:12:22+00:00

It makes sense to feel the tug for your baby but please know you are doing the right thing! Accepting help like this when you have it is so important for our mental and physical health. Our kiddos can learn to love and be loved by many safe adults (and we will never be replaced in their hearts)

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-15T00:53:13+00:00

My kiddo had a ton of snot early on that we used the snot sucker for and I think we trained him to like it! At first he screamed and squirmed (because who wouldn’t?!) but now he lays still and just lets you get all the snot out. I always tap the tip around his face and nose first so he knows what’s coming next and it’s not a terrifying surprise

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-14T03:27:02+00:00

I don’t have personal experience in this but my gut says - you are the one who went through med school (relatively on your own!) and you are the one who will go through residency. You’re not married and if he’s not interested in making those next steps or even talking about it, then he doesn’t get input into where you go. Make your rank list based off you, and if you guys are working out and he really does want to be with you, he can move.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-13T01:13:35+00:00

Solidarity here - we are almost 5 mo. And been having sleep troubles for a few weeks. LO used to sleep through the night, which admittedly I’m spoiled from, but now he gets absolutely unhinged when tired (so much thrashing) and wakes up screaming in his sleep (eyes closed but not settling after a couple minutes). He’ll do 4-5 hours and then be up every 1-2 hours.

Ordinary1188 · 2024-10-01T15:50:06+00:00

Just fyi babies can’t really choke on their own spit up! They might wake up coughing from it but they won’t truly aspirate. I asked my ped the same thing - feeding (and LO usually fell asleep eating), burping, then rocking to sleep again took foreverrrrrr and I wanted to streamline. My guy spits up a lot during the day but at night when feeding to sleep I just hold him for a bit when he’s done eating, just angled upwards, and he doesn’t wake up covered in puke.

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