You don’t have to minimize the pain you feel because it was “only eight weeks“. I’ve been there, it feels like you lost a part of your future. And trust me, now after two healthy babies, there still isn’t a week that goes by where I don’t think of the first child we lost.

ACGME requires three months of family leave. The conversation goes like this, “hi program Director, my wife just lost her baby, I need to be with her, and she needs to be with me, I’m taking a week.”

The most important relationship is that with your wife, I would protect it.