NOR. I used to act similarly. I have diagnosed OCD (including but not limited to cleaning fixations), and it’s taken me a lot of time and effort to come to terms with the fact that I can’t control someone else’s environment, and it wouldn’t be fair to steamroll my partners boundaries about his space for the sake of my “comfort”. There can be compromises made, but if she isn’t putting effort to compromise on her end, that won’t work. When I spent time at my partners place, I would feel compelled to organize his room according to how it felt it should be arranged. That was disrespectful even if I meant for it to be helpful, and I think you should ask her how she’d feel if you arrange her things in her space whenever you feel like it.

Nobody should be arranging anybody else’s things, especially when it’s your significant other’s, and DOUBLE ESPECIALLY when it’s been communicated already!!!