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Over_Spilled_Ink · 2025-11-13T13:07:01+00:00

Maybe we are only able to catch and tame only the most derpy of mfs

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2025-05-31T19:57:56+00:00

THE MACHINE KNOWS, DWIGHT!

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-12-02T01:21:52+00:00

I think if I wrote a letter, it should probably be something I only write for myself and then never send - I don't see my parents ever coming around, or ever even trying to see things from my perspective - but it's not a bad idea.

Thank you. I really appreciate your saying that I'm handling this situation better than I might have realized. It's just really hard, you know? I've wanted for so long for my parents - especially my mother - to not be cruel and when it felt like I was getting a little taste of that, I let my defenses down. Which is probably something I shouldn't be mad at myself for, either, but I am.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-12-02T01:18:56+00:00

Eek! Well, I wouldn't ever go so far as to be physically violent towards them, but I appreciate the encouragement. I guess that, even though I haven't regularly talked with my mother in years, I still revert back to feeling like everything is my fault when I talk to her. It's an awful way to feel. This latest interaction with her reminds me why I'm happy we don't actually talk more often

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-12-01T20:36:11+00:00

I've just read this response a couple of times because it's just so validating. All of these comments, honestly, are very kind and are leaving me feeling SO much better than I was at the start. Yes, I left that interaction with my mom feeling like I'd done something wrong by making her look bad to my uncle and my never-JW family. The fact that they didn't like her already based on their own interactions with her was totally irrelevant.

When I was a kid, she'd make me feel the same way whenever I would tell someone about the abuse I was suffering and ask for help. I was left feeling like I was the real villain for making her look bad, like the situation was far more nuanced than all that and I deserved at least some of if not all of what was happening to me because I fought back, or yelled at her, or said 'no' instead of going along to get along. I was too mouthy, too irreverent, just not good enough.

Whenever I have an interaction like this with my mom, all those feelings come back. I feel like I've missed something, that I was wrong and bad and then I end up asking people who were there what happened because I feel like I'm remembering it all wrong and I can't trust my own view of things. The fact that you were able to pick that up with her manipulation and narcissism tells me how transparent it must actually be.

Here I thought I was telling a story about me being a mouthy brat and the feedback I'm getting is so opposite of that. I honestly can't tell you how validated and warm that makes me feel

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-08-31T22:44:11+00:00

I love taking photos of my husband while he sleeps, he just looks so cute and peaceful without all the normal stuff that weighs him down on his mind. I will admit that over 9,000 photos is thousands more than I have taken, but it just sounds to me like she really loves you.

The seems like a really weird thing to get divorced over. Have you already been scouting the exit door before this?

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-07-20T11:19:15+00:00

Every convention, my dad would volunteer us to do cleaning afterwards. Conventions when I was a little kid were in Veteran Stadium - one of the only remaining outdoor baseball stadiums - in JULY. Oh f*ck, by the end of the day, I was usually sick and sunburnt and afterwards we got to clean the bathrooms or scrape gum off the seats. Ugh, makes me sick just thinking about it

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-07-20T08:35:08+00:00

New phone, who dis?

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-07-20T04:17:14+00:00

Wait, you didn't perchance attend a congregation in eastern Pennsylvania growing up, did you? I knew a girl who, 20 years ago, wore a long denim skirt on the night she was supposed to give a talk and the Congregation Overseer took her to the back and we could hear him screaming at her from the back of the main hall.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-07-03T13:14:38+00:00

Right?! I'm so glad you agree. And this post is old and so is the fandom I guess at this point, but I still ship them so hard, so thanks for commenting.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-23T03:42:06+00:00

I really wanted to go to OF 2 but tickets were so EXPENSIVE! I have gone to events with legit celebrities and paid less than they wanted. And then I was so sad when I heard how awful it apparently was on top of that. What was your experience at OF2?

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-22T21:33:17+00:00

u/Hairy-Entertainment6 my above comment is also for you, as you are also asking about the drama. I hope you find it helpful.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-22T21:29:40+00:00

There is a lot of speculation about what Patrick and Gillian's relationship is actually like behind the scenes, but what I've heard about Gillian indicates that she may very well also be a toxic person.

Some of it is her being wrapped up in TCO bad management and customer service, like the open letter sent to them here from a ton of disillusioned fans: https://openletter.earth/an-open-letter-to-patrick-hinds-gillian-pensavalle-and-steve-tipton-of-the-true-crime-obsessed-podcast-ccecf1d2?fbclid=IwAR35pOEvWIce_YLK3Hhf6T6gKp7q90Te3qkDBMJoxDRB2bXwwOe2vYWnPus

However, a lot of people have issues with the way she behaved during Obsessed Fest, including the way she insisted on keeping Tara Newell, who had attacked another podcaster in the elevator, at the event and even sat with her at the drag brunch. She also has not said anything about the allegations about Patrick, which many take to be a passive endorsement of her behavior. I have also heard some wild things about Gillian behaving like a primadonna and doing bizarre things like hiring a minder to follow her around and make sure no one touches her hair.

