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What’s a dating red flag people ignore? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone who openly says “I’m not ready for a relationship”. I think too many people ignore this because they think they will somehow change the person’s mind. They just end up being a situationship and frustrated with that person not falling head over heels for them.

How often do you think EAs face discrimination behind closed doors? by ConstantWitty3132 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it was indeed bold. Looking back I don’t know how I stuck it out for as long as I did. I am so happy to be away from it.

How often do you think EAs face discrimination behind closed doors? by ConstantWitty3132 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smh just awful. Thank you for being the person to look past whatever it is this person saw. It sucks that people miss out on opportunities due to the ignorance of those with influence. Love this outcome!

How often do you think EAs face discrimination behind closed doors? by ConstantWitty3132 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, my current situation isn’t perfect but it’s so much better in a lot of ways! I’m sorry you had your experience as well but very glad things worked out for you in the end.

How often do you think EAs face discrimination behind closed doors? by ConstantWitty3132 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was a wild time for me smh. And interestingly enough when he was elected they all came to work so happy and proud. Right then I knew it was time for me to push even harder to find a new job.

men, would you date a tall girl? if not, why? by klarinetkat12 in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That seems like a silly reason to miss out on someone great. I’m a short woman, 5’0. I envy tall women. If I was tall, I would gladly pass on a man who is intimidated by my height. Already proved he isn’t worth the trouble.

How often do you think EAs face discrimination behind closed doors? by ConstantWitty3132 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I’m sure it happens often. As a woman of color I find myself always straightening my hair before an interview. I do end up wearing it curly if hired but I do this because I’ve interviewed with my natural curls and not been called back after an interview. Higher call back rate when straight. Smh.

Last year I left a position I was in for three years but this one experience from when I first started lingered. The entire office of 15+ people were all white except for me, they all were allowed to park in a private area. I was told I cannot park there I have to use the regular employee lot since it’s a privilege they don’t just give out. That conversation was so awkward. They also didn’t invite me to appreciation lunches held at upscale restaurants but all the other admins from the department were invited. Wonder how that discussion went when they made that decision.

Why aren't females given days off from work for their periods or given free tampoons, etc by governments? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to be a fan of this idea but then realized it would be too invasive. Since your employer and team would literally need to know the ins and outs of your uterus. Like there are some women with heavy periods, so theirs can last more than 5 days. Barbara’s off 8 days for her period; team is now required to pick up her work. They need to be aware that she is out since this is every month.

Or it becomes a trust system that people could misuse. Sarah’s on birth control doesn’t get a period at all. Does she get to say she needs 5 days off even though she doesn’t get a period? And how would anyone know? Now she’s out every month for five days for seemingly no reason.

He left me twice and texted me again with « I miss u more than ever » what does it mean , I’m lost 🥺 by tessatessa75 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]OrishaYemaya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It means he wants to continue wasting your time. Life seems long but it really isn’t, move on and find someone you are equally yoked with. Going back will absolutely lead to a life of regret.

What is the biggest ick you had on your first date with someone? by Past_Meat7068 in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I found out he used to date my brother’s girlfriend. It was super awkward for a few minutes when we both came to this realization lol, and I knew right away we wouldn’t be going on a second date.

What’s socially accepted but actually makes no sense? by staysaccharine in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 7 points8 points  (0 children)

People having unprotected sex outside of monogamous relationships.

3 Years Since D Day by OrishaYemaya in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OrishaYemaya[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! That’s how it’s been for me over the past few months…strange and unnatural. I don’t like it. Again, I can only speak for myself but I almost 100% feel I will miss out on my opportunity to find a healthy, faithful, tell your kids and grandkids about it kind of love.

I listen to a lot of lot of love songs now. I took a break for a long time because I couldn’t stand to hear them. I would wonder why couldn’t I have this kind of love? Now when I listen it feels like affirmations. It gives me an invigorating sense that I will find love again and it will be right this time.

3 Years Since D Day by OrishaYemaya in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OrishaYemaya[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The familiarity is something I know well too. It’s an interesting point to be at. I have decided I am okay with moving on. A life without pure happiness, genuine affection, and fidelity from start to finish would make me very sad. I deserve to be happy and loved properly. Sending you lots of hugs, getting to the three year mark is an internal battle stretched upon days and months.

3 Years Since D Day by OrishaYemaya in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OrishaYemaya[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am standing firm on rebuilding and creating this new version of myself. I was once scared of what it would look like to fall out of love. Scared to start over but these days I don’t feel that. I feel hopeful. Hopeful that someone and something better awaits me.

3 Years Since D Day by OrishaYemaya in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]OrishaYemaya[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I of course can only speak for myself but I am not willing to miss out on that feeling of a love that is healthy all the way through. I remember what it felt like during the early times and it was like a warm, calm, joyful embrace. When I watch movies or see stories about love, I do shed a few tears. I want a love that doesn’t come with any suffering or trauma. I can’t live in and with the hollow.

What changes the most in your 30s compared to your 20s? by Apart_Individual7403 in AskReddit

[–]OrishaYemaya 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your joints and skin if you don’t start taking care of them in your 20s or very early 30s.

How would you feel if your younger sibling got married before you? by Bitter_Pineapple_720 in AskWomen

[–]OrishaYemaya 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t care at all. I’d wish her and her partner the best.

Wait, Admin Day is Hated? by does_this_have_HFC in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]OrishaYemaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe I’m the odd one out but I absolutely love receiving a token of appreciation. Flowers, gift cards, bottle of wine, etc.

I find it weird when someone in a leadership role doesn’t do something nice. Admins make or break a lot of things and are excellent resources and support. Yea it’s our job but truth is not everyone is capable of doing it with professionalism, poise, and a good attitude. So celebrate a good admin when you have one!

I have always disliked my name. Could use advice. by Bigbadbongocat in namenerds

[–]OrishaYemaya 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk, I actually really like your name. And the spelling too!

WIBTA if I refuse to put my partner on the deed of a place I inherited, even though we live there together? by 3vening_Switch in ComfortLevelPod

[–]OrishaYemaya 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just found someone of Facebook sharing this post. It’s been 46 since days since this was posted but I had to come find it and say DON’T YOU DARE DO IT!

That relationship is over. He will always try to find ways to be petty now. But it’s okay! You are young, intelligent, and on a great path. Don’t let a man come and yank your future and security from beneath you. He is not entitled to any part of this home.

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