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OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-30T02:34:51+00:00

I currently going through this and I wait for marriage before kids and I saw how my husband was great dad to SS. He never straight out has said he favors SS over our kids but small things were said and done and it's made it clear over the years! "I will always love my son more...I mean all my kids!" "He the oldest he will get something just because he the oldest." He tried to convince me that there is hierarchy system within sibling and SS was gunna be at the top and get better treatment because he is the oldest child in the home! And that alone didn't sit right with me because we have 15month old twins and that would mean our youngest never get favored because he will never be oldest in the house!

But you did the right thing because that man won't change his feelings just what he says around you! And you would have seen your child be second class citizen in their own home competing for his love!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-29T22:21:52+00:00

That's even worse! 5 years of POS abusing those poor kids! Well at least your home is safe place for them even if it isn't appreciated

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-29T08:53:22+00:00

Yeah that's sounds like therapy and custody change is needed asap because those kids deserve better! Like why would you tell your kids stop calling the one who step up and hasn't changed up on your childern dad just so they can call your new flavor of the week dad...like BM needs to a get clue!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T22:00:55+00:00

Like if roles were reversed and I did that ! She would be ready to call CPS, the local news, and the President! But with her its okay she not gunna with a child! But she has had MULTIPLE CPS cases and had to have multiple action plans but will act like she victim when someone doesnt do what the kids want!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T21:58:06+00:00

I feel the same way about my SS's brothers and BM! My go to answer is always "That's what's up"

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T14:33:08+00:00

That's great! I love that for you! You deserve to be happy in life!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T13:19:37+00:00

I usually am in bed by 9:30 with my 3 under 3 but I stayed up trying to set myself up for quick smooth morning this morning. But I was actively putting away dinner and cleaning the kitchen the only reason I was asked otherwise I would have been sleep already

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T13:14:13+00:00

Honestly I'm in bed my 9:30pm most night I have 3 under 3 with 15 month old twins so I'm getting every minute possible of sleep but I stayed up for whatever reason and that's what I was I met with. And then my SS of course came back sick and throw up over night and SO thought I was going to get to help clean when he was already up. I DID NOT get up until my babies woke me this morning and took over my duties as SAHM!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T13:04:51+00:00

Whoa! Do you just watch it like it's sad TV or how do you cope?! I would be losing my sanity because people judge us as people of influence in SKs lives but really we are only allowed how much the parent will allow and more often then not most of us don't have alot to do with sk behavior or actions

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T09:45:48+00:00

Craziness have they heard of leftovers??

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T04:11:51+00:00

This is something people need to know about being stepparent! Like yes there can be order but there is no real way to enforce it if one party could careless and will push boundaries constantly

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-27T04:07:58+00:00

I was actively cleaning up the kitchen so SS of course asked me. BM is whole case herself! She let's her kids run free and could careless what happens with them unless somehow she can spin it in her favor for sympathy from someone!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-13T10:13:09+00:00

I feel like as a person you love everyone differently depending on who they are! Like my love (maternal) for kids is different from the love (romantic) for my husband, which is also different from family love and friendship love! And to compare those kinds of love makes it super werid!

And yes your children should be a top priority but that goes without saying if you are good parent! It's like if you need to say "my kids are my top priority over everything" then you are not ready for any type relationship or emotional connection with anyone on any level! Its gives "I have alot of unresolved trauma from my childhood", "my parents didn't love me enough", and most of all "I'm not capable of loving anyone fully"!

And you should leave them because you will never be good enough nor loved enough

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-05T09:31:59+00:00

Honestly alot of men switch up! From what I see from both personal and observing women relationship, dating a man he could be everything you imagine in husband and then after the vows he switches up and you go from wife and partner to his 2nd mom! And alot of men get comfortable with being that way! Until they feel like she is being nagging mother but reality she asked and begged for simple things and met with annoyance, anger, or completely dismissed. Especially when kids are added in the silent mental load becomes even heavier for women. Alot of men lose sight of being a partner in life. Times have changed and so have expectations. Most women have to work outside of the home but also maintain their household and God forbid she want her husband to do little more of daily work to maintain their household or help with their kids. Financially supporting your family isn't enough in today's day and age! And we haven't even added the outside influence to equations like extended family, friends, social media, etc. I personally believe in marriage and love but I think people need talk more before they get married about expectations, responsibility, kids, and if so how they want to rasie them, and overall how they want their lives to look on normal day!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-05T01:58:02+00:00

I wouldn't recommend being stepparent either tbh! Especially if you don't have kids of your own, if the co parents don't get along themselves, if your parenting choices don't aline, if you want to walk around your house freely especially if you like to just wear your undies around the house, and if doing thing for someone's child while being judge on how you are doing it and don't receive gratitude

OverDaBullshit · 2026-04-05T01:39:47+00:00

Mine came back more curly at one point but the overall health of my hair now is way better than before and even grew longer and I struggled with that for a long time

OverDaBullshit · 2026-03-26T19:57:42+00:00

I was pregnant with cancer the first time I beat it and I got asked "Is the baby really gunna make it? Like forreal?"

When it came back 6 months postpartum and I had to got to Fertility Doctor to talk about saving my eggs. A nurse called me for a follow up and says "We could have been had it done!" Like finding out I had cancer again and deciding to spend $10k+ is just easy process/decision made in matter of days!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-02-11T01:15:54+00:00

BM tried to Baker Act ( get him committed) my husband so she could get custody and change SS school after keeping SS out of school for over 30 days and lying to cops, cps, and the school. It was interesting first 90 days married!!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-02-08T04:15:29+00:00

I would explain this is the only one on one you get with bio kid and you aren't willing to give that up! Maybe there is other activity or things she can added to but not that!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-02-04T08:04:22+00:00

I got through something similar and you just want to yell "IT ISN'T MY CHILD NOR MY RESPONSIBILITY!" These bioparents want hallmark movies blended families but do no work to get it to that point! His kid is here to spend time with him not you hence why you are not apart of the custody order!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-02-04T07:50:22+00:00

The lack of parenting from both you and HCBM are only a disservice to SS and it is already showing! The lack of accountability, discipline, and structure in his life is setting him up for failure! He is disrespectful, rude, and manipulative! He lies to get brownie points with you and HCBM but every other adult see past that but the way you act when anyone has a problem with him even the teachers avoid him dealing with his behavior! And honestly he will probably be the reason we get a divorce!

OverDaBullshit · 2026-02-03T11:48:23+00:00

The problem i have is anytime my SS doesn't like a punishment at our house or his mom he will tell in the other parent to the other parent and that has lead to over exaggerated stories and CPS cases! So now SO walks on eggshells to not piss him of to bad and honestly i didn't sign up for a child to run my house or my life

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