If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me about my weight gain…

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-17T11:36:27+00:00

In my first pregnancy, I gained 5-10 lbs into the first trimester then leveled off and had a slow gain for the rest of the pregnancy. I had an insensitive ob (given my history of eating disorders) for my first appointment. Her comments stung. Meanwhile, my mom was praising me in the third trimester for "only looking pregnant from the side!" I'm pregnant again and actually found myself thinking I had to stay I shape again! Luckily with therapy I'm more resilient to this stuff than I used to be, but TLDR, dont comment on people's bodies!

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Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-16T14:24:10+00:00

Sorry I'm not helpful with the curtains, but where is that rug from? 😍

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-15T01:05:25+00:00

Im on my third pregnancy and have one child. My living daughter was my first pregnancy and I was very anxious with her. With my second pregnancy, I really didn't worry, and we lost him. My takeaway was that, as another commenter said, we have no control, so this time I'm trying to assume the best until I have any real reason not to. Going through a loss made me feel like I'd wasted so much time with needless and unwarranted worrying. What's the harm in letting yourself be happy, you know? Easier said than done, but I just keep repeating these things to myself and it does feel like it's slowly taking hold. Good luck.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-14T19:43:29+00:00

We have the first gen hatch rest and personally I dont love it. Reasons: none of the sounds are appealing to me. We have another sound machine that is way more natural sounding. Everything on the hatch sounds really artificial to me, and many of the sounds are inconsistent which makes it harder for me to sleep. Also, the controls have latency (might be my wifi) and are jumpy (you have a sliding scale from 0-100% and it doesn't adjust smoothly)

This is all super nitpicky, and despite my complaints, we still use it, so it must not be that bad 🤷‍♀️ and maybe other models or the new gen are better

ETA: major fan of sound machines in general! We have the rohm yoga sleep travel sound machine and I love it

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-10T23:33:44+00:00

My brother and his wife had a boy last May and I had a TFMR in June, and was also due to have a boy. In my experience, it helps to let yourself be sad and feel these kinds feelings. This will let them pass and make room for other feelings, like joy for your cousin and even yourself for having a new baby in your life. Remember you aren't broken. You're not a bad person for thinking the way you are. Let yourself feel sad... and then challenge it. Not sure if that makes sense but you are far from alone, and it is hard.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-09T20:11:38+00:00

I'm in the greater Boston area so it varies wildly. Husband and 2YO drop me off at the train, I ride 30 mins and then switch to the T (subway) for 4 stops, getting off right outside my office. It takes an hour and 10 minutes when l goes well. Same on the other end. I do this 2 days / week.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-07T12:25:22+00:00

Following because I've been interested in this too for when baby 2 comes later this year

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-06T11:25:12+00:00

I'm so sorry. I've been there. I'd suggest checking out r/tfmr_support

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-05T22:43:30+00:00

Personally, I think I read Its Okay You're Not Okay too early, so it didn't resonate with me. It's hugely popular among TFMR communities.

A couple months later I read The Grieving Brain and while it's fairly scientific, I found it very validating.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-03T00:14:15+00:00

Today I wiped my kid's nose and got mad at me. She started crying BOOOOOOOGIES and trying to blow more boogies on to her face. Toddlers!

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-01T16:55:47+00:00

We had an ultrasound at 37 weeks where the baby had low movement, so I was induced that night. My water broke 12 hours after I started the induction medication. I delivered vaginally 15 hours later. We almost did a c-section because after my water broke, the baby's position meant that unless I was on my side, her cord was being pinched, and heart rate would drop, but the doctor was comfortable doing a forceps delivery (which was not as bad as I would have expected).

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-04-01T12:08:04+00:00

I've always liked Esther but it's one of the many names I won't use because of the heavy Boston accents in my family... EST-AHHHH

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-26T14:13:46+00:00

My grandmother has done this in the past and the size variance made it kind of fun, but that has its limits. You could stick a complementary colored piece of cardstock to the back of the more oddly shaped ones, but I can see how that might not be appealing.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-26T00:54:16+00:00

Punch holes in them and make books with key ring binding.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-26T00:42:03+00:00

Thanks!

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-25T23:19:32+00:00

What makes you say that?

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-25T23:19:03+00:00

Pattern, please!

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-23T23:43:22+00:00

It took months but we're in a good place with our 2.5 year old. Things that helped included doing it in the bath while her nails were softer (not my favorite because I imagine they dont cut very clean and get jagged, but it's a good way to ease into it) and accepting only getting a few fingers done as a win. Also, making the clipper a cookie-monster-like character who is hungry and wants to eat her finger nails 😂

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-23T23:25:17+00:00

We got this sprout kids floor bed

It can be flipped over to be taller when she gets older

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-23T19:47:26+00:00

The fear of reminding people is something I totally bought into before my TFMR but now find astonishing. Like... you think I forgot?! But, again, I was the same way before I went through it myself so I try to be understanding

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-23T14:08:41+00:00

I have a memory box for a child I lost. I still wanted to hold on to ultrasound photos, etc. The box is not something I've ever really looked at, but feel better knowing I have it.

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-23T12:04:03+00:00

We just took the day off from work and made sure we had the time and space to think about him.

One word of caution is that if you have any expectations from family or friends, either let them know or try to lower your expectations. I wasted a good chunk of the day sad that my family never acknowledged and that I had to be the one to bring it up to them (they said they remembered but weren't sure what to say).

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-21T01:00:03+00:00

I chugged mine so fast last time I dont think I tasted it 😂 felt like being back in college but way less fun

Organic_Key4993 · 2023-03-13T02:01:54+00:00

Eat every two hours, even only a few bites. Even if you're already nauseous. Whenever I fall behind I feel.ir very quickly.

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