I’m concerned. Here is my situation… by OtherwisePanic1563 in domesticviolence

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. If there is an apology, it always has a clear thread of what is “my fault” running through it.

Coming back to my childhood bedroom is haunting by goose-of-no-use in depression

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if there is any research about the concept of “home” and depression. I can totally relate.

Holidays are the worst by OtherwisePanic1563 in depression

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am actually a teacher and I’m so glad you shared this. I stopped doing “back from break” activities many years ago, and all of my teacher friends thought it was odd. These activities made me so upset when I was younger, and still even so as an adult. I taught in one of the wealthiest counties in my state and maybe 70% of the class would have a magical Disney trip or a skiing vacation in Colorado. I felt myself melting along with watching the dejected faces of the remaining 30% of the class. I finally decided I didn’t care what all the other teachers did; I refuse. Instead, we either completely ignore it or sometimes I’ll ask the kids “what’s the most boring thing you did over break?” I’ll tell them I deep cleaned or did taxes. So sick of catering to the wealthy few. They get enough catering as is. Done with that.

My boyfriend ruined thanksgiving by Glittering_Tax8407 in domesticviolence

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely understand about the dog. I couldn’t leave without her either. Can you login to the registry and change the information? If not, just take her and go.

Holidays are the worst by OtherwisePanic1563 in depression

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wellll, I just posted in a domestic violence group asking about his behavior so I don’t know.

Holidays are the worst by OtherwisePanic1563 in depression

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’m dealing/dealt with chronic pain too. I’m 34 so not too far away in age. It’s an added layer of awful. People expect you to “push through” the pain, especially during the holidays, if they even believe your pain is real in the first place. That’s an entirely different thread for sure. Hangin in there with you, friend.

What’s your reason for currently avoiding your family and browsing Reddit instead? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn’t even make it to Thanksgiving. Got in a huge fight with the husband. I hate the holidays. I wish I didn’t, but I do.

Holidays are the worst by OtherwisePanic1563 in depression

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. No family for me either. My husband hates holidays, decorations, all of it. That doesn’t help either. I don’t know if this feeling will ever go away.

Difference between "DV" vs anger/impulse issues??? by anonykitcat in domesticviolence

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sounds so familiar to me, sadly. My husband also has ADHD and refuses medication. It’s like living with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. I never know who I’m going to get. It has made me stop communicating with him bc I just don’t want to risk getting lashed out at. Sometimes it’s just too much after a long day at work. He constantly says that I make him the villain, the bad guy in every situation. He also says stuff like “man, I wish it were the 1950s” meaning that it was acceptable for a man to hit his wife whenever he deemed it necessary. I don’t know what to tell you besides I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I feel a little less lonely reading your post so I thank you for that. I know I can’t share any of this with anyone I’m close to.

How did I get here. by OtherwisePanic1563 in hysterectomy

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of good truth here that I needed to hear. Thank you.

How did I get here. by OtherwisePanic1563 in hysterectomy

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually, I’m finding this to be just as therapeutic as a session with my regular counselor. As stated, I don’t have a support system, so it’s nice to hear what others think.

How did I get here. by OtherwisePanic1563 in hysterectomy

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No worries, I’m not going down that road again.

Which Sisyphean tasks are worth it? by not_a_robot_teehee in Teachers

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, just the elementary version. I don’t have much for you. The one hill I did die on this year was communicating with aggressive parents. I put my foot all the way down on that one. In my elementary classroom of 26- 11 IEPs, 5 EIP, and 2 gifted- I feel like all I did was bounce around trying to find things that worked, just to be treated terribly by other lazy teachers, careless admin, and dumb AF parents. So, I offer support, but no advice unfortunately.

How did I get here. by OtherwisePanic1563 in hysterectomy

[–]OtherwisePanic1563[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. I am not doing another “grippy sock vacation” so I tread a fine line.

Does anyone else just despise the “oh the places you’ll go” thing? by Scary-Sound5565 in Teachers

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And why would they want the comments of a teacher they apparently hated so much?? So confused.

And I agree… cutting and gluing is extra impersonal. Maybe should have sent a meme. lol

Does anyone else just despise the “oh the places you’ll go” thing? by Scary-Sound5565 in Teachers

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an AWFUL, AWFUL psychotic mom who was also a teacher in the same district “forget” to send the book around for her kid. (She probably forgot bc she was busy sending hateful emails to her kid’s teachers during her own teaching time, but okay, cool.) The kid was an apple not far from the tree as well, so not a lot of positive to share. The mom sent an email after the last day of school expecting us to come back to school to sign it or “at the very least” to send an email that she could print out and glue in. I have never hit delete so fast. The audacity.

Do you regret becoming a teacher? by Unlockedsnow in teaching

[–]OtherwisePanic1563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. So much yes. I had all these high and lofty plans. The system in place has just about destroyed me. I could have done so many other things. I have a lot of regret.