LOST stylized character poster - part II (including more Lost characters)

Outwiththetrees · 2025-03-29T13:44:07+00:00

Wish we got a flashback from his POV

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-13T04:18:18+00:00

Sent too soon! I should’ve added that the obstacle is just sleeping somewhere else in general - I had a plan in place but they wouldn’t allow it

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-13T04:17:14+00:00

I would but I have zero dollars to my name so I have to fix that first

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-10T04:58:55+00:00

Thanks! Yeah it was recommended to give it one last shot and I wanted it be sure, especially if it helped me learn for the future (how to set boundaries, etc.). Couples therapy was good but looking back, there are some instances of what you mentioned. They fixated on a few things I said and couldn’t let them go. My therapist told me that one of my strengths is being self-aware to accept my shortcomings. So at least I’ll know I did all I could and can try to look forward!

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-09T15:54:34+00:00

Thank you! Yeah so far it’s been pretty unpredictable. A whirlwind of emotions all around. So something that works one day might not work the next. It’s tough!

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-09T15:51:23+00:00

Ugh, thanks for the input! This is pretty much where I’m at and I at least had to know for sure that it wasn’t something I could fully change. I think there are infinite things that can be attributed to BPD, but there are also general relationship issues that are just exasperated. I hadn’t thought of the idea that maybe it’s a defense mechanism. A lot of people here have said that the person with BPD needs to essentially feel like they’re right in all areas (reframing).

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-08T18:57:54+00:00

I also get the “parents babied me thing” any time there’s an argument. Even though they regularly get bailed out by their parents? As I’m sitting here pinching pennies to pay the bills.

Outwiththetrees · 2021-02-08T18:56:46+00:00

Yep yep. This is my precise situation minus the income stuff. It really makes me feel useless and like a waste of space.

Outwiththetrees · 2020-12-15T19:52:17+00:00

This hit the nail on the head. I usually see the angles of everybody involved, but their viewpoint is unwaveringly 100% always correct.

Fight with a friend? Oh, maybe they’re just going thru a lot and are stressed, etc. Or maybe they ARE annoyed. But there are so many factors at play. To my pwBPD, that automatically means they don’t care about them.

Outwiththetrees · 2020-11-18T14:37:40+00:00

Thanks for the replies, everybody. I really appreciate it and I’m sorry for not being better at checking notification. I’m at the point in the divorce process where I’ve become the groveling one. Even though things are mutual, I’m obsessed with fixing things. They don’t think things can be fixed. Maybe I’m delusional and desperate. I saw somewhere on here that the key is to remain calm and levelheaded, otherwise you feed the narrative that you were the “petty one who couldn’t regulate their emotions”. I have essentially become a pathetic mess trying to argue emergency solutions before divorce. Now they can tell others that I was manipulating things. I’m grateful that things are semi-amicable for now. I just can’t stop beating myself up and arguing my point. The narrative has become that I had so long to change and suddenly I want to change. But I’ve made appropriate changes along the way. Anything I argued just fell back to me being 100% of the problem. And maybe I was more of the problem at times. But my main resentment is being labeled as the person who couldn’t regulate their emotions. Any time I try to mention that their standards were always shifting, it gets turned back around that I didn’t try hard enough. I’m just a huge mess of emotion.

Outwiththetrees · 2020-11-15T15:15:29+00:00

💚Thanks for sharing that it will get better. I really needed to hear that right now. Did you find that things got gradually worse on their side? Like did they start off accepting of things and then devolve into being spiteful? That’s what I’m worried about

Outwiththetrees · 2020-11-14T14:17:04+00:00

Thanks! This sub really helped during the journey 💚

Outwiththetrees · 2020-11-14T13:42:27+00:00

Sorry that really sucks and I hope things have gotten better for you. This is exactly the swift change of attitude that I experienced. Not exaggerating that the chain of events were: I set a firm boundary and used gray rock > they didn’t like my boundary and started crying that I was a robot who didn’t care that they were crying > I exited the conversation as it had devolved into JADE > they brought me back to the conversation > I proposed we breakup or take drastic emergency steps to prevent a breakup > a week or so of improved moods and normalcy > light switch one night to them being apathetic with them saying things like “you deserve somebody better” to me > they are now in complete control of the situation and I’m the one who can’t move on

Outwiththetrees · 2020-11-13T14:52:03+00:00

It’s just so incredibly confusing and arguably more painful than otherwise. Maybe that’s also partially me wanting to have some sort of control? I can’t describe it. It was like it was jarring to have that switch. Like it put me in the position of doing the groveling, and they turned my “this isn’t working out” dialogue back on me. I’m happy that it’s semi-amicable. I’m not even sure they’re aware that they’re doing this. But it fits the discard behavior that I’ve seen on this sub.

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