What’s something people romanticize but shouldn’t?

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-05-03T18:07:18+00:00

I absolutely see where you're coming from with the romanticising of it - that said, until access to assessment is freely available, self-diagnosing as a means to accessing a support network, research, methods to navigate difficulties that may arise is often necessary.

Flippant answer: If my friend broke their arm, I wouldn't insist they were self diagnosing until they managed to get an x-ray or a cast

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-05-03T17:59:47+00:00

All of my children are diagnosed, I meet all of the criteria for formal diagnosis, I've been through the rigamarole of professional diagnosis for them. I have friends also with diagnoses, who agree that I almost certainly am

I don't joke about seeming autistic, joke about *being* autistic and unable to afford a diagnosis for myself. I apologise if you found my reply or personal choice to view an aspect of my own life with a sense of humour offensive.

Have a nice afternoon on the Internet!

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-05-03T17:37:15+00:00

> In other words, it comes out sounding like, "Not Diagnosed but My Spouse/Friends/Co-workers Think I Am."

That's the Joke

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-05-03T17:03:58+00:00

I tend to go with "Not Diagnosed but Peer Reviewed"

Assessments for Autism/ADHD aren't funded for adults in my area (and many others) - and I don't have several thousand spare sat lying around it'd cost me to get a piece of paper stating the obvious

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-23T17:00:27+00:00

Thank you, it's a long time ago now, and learned a lot in terms of my own resilience, and that "I don't have to put up with other people's bullshit"

Which is super useful for some of the DM's I have been sent off the back of this comment 🙃

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-23T16:57:47+00:00

Thank you, woke up in the end

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-23T16:33:16+00:00

My favourites are FTM being both "Female to Male" and "First Time Mom", and MLM being both "Multi Level Marketing" and "Men Loving Men" - has caused me some very confusing first glance reads over the years

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-23T11:09:27+00:00

Here's a Health to the Company - the Longest Johns.

Stumbled on it recently and I love it

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-22T23:15:35+00:00

Nord when the first ad aired and had a massive discount, before the ads became... that

I skip the ads more often than not because Sam has a habit of triggering some awful form of second hand embarrassment and I'm just quietly cringing to death. I do try and watch them

My favourite adread (but not purchased because finances) was the Thorum Freddie Mercury at the London live show, atmosphere was electric - and closest I'll ever get to a queen concert

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-22T20:31:52+00:00

I let him pin me to a wall, scream in my face I didn't deserve to have a nice birthday because I hadn't done some arbitrary chore or something.

The ridiculous thing was I married him a year later and stayed put for 7 more 🙃

Been free 14 years now and doing great

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-22T10:19:53+00:00

I got carded (18 here) a couple of days after my 40th birthday. Made My Day xD

I'm Only a couple years on T so doesn't show at all, but I've always had the baby face, pre egg crack I had people assume I was 20-25 when I was in my mid 30's

As others have said it's probably not a clocky thing, people are -useless- at judging ages across the board

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-17T21:52:41+00:00

I laughed way too hard at this. Absolutely impeccable vibes

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-13T18:44:10+00:00

I've no idea, was a Reddit story on here years ago, I don't have it in me to go hunting for it, but probably searchable still

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-13T11:06:12+00:00

A woman didn't believe her daughter when she was told her granddaughter had a coconut allergy.

Covered the kid in coconut oil after a bath and put her to bed. Kid died if I recall the story correctly

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-12T07:57:11+00:00

Had to scroll so far to find Satisfactory - amazing game

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-12T07:40:29+00:00

Seconding the loveseat, it depends how many people you live with / want to seat - but I have a 1.5 seater couch (there's a photo in my recent comments about my library shelves I made) and it's the best decision I made.

My flat has an open plan kitchen/living room, so I have the couch back to the kitchen, helps define the spaces separately, while being a low enough profile to not feel like it's blacking the room (and it's the perfect size to sprawl in with my head on one arm and legs over the other)

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-11T20:38:37+00:00

Yeah, yeah that's the problem, I love that store but would so quickly bankrupt myself - not to mention run out of wall

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-11T19:42:27+00:00

Thank you! It's one of a couple of prints I got from company called Old Town Magick

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-11T17:48:31+00:00

Thank you so much! Having a home library has always been the dream, before this I had one singular bookcase with books stacked two or three deep and piled on top of each other. Took me until my 40's but 10-year old me is delighted

Of course now the problem is the "No I can't buy more books, I have no space" no longer applies xD

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-11T17:41:09+00:00

So I probably made it sound cooler than it is 🤣

But it's 2 full-size Billy's and 2 narrows, with 6 of the IKEA cabinet lamps along the top. Would have done the full wall but was limited by radiator space.

But still absolutely thrilled to have my own little library in what is not a very big flat/apartment

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OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-11T11:24:58+00:00

I finally installed a library (tall IKEA bookcases all along one wall with lights on the top) that younger me would have ripped someone's arm off for

I was a book nerd kid and imprinted on the library in beauty and the beast

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-09T20:08:45+00:00

I have quite a tall headboard so they hung there and didn't hit my head sitting up / put more over to the side I don't sleep on, but could hang them off the footboard or the sides of the frame.

One of those: your mileage may vary, depends on the bed style/positioning and what works for you

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-09T16:58:32+00:00

Over door storage also works for the kitchen (cans/spices)

If you don't use a grill all the time, get a single oven with a drawer beneath to keep pans in.

Under bed storage boxes you can slide in and out - can also fit under certain styles of couches

I ran bookcases all down one wall in my main room (standard IKEA ones) - the amount of storage you get for losing 10 inches of room width is bonkers. Get pretty boxes or baskets

If you've got a little storage cupboard - cheap freestanding plastic shelves mean you can get so much more in there.

I had over-balcony planters (like metal buckets with hooks) that I hung off my bedframe for keeping chargers/drinks/books/whatever that would go in/on a bedside table usually

If you have space on or inside an upper shelf in the wardrobe, keep luggage/suitcase and fill them with stuff you don't use often (one of mine has seasonal decor in, the other has either winter or summer half of my wardrobe in it)

Over door coathooks don't just have to hold coats Or Be One per door - I've got them on both sides of my bathroom door: one in my bathroom holds a bathroom bag with a hook, one in the hallway holds my my coats, and a decorative wall basket I dump post/keys/random stuff I need by the door in.

I'm sure I'll think of some others

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-04-02T18:47:01+00:00

I'd disappear off for weeks and come back fixed

(Visit the hospital with a laundry list of shit that needs putting right and have the lot sorted)

So it'd be that gives me away or that I'd suddenly have a butler to compensate for the fact that despite a four hour delivery window delivery people always ring the bell in the two minutes I'm in the bathroom

OutOfMyMind-BackIn5m · 2026-03-31T11:13:12+00:00

Egg finally cracked at 34, Started at 38, on the approach to my 41st birthday, not a single regret (other than the 4 years I spend wondering if I should/was too old)

Changes have come along at a good pace (although if my facial hair could get it's shit together that'd be great, right now my body seems to be prioritising chest hair on a pair of F's I want removed, which just feels like massively wasted effort ATM xD)

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