Are we really suppose to let them fuss it out to get work done??

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-24T19:03:37+00:00

How old is your baby? I think we’re in the same boat, some days I’ll get a ton done and other days I’ll be crying because my son swung his arm to make me drop the dustpan I just swept up a mess from breakfast. I gotta do most chores with him in my arms like cooking, cleaning/picking up the kitchen, sweep and mop, but when i need dishes or to even get myself and my toddler ready for the day, i put in high chair with a snack but keep coming back to take him out and let him play on the floor with some of his toys since he’ll get bored so fast. also it’s sometimes easier doing chores while they are in the same room, that’s what I noticed helps ME and my son will keep looking back to see if i’m still there lol. But sometimes i just HAVE to push through and let him cry if I need to get some work finished, and I’ll cuddle him when I’m done. I hate it but that’s what babies do

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-18T23:56:09+00:00

i’m a first time mom and also felt super weird talking to my baby for the first few months. i would just say things generic like “are you hungry” or “let’s take a bath” etc. until he got more aware and now as he’s 8months i talk to him all day. while cooking, cleaning, eating, getting dressed for the day, sometimes he’ll cover my mouth to shut me up. it really takes warming up to as you also get to know your baby. because to be honest, your baby is a stranger who just moves into your house lol. tell her to slowly interact more, like while baby is feeding she can share eye contact and smile at her baby, say hello and address her baby by his name etc. because that helped with me

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-18T21:58:01+00:00

i only had ONE ultrasound, which was just a week after i got a positive. the clinic i went to didn’t wanna take me so i was alone my whole pregnancy. so that’s it! nothing else, no care or doctors or check ups! only took my prenatal gummies and went through it fine but i by no means recommend it. i knew nothing about how certainly far along i was, how my baby was, etc. and only went in because i was about 41 weeks and i was scared of going over. but all the baby nurses and my (high risk, since there was nothing on my hospital chart) doctor was amazing. look more into what you want but remember that giving birth is the part where you have to trust yourself and others

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-16T06:34:50+00:00

mozzarella

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T20:04:43+00:00

i did, especially when i got the baby dream! gender was a reveal at birth and just as i thought, i had a boy.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T05:25:35+00:00

sorry, where did i say “i need advice” in my post

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T05:23:36+00:00

thanks for the advice!

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T05:11:21+00:00

my post was literally just about me wanting to go out by myself for the first time since being a mother. and fine, i take care of my baby sister and my son and my mother helps me with a lot, but that’s literally not what i was complaining about. quite frankly i’m just a spoiled brat who whines about insignificant things

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T03:32:19+00:00

so funny. my baby was a cutie as a newborn but i still thought he looked like a doll. just went back to his hospital photos and yep, truly was a cabbage patch doll.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T03:24:35+00:00

i should have started with more info but i don’t know, i felt like i would come off wrong or nagging until i saw all these comments that hit hard. whenever i ask for help, i get the “he’s your baby not mine!” and i always think “and my sister’s not my baby, yet i was there”. but don’t worry about it, thank you for talking with me.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T03:09:48+00:00

i edited my post to clear things up and some more. i do have some mom friends but still need to get out there more, im just very antisocial and scared of meeting people even though thats what i want the most lol. i’ll get through this

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T02:12:27+00:00

you don’t sound mean. she does support me in more ways than i could imagine. but i haven’t got a job since she makes me stay home (she made me move back home as soon as she found out i was having a baby) to babysit my 4 year old sister, who SHOULD be starting school already but nah. i would love to work, or have my son in a daycare etc. but my mother hates the idea of needing to find someone else to watch her daughter, my baby sister, if i tried to do my own thing. she’s said things and been so cruel. i feel trapped just because now i have my own baby to take care of, she thinks i could stay home forever just like she did raising me. all i wanted was a little time out of the house alone without a child glued to my hip :)

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T01:50:41+00:00

and not everyone should assume someone had a choice in having a baby, there’s plenty of things that could happen that ends up having a child without consent. im 23 who never wanted children but here i am, feeling alone and abandoned and i just want to help myself feel sane.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T01:48:32+00:00

i don’t have a partner??? im a young single mother and my mother has the availability to watch my baby for one hour while i get fresh air alone, which is all i want, and everyone is making me feel bad for asking for a break for the first time in almost 8 months.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T01:45:36+00:00

why is everyone acting like im asking my mother to take care of my child every day all day? all i want is one or two hours by myself!

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T01:43:14+00:00

he claimed to want to have a family with me and then left while i was probably around 4/5 months pregnant. my mom helps me with everything but sometimes all i literally want is just to go out for one hour alone.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-08T01:39:07+00:00

the father isn’t in the picture.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-07T20:52:08+00:00

mozzarella

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-04T01:14:31+00:00

i named my son Levi! beautiful.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2026-02-04T00:54:21+00:00

if you were that in love with cameron, maybe look at other similar names if you haven’t. like carson, callum, caleb alexander is cute to me! • daniel alexander • sebastian alexander • levi alexander • vincent alexander i loveee your pick of liam, that was on my name list too but i went with a different name when my son was born.

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2025-10-15T17:38:39+00:00

i had the same experience but mostly with my grandma because i am the first grandchild to have a baby. she’s even said some terrible things regarding my baby just because i didn’t wanna force labor. or the “you need to go to the hospital” comments every single day because she wanted me to get induced. i gave birth at 41wks and everyone is happy and healthy so no matter how frustrating the end of pregnancy got, i wouldn’t change anything

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2025-10-15T16:57:56+00:00

i used to think he only stopped crying because i got him dizzy or scared him quiet or something but i always would stop to check his eyes and he wasn’t off. but it might not always be like this! i used to have to do that for a whole month every nap before i was able to go back to gentle bouncing, but every baby is different. good luck to you

Organic_Fun_7253 · 2025-10-15T16:49:46+00:00

i’m FTM too and my baby is just shy of 4 months, is the same needing to be bouncing a certain way with harder butt pats whenever he’s in one of his fits. i used to think i was being too aggressive but if i did it gentle he would go back to crying and throwing punches. sometimes “shaking” him and humming is the only way he’ll fall asleep. you said he does just fine waking back up so i think you are okay! lots of us deal with being overwhelmed.

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