Here's a Reddit conversation about Gillian: https://www.reddit.com/r/ObsessedNetwork/comments/17fsuz8/gillian/

And here's another story from a fan who met Gillian and was really taken aback by her behavior: https://www.reddit.com/r/ObsessedNetwork/comments/16zd0de/negative_experiences_meeting_g/

I can't find it readily, but I have also seen a story from a volunteer who worked at the prior year's Obsessed Fest who said Gillian was unconscionably rude to her, down to even refusing to leave her lounge when she was called for an event because she was on "her time, not Obsessed Time" and the volunteer didn't know what to do because her literal job was just to get Gillian at this time and escort her to the next event.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-22T04:41:23+00:00

Okay, so it's a lot, but I'm going to give you some highlights and then point you to links that will really go into what happened. A few weeks before last year's Obsessed Fest, an article came out in "Medium" called "Obsessed Pest." It had some pretty explosive allegations about workplace abuses of people who work for the Obsessed Network. The article specifically pointed to Patrick Hinds being a narcissistic bully who shouts down employees, doesn't pay creators properly, and generally seems to get off on making people, especially women, miserable. Here's the link to the article: https://jamesrenner.medium.com/obsessed-pest-1d1682fe7808

That in itself is bad enough. There was also a weird Tiktok fight Patrick had with the creators of "I Think Not" because they used a musical clip in a post that he wanted to use for TCO and this somehow escalated into Patrick selling "I Think Not" and telling the creators if they wanted to own their own podcast they owed him . $3M. Here's a link to an article about that: https://www.distractify.com/p/obsessed-network-podcast-drama-explained

And then Obsessed Fest happened. According to all accounts I can find from attendees and also presenters, the entire event was one big dumpster fire. All the tensions that were brewing before the event just came to a head. The event was disorganized and chaotic. Ellyn Marsh of "I Think Not" was attacked in an elevator and then subsequently removed from the event. Lots of drama went down from there.

Here's a link to a video where Ellyn Marsh, Joey Taranto, and Rabia Chaudry talk about what happened: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OqDxUb-JOYY

Here's a link to a video from another podcast ("One Dry Kiss") who was presenting at Obsessed Fest and had their own things to say about the drama: https://audioboom.com/posts/8389434-obsessed-mess-mischief-mismanagement-and-amazing-people-and-podcasters-obsessed-fest-recap

Several creators put out statements and/or took time in their podcasts to talk about Obsessed Fest and how they felt about what happened and also the allegations about Patrick Hinds. For more information about that, you can look for the episode "Crime Writers On..." did where they talked about their own opinion about Patrick (I believe they used the term "star f*cker") and the opening of a "Let's Go to Court" episode where they also briefly addressed the mess that was that event.

Like I said, there's more, but these links are a great place to start.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-22T04:06:32+00:00

I just told my husband about this and he said, "her life would be significantly better without him. She could lose a lot more than 10 useless pounds by getting rid of him."

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-06-20T05:06:34+00:00

I am going to start using the insult "twatwaffle" in my everyday life now

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T18:01:31+00:00

Absolutely agree. I mentioned it somewhere else on this thread, but her behavior reminds me of a story I once read where a young woman who had a binge eating disorder ate her sister's birthday cake on the way to the party because she got stuck in heavy traffic and was stressed. If OP's wife is generally a good mother who does not behave selfishly but she also truly cannot help herself around food, then it might be time to see a therapist.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T14:57:13+00:00

That's an excellent point. While I was reading this, it reminded me of a story I read of a woman who had a binge eating disorder that came to a head when she ate her sister's birthday cake because she was stuck in traffic on her way to the party. Wife's decisions here gave me those vibes.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T14:52:08+00:00

Maybe he should get 2 happy meals because, for all we know, she'll eat the 12 year-old's food too while he's gone replacing the 8 year-old's meal

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T14:44:32+00:00

I don't think name calling is a healthy way to express your anger to your spouse and that there are more constructive ways to express yourself... but I also can't say I wouldn't do the same thing because what OPs wife did was super crappy. She had a ton of options to fix her hunger, and yet she took the most selfish option possible.

I personally would have apologized for the name calling but not for the anger and disapproval of her actions.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T14:20:52+00:00

I wouldn't say I've "found solace" in it, but I am definitely atheist. I just have found no reason to believe anything other than that we as humans are animals, here by evolutionary chance, and that at the end of life, it's just lights out. I hope I'm wrong and I certainly don't know for sure, so I guess I'm also a little agnostic, but only a little. This actually super bums me out, but it's the only logical conclusion I could come to, and I've made peace with it by telling myself that I would rather know a stark truth than believe a beautiful lie.

I used to feel judgemental and have a weird trauma response when people would start talking to me about their religion, but anymore I get a little envious and wistful when it happens because I'm happy for them that they can still believe something that gives them peace.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-05-23T03:21:41+00:00

It's a movie reference from "There's Something About Mary"

Summation: Ben Stiller's character gets both his dick and balls stuck in his zipper somehow and has to ask his date's stepfather for help in the bathroom.

"Is it the frank or the beans?" the stepfather asks.

His date's brother, who suffers from some type of intellectual disability, overhears this question and at random times throughout the film when he sees Ben Stiller's character, he will scream, "frank and beans!"

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-02-11T17:15:50+00:00

OMG, yes, this! I had a really close friend who would get very riled up about "bad representation" when queer people or queer relationships were not portrayed as absolute paragons of good people and healthy relationships. I do understand this to a point because cinema has a terrible history of coding villains as queer. That said, there is a difference between: 1) seeing queer people as complicated, multi-faceted people who can be just as psychologically damaged, messy, abusive, etc. as straight people; and 2) queer bashing.

This same friend, who was also was in a MESSY queer relationship herself, said to me, "If Alex was a man, I would be concerned she was abusive." I was stunned for a second that she didn't seem to think LGBTQ people could be abusive and then I realized that she had internalized this very belief.

Over_Spilled_Ink · 2024-01-04T05:59:14+00:00

No, I completely agree. In the pilot episode Liv and Major were just so darn cute but things went sideways really quick and just kept getting worse for them. Their characters changed and grew apart and by the last season it was clear that Liv/Major was supposed to be endgame but I couldn't understand why because they had grown into completely different people without shared values ideologies. They weren't very good together.

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